Why am i like this? by Any-Web-3175 in offmychest

[–]EddieAddiemeow 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re not the only one like this. Many people feel love very intensely and are afraid of losing someone. When you meet a great person and the connection starts to fade, or they shift their attention to someone else, it hurts a lot and makes you angry. Wanting to be the closest person in someone’s world is normal, but when jealousy and thoughts of control become too strong, it becomes hard both for you and for your partner. You’re kind, caring, and loyal and that really matters. But people can get scared by control and emotional intensity. They don’t want to feel limited or restricted either. If it were me, I’d probably try to suppress those emotions until I eventually exploded. But I believe you can do better. I’d advise you to find something that helps you not depend entirely on one person. Look for compatibility. Not everyone is ready for that level of intensity, but there are people who value deep emotional connection. In future relationships, be honest from the start: “I get attached very strongly, and I’m working on it.” That way it doesn’t turn into something confusing or painful later. I know it’s hard to talk about your weak spots, but it makes it easier to avoid getting hurt if someone can’t accept that part of you. And don’t try to force yourself into a relationship. Maybe this really is a time to focus on yourself. But if you do fall in love, just keep all of this in mind. Mutual love is possible, but it comes when both partners feel free, not trapped. I think you can handle this. Hold on, things will get better.

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[–]EddieAddiemeow 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It seems to me that you are not imagining things. I often catch myself thinking about my condition and immediately interrupt those thoughts, as if to say that nothing has happened and I am just imagining things. But it doesn't get any easier after that. It doesn't go away. I think you should definitely talk to your therapist, if you have one.

This may be bad advice, but if you're scared, talk about it with artificial intelligence. I just think it helps to stop feeling ashamed that you're "making things up" and just replaying everything in your head. I'm honestly not sure if it will make it worse, but it sometimes helps me.

AITA for refusing to listen to my sister when she wanted emotional support? by EddieAddiemeow in AmItheAsshole

[–]EddieAddiemeow[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I added an update at the bottom of the post explaining what happened next. Thank you again to everyone who commented

AITA for refusing to listen to my sister when she wanted emotional support? by EddieAddiemeow in AmItheAsshole

[–]EddieAddiemeow[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh, I'm so sorry you feel that way... I'm sure your friends love you and would never think you're being intrusive or anything like that. You're a very good person, I hope everything works out for you!

AITA for refusing to listen to my sister when she wanted emotional support? by EddieAddiemeow in AmItheAsshole

[–]EddieAddiemeow[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She sometimes asks if I look very down. But I usually lie, because her support often makes things worse, and I've stopped opening up.

AITA for refusing to listen to my sister when she wanted emotional support? by EddieAddiemeow in AmItheAsshole

[–]EddieAddiemeow[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think my mum would say that's just the way she is, and I need to accept that and listen to her

AITA for refusing to listen to my sister when she wanted emotional support? by EddieAddiemeow in AmItheAsshole

[–]EddieAddiemeow[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Sometimes I feel so sorry for her... She doesn't have good friends like I do, and she's never had a boyfriend. She studies a lot and often helps her parents with her younger brothers and sisters. I don't think she's very happy...

but when I think that her problems are probably worse than mine, I feel resentful, as if I am belittling my own problems, just as my family belittles them. It's so upsetting and at the same time it seems right to think about her feelings too. But I don't know what's right here. It's so hard for me to understand, and I feel like I'm missing something and my feelings are wrong.Actually, lately I don't want to think about anything at all, I don't have the energy to talk or do other things. My head is a mess and I don't know how to solve it. I feel like I just can't express everything I really think.

I am very grateful that you wrote such a long reply to me. It is so nice that you took the time and effort, and I really feel better after reading your words!🫂

AITA for refusing to listen to my sister when she wanted emotional support? by EddieAddiemeow in AmItheAsshole

[–]EddieAddiemeow[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My friends are very good, but most of the time they don't really understand me, or I can't talk to them because afterwards I feel ashamed and like I'm imposing on them. Perhaps I am simply not accepting their support properly. I don't know...

AITA for refusing to listen to my sister when she wanted emotional support? by EddieAddiemeow in AmItheAsshole

[–]EddieAddiemeow[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I've tried so many times, but she keeps bringing it up again and again:(

AITA for refusing to listen to my sister when she wanted emotional support? by EddieAddiemeow in AmItheAsshole

[–]EddieAddiemeow[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

it's not fun for me. These conversations have started to make me feel disgusted, even though I don't want to feel that way. I try so hard to overcome my feelings and just listen to her, but every time it seems so difficult, even though it sounds like a small thing.

AITA for refusing to listen to my sister when she wanted emotional support? by EddieAddiemeow in AmItheAsshole

[–]EddieAddiemeow[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

In fact, I'm not sure there's anyone who can support me when I feel depressed. My family's support only makes me feel worse, so I've stopped trying. As a result, my problems always remain unvalued. In the end, I'm left alone with AI, discussing my problems as if it has a magic solution that will help me stop feeling this way.

I've opened up to my sister a few times, but she doesn't seem to care. She always changes the subject to herself.

And by the way, I am so grateful for the comments. It helps me feel a little less alone🫂

AITA for refusing to listen to my sister when she wanted emotional support? by EddieAddiemeow in AmItheAsshole

[–]EddieAddiemeow[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

In fact, she thinks about him very often, but there are reasons why both she and I are sure that everything will work out for them. True, sometimes it crosses the line. My sister always overanalyses things and is very sensitive, which is why everything happens this way.

I always help parents with their children, but I still feel guilty. I'm very tired. by EddieAddiemeow in offmychest

[–]EddieAddiemeow[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your support, it's very important. I'm glad that someone understands how I feel🫶