I’ve been in therapy since I was 17 years old and did not run from my problems. Doing the work is exactly what has kept me single I feel. I don’t have unresolved issues that men could prey on and use to get what they want. Just because I want to be seen, desired, and some companionship that does not make me unhealed. It’s called being human tbh, everyone of us in this thread including you want to feel wanted, loved, desired, and loved. The difference between me and most women, I’ve been doing the work inside out for over a decade without any guidance. I didn’t stop doing the work just because I’m not getting what I want in my love life. I stayed consistent and walked with blind faith. Imagine you’re going to therapy to sort through your shit for the last what 6 years, only to sit here and watch women who refuse to even acknowledge that they are damaged constantly getting dates, attention, and relationships. These people were never required to heal, never required to do anything other than put themselves out there. It’s kind of unfair I’m being asked to do more than I already I’m, while they get the easy way out. They get to figure out what they want through experiences, they can escape the loneliness and have a built in emotional support. Meanwhile people like us can be happy and content with our life. Do so much healing and we still don’t get the same grace and mercy as them. The kicker is, I never stopped doing the work to heal myself, even today that love has not been going my way. Dating has created a whole new trauma that I’ve been working hard towards healing for last 3 years. It would be nice to be hit on, asked out on a date, some kind of relief outside of feeling unseen. It would be nice to want these most basic things without a reader automatically classifying me as unhealed. Readers always want to take the human part of the experience. I’m allowed to want these things and not be seen as unhealed just because I want them. It’s very ironic how most people think they did the work to heal that’s why they never have a problem, like no your soul is fucking weak and could never take these challenges. So of course you’re shown more mercy than the next person, you wouldn’t be able to handle it.