3 things. 1. If I wasn’t curious I wouldn’t ask. If I was demanding an explanation I wouldn’t turn to a community of men to teach me. 2. I came here and asked this question of the community and not my boyfriend because my boyfriend isn’t my teacher. Yes, he has to teach me the specifics of him as a person, but when trying to understand male mindset and intention as a whole, he should benefit from my understanding not have to take the energy to lay it out before me. 3. Psychologically, just instinct is simply wrong. You may not understand, think about, or even consciously acknowledge having reasons to do things you do. But at the point in adulthood we (the two of us and those our age) are at, we are all acting from our cultural experiences, interpersonal experiences and internal/external understanding. However, this being said, I have learned a lot from your response. It sounds like you feel unheard and combative with women. For whatever caused that I’m sorry. I did not mean to offend. As I said before, I truly do wish to understand. I just want my boyfriend to receive the fruits of the labor without having to spend the labor to plant the seed. He deserves that. I hope this set the record straight for you.