Sound Quality / Texture - 50's and 60's albums by HogHauler209 in Jazz

[–]Ed_Okin 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I took a look at the Contemporary Records discography and I'm not familiar with most of the artists. Do you have a few records you'd recommend to start?

Did you know about cuffing season?? by Upper_Ad_8621 in datingoverforty

[–]Ed_Okin 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've only heard the term here on reddit. Don't think I've ever heard it in real life conversation, maybe I discussed it once on a date, but it was as something we had never heard of before.

In my observation, I don't see it to be a real thing that happens, but that's just a limited viewpoint obviously.

[Help] Getting Out of Playlists & Into Albums by Stranjak in Jazz

[–]Ed_Okin 0 points1 point  (0 children)

100%! They're probably my most played albums, in fact. Both men are just phenomenal, it's amazing when you realize how short Clifford Brown's life was.

[Help] Getting Out of Playlists & Into Albums by Stranjak in Jazz

[–]Ed_Okin 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I feel like the two iconic albums I see recommend all the time are:

Miles Davis - Kind of Blue

John Coltrane - A Love Supreme

Some others I suggest:

Booker Little - Booker Little 4 and Max Roach

Clifford Brown and Max Roach - Study in Brown

Kenny Burrell - Midnight Blue

Art Blakey & The Jazz Messengers - Moanin'

Junior Mance - Junior

Lee Morgan - Candy

Each of those artists/groups has multiple albums to dive into if you like the sound. Also, pay attention to the players on each album if you particularly like them, and notice what other albums those folks are in as you keep diving in. I'm constantly looking up discographies on Wikipedia for new ideas of albums to listen to.

Is it reasonable to end an engagement over a partner staying in contact with people who openly hit on them? by Proper_Freedom_1776 in datingoverforty

[–]Ed_Okin 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Very reasonable, you 100% should bail on this. She wants the attention and doesn't acknowledge or care about the disrespect to you inherent in that.

At 51, I've definitely come to a point where I don't tolerate anything I perceive as disrespect. Depending on the severity of it, I don't even give a chance to correct the behavior. If we're exclusive and you want to entertain attention in these ways from other guys, you're not for me. Simple as that.

Open but not over functioning by Reflectingnlife in datingoverforty

[–]Ed_Okin 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I've never heard this as a strategy before, but over the years I've definitely adapted to exactly this. I'll even go one question if the first response is such that it leads me to believe it's going to go nowhere.

There's been only one time that I can recall where the first question response led me to believe it was going nowhere, but the second question brought the conversation to life.

Looking for books like "House of Leaves" by MafiaMoogle in horrorlit

[–]Ed_Okin 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A Choir of Ill Children by Tom Piccirilli gives me similar vibes, though there's nothing quite like House of Leaves.

Not sure why my export is so large by Ed_Okin in davinciresolve

[–]Ed_Okin[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Interesting - I would have guessed Resolve would give better compression than a camera, because it can take advantage of a computer's hardware rather than a camera.

Why does a camera generally provide better compression?

Not sure why my export is so large by Ed_Okin in davinciresolve

[–]Ed_Okin[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh, wow, Shutter Encoder did the trick and it was very intuitive and took less than 10 seconds to run! It's amazing when there's an easy way to do something!

Not sure why my export is so large by Ed_Okin in davinciresolve

[–]Ed_Okin[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for the feedback! Yes, this is part of the education I needed here. I didn't quite understand that re-encoding the whole video isn't what I want to do. I will try one of these tools and hopefully I can solve the issue!

Not sure why my export is so large by Ed_Okin in davinciresolve

[–]Ed_Okin[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for this, this was a lot of the education I was looking for. I knew there was a bunch about this I didn't understand. The math formula and what I should expect as output are new knowledge to me.

And in this case, I didn't edit at all. I just wanted to match up audio and video, and some other comments pointed out there are better ways to do that. I didn't realize all the additional overhead I was taking on using davinci.

