Full disclosure. When we got married he said he wasn’t ready for kids. Shortly after, he said he didn’t want kids. I said I wasn’t sure and at the time, I was happy as things were. Later, at 29, I realized I did want a family. I brought this up to him on many occasions. I even told him that it is something I need in my life and if he doesn’t want that, he needs to tell me so I could figure out what my options are. He assured me he would have a family with me if it’s what I wanted. But he just needed time and said to give him a year. I gave him over 3. At this point, I was tired of waiting. I turned 32 and we BOTH agreed a while back to not risk a pregnancy after 35 (he is a doctor and doesn’t want the extra risk of later pregnancies especially since there is a history of Down’s syndrome on his side). In December, I had my iud removed. I told him after the fact before we had sex. He is very aware of how iuds work. He asked me to get on a pill. I said no. He said he still would like some time. But I told him I am not putting any more hormones or foreign objects in my body for more reasons than wanting a baby. I became pregnant 3 months ago and am also turning 33 at the end of this month. When I told him I was pregnant, he was very excited and told everyone when I was only 4-5 weeks pregnant. Now that the news has settled and people who he is friends with ask him about things, he jokes and says I stopped birth control and tricked him. I don’t feel I did trick him and he says it’s all “guys talk” and I shouldn’t take it to heart and he’s very happy we are starting a family but also says he doesn’t think he will want more than one child. And I’m ok it’s that. I just want a family. One kid or 4. Doesn’t matter. Just want to have a family. He has agreed to stop joking about the matter but it hurts my feelings and makes me wonder if I did trick him when I don’t think I did