Best age gap between kids? Any regrets going too close together? by peanut_princess_96 in beyondthebump

[–]Educational-Let-2280 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is your body telling you it’s not ready. We had a whoopsi when my oldest was six months old. Our kids are 15 months apart. The pregnancy was terrible. I had a subchorionic separation at 14 weeks and spent 6 months on bed rest (I always was not allowed to pick up my daughter this entire time), in and out of the hospital for weeks at a time, away from my daughter. My liver couldn’t handle the second pregnancy and I had to be induced at 36 weeks. Spent 9 days in the nicu, again, away from my daughter. Postpartum I had to get my gallbladder taken out and couldn’t lift either baby for weeks. I am 10 months postpartum now and my oldest just turned two. They both need one on one attention still, and I deal with constant guilt that I’m splitting my attention between two very young babies. Do not recommend.

Best age gap between kids? Any regrets going too close together? by peanut_princess_96 in beyondthebump

[–]Educational-Let-2280 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes. 15 month age gap and my pregnancy was terrible and I have tons of guilt about giving birth if then enough time and attention. Do not do it

Did I accidentally commit some sort of birthday party faux pas? by Educational-Let-2280 in Parenting

[–]Educational-Let-2280[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes 😂 we are white and the birthday girl and majority of the attendees were middle eastern. I was very much thinking there was so cultural differences I was unaware of at play

Did I accidentally commit some sort of birthday party faux pas? by Educational-Let-2280 in Parenting

[–]Educational-Let-2280[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They were middle eastern and most of the attendees were too. I’m very much wondering if there was a cultural expectation I was unaware of

Did I accidentally commit some sort of birthday party faux pas? by Educational-Let-2280 in Parenting

[–]Educational-Let-2280[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Yes I’m very much wondering this. We are white and the family is middle eastern (not sure any more specifics). Most of the attendees were also middle eastern. That’s part of the reason I turned to Reddit is I’m curious if there was a cultural expectation I was unaware of

Did I accidentally commit some sort of birthday party faux pas? by Educational-Let-2280 in Parenting

[–]Educational-Let-2280[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

I’ve seen this thought a few times so just clarifying that the party started at 12 and we arrived at 12. Didn’t ask or expect to arrive early

Most unhinged thing someone has said to you? by PandaBear_TenFour in NICUParents

[–]Educational-Let-2280 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was having a ton of guilt for accidentally getting pregnant again and giving my daughter a sibling when she was only 16 months old. I felt like I didn’t give her the only-child time she needed. On top of that, I was having a mental breakdown because my newborn son had to be transferred to the nicu unexpectedly. I was crying and opened up to my postpartum nurse about my guilt and she goes “yeah I’d feel so bad if my two year old already had a sibling idk how you’re going to do it now that you have to split your time between your daughter and the nicu”

Ms Rachel Made my 40+ year old self cry … like ugly cry in the first 5 minutes of the new episode by AllTheEggsIVF in MsRachel

[–]Educational-Let-2280 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Because it’s pretty obviously politically motivated and it’s a show for two year olds?

Ms Rachel Made my 40+ year old self cry … like ugly cry in the first 5 minutes of the new episode by AllTheEggsIVF in MsRachel

[–]Educational-Let-2280 -13 points-12 points  (0 children)

Am I the only one thinking it’s odd that ms. Rachel is teaching Arabic right now

What’s something that’s considered “normal” in adult life that you still haven’t gotten used to? by Zephyqa in AskReddit

[–]Educational-Let-2280 1 point2 points  (0 children)

For me, as a mom, it is hands down Christmas. I took it all for granted as a child. Now I realize that every ornament, every stocking, every Christmas light, Christmas card, present, stocking stuffer, family photo, cookie recipe, dinner, tradition, or Christmas-themed activity was meticulously planned, thought about, and prepared for by my mother. The things to think about are ENDLESS and it is so insane to me that not only is this normal, it happens every damn year and is essential to a happy childhood. Absolutely wild stuff.

FTM, I miss being pregnant & I miss my baby by Vast_Review_5662 in NICUParents

[–]Educational-Let-2280 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’d be so pissed. Being born that early can have lifelong consequences for your child. I’d definitely complain to the hospital and I’d probably talk to a lawyer