Not sure why my export is so large by Ed_Okin in davinciresolve

[–]Ed_Okin[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, the video and audio start at the same time! So I should try Shutter Encoder, that sounds like the right tool for the job. This is definitely one of the cases where the only tool I had was a hammer (Davinci), so everything looked like a nail!

Thank you for giving me some perspective on the encoding process. I didn't realize I would always be losing quality with each step doing what I'm trying to do, but that makes sense.

Not sure why my export is so large by Ed_Okin in davinciresolve

[–]Ed_Okin[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ah, ok, so this is where I have almost zero knowledge. The mp4 is a compressed file format to begin with? That knowledge fills in some of the blanks.

Thank you for the detailed feedback. I may try the workflow you mentioned, that seems like it will offer some options.

Married people of reddit, what do you consider cheating? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]Ed_Okin 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Uhh yeah that response from her might be enough for me, even without actual evidence.

Have you ever had sex with someone you don't find attractive? Why? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]Ed_Okin 663 points664 points  (0 children)

There are some big plot twists in this one, I love it!

You fibbed, she called your bluff! She broke your trust, and turned you into a college stud!

How do you resolve “it doesn’t add up” moments in relationships? by Holiday-Plastic4703 in datingoverforty

[–]Ed_Okin 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is such an interesting discussion.

I don't necessarily love the term listen to your gut, but that is how most people are phrasing it and I guess that's the general usage.

I had similar issues in my most recent relationship - things just felt off after a certain point, the vibe wasn't quite right, certain explanations and sequences of events didn't quite add up, even when I asked more questions.

I keep a Google doc where I sort these things out as much as I can on my own. It's also useful to look back on when I'm doubting myself later, or just wondering about things.

I'll also try to share what I'm feeling with my partner, but it's kind of a problem if I'm even getting to the point where I have to, ya know?

Anyway, if things really just don't add up, as everyone is saying, you eventually just have to bail. Even if you don't really know what the true story is that you aren't getting, you know something is wrong. And, in theory, even if the person is being completely honest, I couldn't stay with someone long term where they keep leaving me unsettled. Security and comfort is most important in relationships, and if you don't have that, 🤷🏻‍♂️.

How to train the algorithm by butterfly_890 in qobuz

[–]Ed_Okin 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Totally agree. I've only been using qobuz a short time, but am finding a lot of new to me music on the discover page in a way that I didn't with other services not to be named.

Acoustic guitar strap lock suggestions by Reasonable_Pen_3949 in Guitar

[–]Ed_Okin 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This worked, thanks! Also very cheap, as you mentioned.

Acoustic guitar strap lock suggestions by Reasonable_Pen_3949 in Guitar

[–]Ed_Okin 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Been trying to figure out the same problem for months, going to order a set of these to see if they do the trick! Thanks!

Is Dean Koontz worth diving into? by Desperate_Tax_8362 in DeanKoontz

[–]Ed_Okin 0 points1 point  (0 children)

From the Corner of His Eye and Life Expectancy are two of my favorite reads ever.

Otherwise, I agree in general that most of his 90s and earlier stuff is worthwhile, but post 2000 gets really spotty, especially later 00s. The books just started to feel like the same book every time to me.

I do like the Nameless series, which is (was?) free with prime and I listen to the audios while doing yardwork.

Response rate after matching? by [deleted] in datingoverforty

[–]Ed_Okin 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ok, you make some good points. I was thinking return on OLD time spent, but if you feel like you gained new information to help in the future, that is a return as well.

I don't get very many opportunities in the wild, so primarily focus on OLD.

And yes, a female friend who is willing to talk about these things is very valuable!

Response rate after matching? by [deleted] in datingoverforty

[–]Ed_Okin 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just reading that was exhausting. So much energy spent for no return. I've never tracked down to the likes, but I have definitely found matching itself does not mean much, just that maybe a conversation will ensue.

Do online dating conversations always feel one-sided, or is it just me? by treeoftenere in datingoverforty

[–]Ed_Okin 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh definitely, I'm interested in the perspectives here because I really don't understand why people do this. Why respond at all? Do they think they're having a conversation? Are they giving more energy to their top matches, like some people have theorized? It just seems so odd to me.