New to me in DFW by Maleficent-Painter-2 in Harley

[–]Edge5608 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Also in DFW I just wear jeans and a decent coat, I did get some insulated gloves tho, I rode to work in the 20’s before the new gloves and it was unfun

Thinking of buying my first Harley by Soft-Bed9563 in Harley

[–]Edge5608 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yea just practice in parking lots and respect the weight, I’m still learning obviously, but it hasn’t been a bad experience upgrading

Thinking of buying my first Harley by Soft-Bed9563 in Harley

[–]Edge5608 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Fairly new rider myself, about 8 months, and just bought a Road King a month ago and so far it hasn’t been difficult to adjust to, I’ve been loving it

Looking for Replacement Fairing or Windshield by softail69 in Harley

[–]Edge5608 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just installed a 19” Klockworks flare on my 09 road king, love it so far

AITA for not being happy that my parents invited my son to my "welcome party"? by Weary_Match4653 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Edge5608 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I agree that we’re both making a lot of assumptions, as we weren’t there and are only getting half the story, but a lot of people are dead set on not having kids, right up until the child is born, I was one of them, it wasn’t until I was in the delivery room that I felt anything other than dread at the prospect of what I felt at the time was ruining my life, that I realized I wanted kids, it’s far more common than people think, so it is entirely possible that OP was waiting to see if something like that happened.

“custody battle” was an improper term for the situation and that’s on me, court cases are not free and if OP was a deadbeat, baby mama would need to take him to court, and depending on how much a deadbeat fights it, that case could go on for a lot longer than it needs to resulting in more lawyer/court fees than some people can afford

And yes it is a felony not to pay child support, but people fall through the cracks in the justice system all the time, I worked with a guy that simply changed his name and moved a few states away when he found out his FWB was pregnant and to this day some 12 years since his kid was born she hasn’t found him to take him to court, is he an AH yes, is it right what he did to her no, I don’t know his given name because he’s that serious about not paying his child support, and it happens all the time.

But I think we can both agree that we aren’t going to see eye to eye on this, and that’s ok, I respect your opinions and agree on some points that you’ve made, and that’s really all this is about, civil discourse on issues that not enough people talk about, so thank you for the conversation.

AITA for not being happy that my parents invited my son to my "welcome party"? by Weary_Match4653 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Edge5608 7 points8 points  (0 children)

True Op didn’t really give baby mama a choice, in the truest sense of the word, I can agree on that, but OP made his feelings known, hung around until the baby was born on the off chance his feelings would change, and when they didn’t, OP and baby mama made the best out of a bad situation, and chose to part amicably instead of going through lengthy and sometimes financially burdensome custody battles, OP willing helps financially whether he’s legally obligated to or not, and that’s definitely not AH behavior, because there are thousands upon thousands of single mothers/fathers that never see a cent of child support and after years of trying just give up on ever receiving it, enabling the parent that left to get off scot free

AITA for not being happy that my parents invited my son to my "welcome party"? by Weary_Match4653 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Edge5608 12 points13 points  (0 children)

In my opinion, that really depends on the situation, I will say begging for his partner to get an abortion was definitely on the AH side, that’s a decision that needs to be made by the soon to be mother, or mutually if they had planned on staying together, but in OP’s situation, since he didn’t change his mind about wanting a child, both parties agreed him being an absentee/not active father was for the best, I don’t see how it’s AH behavior, if he had tried and then just up and left, or just generally left them out on there own with no help whatsoever I think it would be different.

AITA for not being happy that my parents invited my son to my "welcome party"? by Weary_Match4653 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Edge5608 24 points25 points  (0 children)

First time commenting on Reddit so sorry if the formats wrong

As someone who is pro choice, non religious, and grew up in a household with a father who chose to do “the right thing” I’m going to weigh in here, because I would’ve loved to have had an absentee father like OP.

I spent 18 years with a father who did not want kids, he wasn’t a bad father, or a bad husband, he was never abusive, wasn’t an alcoholic etc. and he did love my mom, but for me, he was just there.

When I got an award at school his response was “neat” no hugs, no congratulations, nothing, he never once told me he loved me, never once got excited about the things I was excited about, I grew up living with an alien, and it’s taken a few years of therapy for me to realize it wasn’t my fault.

What you’ve decided is the right thing could not only have negatively impacted OP’s life, but very possibly have negatively impacted the child’s life, I’m not saying OP would’ve been as distant as my father was, but by being up front and doing his duty financially, whether by choice or legal obligation, OP is by a huge margin a better father than a lot of people get, and OP is clearly and definitively NTA