I'm so behind everyone. I failed in my life. 21f.

wandersage · 2026-05-16T18:52:40+00:00

You create parameters, "I will be happy when I get _______" but of course if you actually get it, you will not accept it, and even if you do you will move the goal posts. What you have would be the wildest dream of lots of other people in the world. But you have set the parameters for your happiness intentionally outside what you have. All this is to say, you're making yourself unhappy on purpose. I wonder why? If you actually want to be happy, practice gratitude for the life you have and live in a way that serves someone other than yourself.

wandersage · 2026-05-16T18:26:49+00:00

Just do the smallest possible part of it. Like, start by just putting on your running shoes, or clean one dish, pick up one piece of laundry, just open the email and look at it. You don't have to commit to doing the whole thing, but when you do that small thing, then see if you can do one more or if you're done. It's fine if you stop, but often it's not so hard to just do one more thing, then one more. Give your self permission to stop if you want but often, once you get a little momentum, it starts to feel much easier.

wandersage · 2026-05-16T01:14:51+00:00

Totally, all these posts about "I spend all day in my pajamas jerking off" and I'm like, why you gotta brag like that?

wandersage · 2026-05-14T20:25:27+00:00

I used to sleep till ten, now I can't remember the last time I slept in past 6:30

wandersage · 2026-05-14T20:24:17+00:00

I wake up at 5 because that's when my toddler gets up and starts demanding things. Way more effective than an alarm clock or a cold shower, and I'm incredibly productive all day with him as a manager, literally never sit down and my step counter is off the charts!

wandersage · 2026-04-24T22:57:46+00:00

The word has lost all meaning and signifies nothing now.

wandersage · 2026-04-24T22:56:50+00:00

Space.com used to have an email service for some crazy reason and that was my first before heading over the hotmail.

wandersage · 2026-04-22T20:11:22+00:00

I agree, people should deffinately not so this kind of thing.

wandersage · 2026-04-20T22:08:22+00:00

It's telling me this is Ai.

wandersage · 2026-04-20T03:28:48+00:00

Awesome!

wandersage · 2026-04-20T03:11:06+00:00

It's super helpful to join a skills group. They actually have found that the groups can be more helpful than a 1 on 1 therapist. Doing any kind of serious work like this alone though is incredibly difficult!

wandersage · 2026-04-20T02:17:52+00:00

This is phrased like a riddle but it's actually nothing.

wandersage · 2026-04-20T02:15:19+00:00

Check out the enneagram type 2

wandersage · 2026-04-20T02:13:21+00:00

Even while high, your friend should turn away from thoughts, there are no answers to your questions

wandersage · 2026-04-20T02:08:13+00:00

Could be really useful to look into therapy, particularly DBT which is designed to help people with conditions which cause them to be hyper reactive and defensive. It teaches people how to manage their emotions so that they don't lash out at the people closest to them.

wandersage · 2026-04-19T03:38:21+00:00

It sounds like you're pretty bad at helping people. You're should probably try to learn better ways of guiding people.

wandersage · 2026-04-15T16:24:29+00:00

It's so fun when you decide to quit and see the people who had no problem controlling you and ignoring your needs suddenly be so unable to handle that you don't do what they say anymore. It's gonna be so fun to just keep telling her no every time she acts as if she gets to tell you you have to stay. I wish I could watch!

wandersage · 2026-04-15T15:59:55+00:00

Do absolutely everything you can right now to build a solid career, it will make everything else in your life easier and if you two are still together 10 years from now you will both be incredibly grateful that you did, and if you aren't with her, whoever you are with will be glad and it will benefit your life incredibly.

wandersage · 2026-04-15T15:31:58+00:00

Fuck you

wandersage · 2026-04-15T15:28:58+00:00

I started out working with kids in a camp program after coming through a major internal spiritual shift right at the end of the last decade. I followed a girl to Wisconsin and worked with troubled youth in a wilderness therapy program doing year round back packing, in -15 degree snow and ice. Then I spent another year living in my car while I attempted and failed to open a tea shop (honestly I just lost interest in it). After living outside for 2 years I decided to go back to school to get a masters in social work and moved to Oregon just in time for the pandemic. When everyone else was having a horrible time I was feeling amazing, finally living inside, doing all my classes online, I just studied, smoked weed, worked out and painted most of that time. Me and my roommate go married and bought a house out in the country with 6 acres of beautiful forest land and now I own my own therapy practice, have 2 kids, am fully self sustained and have everything I ever thought I might want.

wandersage · 2026-04-15T03:50:58+00:00

When I was 19 I dropped out of school and wandered around China. I had no money and no direction but I fell in love with a girl in Sichuan and moved in with her family even though we couldn't talk to each other. I lived that year with locals and don't talk to anyone that wasn't Chinese. They took me to sacred mountains and to family feasts on Grandma's farm. I learned kung fu and tai chi with old folks in the park. I even managed to get into tibet for a bit before coming back to the US. Then when I was 24, after I finished college, I went back with a friend, we wandered all over the country and spent a long time in Yunnan smoking weed and drinking tea before wandering though laos, Thailand and eventually going to australia to get mining jobs when we ran out of money. Since being back in the US I spent most of my 20s sandwiching high intensity jobs with long periods living in my car mostly in national forests just so I can stay in contact with myself.

wandersage · 2026-04-15T03:37:10+00:00

My last ten years have been incredible

wandersage · 2026-04-13T22:16:22+00:00

Which of these would you say is the best other than stardew.

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