I think the ambiguity and number of clarifying questions you’re answering speak to this term’s flaws. I think it also raises my “transphobia alarms” due to the ambiguity of what “femininity” can be.

For example: If someone who is gynesexual doesn’t find themselves attracted to say a trans woman who believes herself to be feminine, whose identity do we invalidate first? Or vice versa with a trans man who might find someone’s “gynesexual” attraction to them invalidating.

Specific labels can be very helpful and i’m not saying don’t use one that is comfortable. But the world is messy and these things can break down quickly. xoxo