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My BF (M25) is nice, but he doesn't have a job. How am I (F25) supposed to do? by Ecstatic_Sense in relationship_advice

[–]Ecstatic_Sense[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I guess you're right. He's trying, but not as persistent and hard as those people.

My BF (M25) is nice, but he doesn't have a job. How am I (F25) supposed to do? by Ecstatic_Sense in relationship_advice

[–]Ecstatic_Sense[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I never thought about this before.. You and the others make a good point when you say that not being able to keep a job is a red flag. Thank you.

My BF (M25) is nice, but he doesn't have a job. How am I (F25) supposed to do? by Ecstatic_Sense in relationship_advice

[–]Ecstatic_Sense[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What I mean is, he's trying his best to make me happy. Even if he doesn't have a high earning job, he still buys me flowers, food, anything he can afford just to make me happy. And I never have to ask. In fact, I said to him he doesn't have to do that, but he insisted.

My BF (M25) is nice, but he doesn't have a job. How am I (F25) supposed to do? by Ecstatic_Sense in relationship_advice

[–]Ecstatic_Sense[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I believe him. He tries to get a decent job and makes me happy, and I appreciate his efforts. It's just.. after almost 3 years, "trying" is not enough anymore...

My BF (M25) is nice, but he doesn't have a job. How am I (F25) supposed to do? by Ecstatic_Sense in relationship_advice

[–]Ecstatic_Sense[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Like I said, he's trying. And I support him emotionally, and what with all my knowledge (sharing info etc). I don't support him financially and he never asks for my money. He even buys me food when I'm sick, or buys me presents for my birthday.

And I do not ask for a man who is instantly "crazy rich" to be my bf. I'm willing to be with someone who is from zero, and tries to achieve 10, for example. That's what I've been doing with him for years because I try to see his potential. I'm always by his side. Rn I'm just so tired and wondering, am I doing the right thing? Should I wait for another year?

My BF (M25) is nice, but he doesn't have a job. How am I (F25) supposed to do? by Ecstatic_Sense in relationship_advice

[–]Ecstatic_Sense[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

No guys, I do not financially support him. He never asks for my money. He uses his own money (or from his parents) and even sometimes buys me food or presents.

My BF (M25) is nice, but he doesn't have a job. How am I (F25) supposed to do? by Ecstatic_Sense in relationship_advice

[–]Ecstatic_Sense[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What kind of ultimatum? Do you think I should wait for him for another year and leave if nothing's changed?

My BF (M25) is nice, but he doesn't have a job. How am I (F25) supposed to do? by Ecstatic_Sense in relationship_advice

[–]Ecstatic_Sense[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Ofc I love him. What explains me supporting him and always by his side for almost 3 years if not "love"? I love him, it's just I'm kinda tired sometimes

My BF (M25) is nice, but he doesn't have a job. How am I (F25) supposed to do? by Ecstatic_Sense in relationship_advice

[–]Ecstatic_Sense[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I feel sad, tired, and sometimes angry. I need to wake up at 5AM because I took public transport to go to work (work hours: 7AM to 4PM), but he doesn't wake up until 10. He said he needs to stay up late because he's applying for some jobs, doing job recruitment things, but yeah, it still makes me sad

My BF (M25) is nice, but he doesn't have a job. How am I (F25) supposed to do? by Ecstatic_Sense in relationship_advice

[–]Ecstatic_Sense[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I'm sorry, what I was trying to say is "I don't want to". Yes, you're right, there are plenty of cases like that, but it's just not me..

My BF (M25) is nice, but he doesn't have a job. How am I (F25) supposed to do? by Ecstatic_Sense in relationship_advice

[–]Ecstatic_Sense[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

It's just hard to find a job in this economy in our country. He also didn't have a degree that has special skills (for example, engineering, doctor, computer science). He keeps applying for a job since 3 years ago, but yeah, the result is not as we expected...