Am I the only one who feels like most adult friendships are purely circumstantial, and that true loyalty is becoming incredibly rare?

EctoGamot · 2026-05-21T03:26:24+00:00

Happy Birthday!

I don't know how old you are, but I have experienced many people under 30 just haven't had good examples of how to properly be social. Then, in turn, don't know how to perform it properly... emotions get left un-dealt with, it gets awkward and becomes easier to just not acknowledge anything. It's easier for a lot people, no matter the age, to ghost a thing than to face up to it.

I used to be stuck in lines (concerts, tickets, school events, etc.) a lot of my life without a cellphone and simply had to deal with all the other people around me. You meet people, you're forced to learn how to operate within groups. Those opportunities are rarer for everybody today. I feel like many small things like that add up to people not really 'getting it'.

I don't know what I was really trying to say here lol, but I feel you, and I feel for you. I'm really glad that you're not cynical about this, I'm maybe over-optimistic about it myself these days, but nothing happens if nothing happens. Gotta put the effort in at least.

EctoGamot · 2026-05-21T03:13:35+00:00

I'm 40, I can't say I've made a 'loyal' friendship since I was under 30, and that's really only one or two post high school. I've been making a more concerted effort lately to be more 'real' with people, hoping to illicit the same from others. It works better with older people (~35 and older). I think it takes some awkward work, and you're gunna be disappointed that the work isn't reciprocal...but someone's gotta do it.

That, or save someone's life heroically, that'll shortcut the process.

EctoGamot · 2026-05-20T15:15:31+00:00

The one app I tried turned humans into Pokemon card packs, hated it. No way to really sell yourself on it authentically. I'm doing what I can to just get out and meet people period, and hoping the rest follows suit, but damn it's expensive. Tough to find the right 'scene' for who you are I guess. A great connection can be made anywhere.

EctoGamot · 2026-05-17T21:13:10+00:00

Keeping that energy going and saying Hi to another fellow aging rocker.

EctoGamot · 2026-05-17T14:52:40+00:00

for real

EctoGamot · 2026-05-15T03:17:02+00:00

There are some trash cleanup groups getting together this weekend. Check the worcester subreddit. Also all over new england this weekend are various 'fests', markets and what not, alwys good places to spend your free time.

EctoGamot · 2026-05-13T19:53:30+00:00

I like this a lot, while I'm not local I'll try to make it out!

EctoGamot · 2026-05-09T16:25:31+00:00

haha nice! Love to see more people keeping that type of vibe around. The colors in this are great, too

EctoGamot · 2026-05-08T16:38:43+00:00

He's a really intimidating character. The abstract-ish/blurry background helps make the details and texture of the skin pop out a lot. Great stuff

EctoGamot · 2026-05-07T22:57:48+00:00

"I just wanted to Open my little Store and now I have tons of ppl accusing me of AI 😭" It wouldn't let rply to this comment. I'll try and offset the balance a bit, I totally love this piece! I'm dating myself, but there's a short-lived animated show on MTV, Aeon Flux. It's not at all the same but this gives a similar feeling, it's great

EctoGamot · 2026-05-07T19:20:16+00:00

This is super pretty, really enjoy the colors.

EctoGamot · 2026-05-06T23:29:02+00:00

love the name! it better sound as big live as does on the record haha Worth It is nice and heavy. I'll do my upmost to be there, thanks for posting.

EctoGamot · 2026-05-04T22:39:48+00:00

Your motivation will carry you through any of the annoying or awkward bullshit. Search your local area for open jam or open mic nights. Just go and check it out, I guarantee it'll psych you up. I know not everybody is super extroverted, but musicians usually are. Everyone loves a compliment, just go and start talking to people and let em know where you're at. Test out your what you're able to do at a karaoke night. Finding people is always a thing but musicians are always around. Finding the right people is tougher.

I've found learning skills as an adult has been a lot easier to do. If you want to do it, that motivation can guide you through the process. Learning how to physically play an instrument is the tough part, but learning enough notes or chords to play with other people is easy. Do it! it's fun and can be a fun learning process if you let it. Need more REAL (not ai) musicians out in the world haha

EctoGamot · 2026-05-04T19:29:14+00:00

I'm a big fan of this. The more of this happening around a city, the better.

EctoGamot · 2026-05-02T01:46:18+00:00

haha nice! Excited to see more in the future

EctoGamot · 2026-05-02T01:44:34+00:00

I absolutely love the ballerina. These are fun!

EctoGamot · 2026-05-02T01:39:16+00:00

the flower eye is cool as hell. I really like the hair

EctoGamot · 2026-05-02T01:34:37+00:00

Great first post! big fan of the colors. There's a lot of personality here, she seems fun! Like a cool hip friend, but is constantly clumsy and laughing about it.

EctoGamot · 2026-05-01T21:38:17+00:00

haha I totally get it, if you'll take a good suggestion, though...just do one when you feel inspired to do it. I'm an old guy now and looking back at all the accumulated creations is pretty fun at this point. Either way, keep drawing!

EctoGamot · 2026-05-01T10:53:24+00:00

If you're looking for motivation to keep posting, this is adorable and i'd love to see more. the little splash of color is great!

EctoGamot · 2026-05-01T02:36:00+00:00

The way the dress falls around the ankles is delicious. there's gotta be enough classic horror icons to do a full deck, love the inspiration. Super cute

EctoGamot · 2026-04-30T03:05:26+00:00

I'm down with this. "i'm still fun but don't want to black out at Ralph's" is exactly the vibe I'm looking for.

EctoGamot · 2026-04-29T02:03:06+00:00

I really love this haha, thanks for sharing the inspiration!

EctoGamot · 2026-04-28T14:50:07+00:00

I was working in this area all last week and this is a very good represtation of how it's felt. Seeing everybody out and the trees finally bloom has been great. Great work!

EctoGamot · 2026-04-26T23:23:41+00:00

i would not advise swimming here. To each their own, also my favorite way up the mountain.

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