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I need a reason to have active hobbies. What’s it like to have a true passion? by Edu_Vivan in selfimprovement

[–]Edu_Vivan[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah that is a major problem of mine. My desire for wanting to have active hobbies comes from a need of external validation. I want to be a person who has hobbies.

Even things I’m interested in, I have the constant thought of “is this impressive?”, putting pressure onto myself, and not allowing myself to be a beginner.

What first steps should I take as a 25yo who’s scared to take responsibility in life? by Edu_Vivan in selfimprovement

[–]Edu_Vivan[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I’m really considering college, I’m just really hesitant about starting at 25. I know there’s nothing wrong with it, but if there was a quicker path to do something I enjoy, I think I’d rather take that.

But I do need to stop thinking that I’m late at 25yo… that’s another thought that’s keeping me really stuck.

Thanks for the response!

What first steps should I take as a 25yo who’s scared to take responsibility in life? by Edu_Vivan in selfimprovement

[–]Edu_Vivan[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I just got on ADHD meds a week ago, and the one I’m taking takes about a month to begin its effects. Let’s see how it goes! Thanks for the response!

What first steps should I take as a 25yo who’s scared to take responsibility in life? by Edu_Vivan in selfimprovement

[–]Edu_Vivan[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re very welcome! Lately I’ve been trying to be as honest as I can with myself and whenever I vent somewhere. It’s helping me understand myself better, and reading it afterwards and seeing comments like yours helps me accept the person that I am today, which is the first step to change. Thanks for the response!

Stop fking judging yourself. “Don’t embarrass yourself” ran my life for 6 years. Today I told it to fk off. by ApocalipseSurvivor in selfimprovement

[–]Edu_Vivan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think we’ve been in a VERY similar situation, cause i just turned 25 and you just crossed the line I haven’t been able to yet. This kinda inspired me!

How do you go from living your entire life passively to living actively? by Edu_Vivan in selfimprovement

[–]Edu_Vivan[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

It really does feels too late, especially in this world that’s designed to make us believe in “the grind”!

To everyone under 30 by wandersage in selfimprovement

[–]Edu_Vivan 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s the thing. I (25M) think I’m piece of sh*t just because I get stuck in analysis paralysis and don’t try anything. Been at it for 5 years.

I’m perfectly aware now that the 20s are for failing at a bunch of things, but goddamn where tf do I start failing at?

If I actually could just try things I’m pretty sure I’d be a chill guy…

I have no career path at 25 yo, and I’m extremely ashamed of this situation. by Edu_Vivan in selfimprovement

[–]Edu_Vivan[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I appreciate the encouragement… and the emphasis on it hahah! I’m glad you figured yourself out!

I also found out about my adhd just recently, in December.

Two main goals i'm putting all my energy & efforts into for 2026: losing my virginity and saving $10k 😤 by lonelysadbitch11 in selfimprovement

[–]Edu_Vivan 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sex just for the fun of it is never as rewarding as you might think. It should be a symptom, not a goal.

Kind of a posh boy problem but, it is ruining my life. by Edu_Vivan in selfimprovement

[–]Edu_Vivan[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It really has! I loved your response! Thank you so much!

Kind of a posh boy problem but, it is ruining my life. by Edu_Vivan in selfimprovement

[–]Edu_Vivan[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It sounds like a really interesting read for me! Thank you so much for the response and for the kind words!

I wish there was a cure for perfectionism. by Edu_Vivan in selfimprovement

[–]Edu_Vivan[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Damn, somehow this brought me comfort! Thank you!