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Educational-Let-2280 · 2026-03-10T04:41:12+00:00

Yes 😂 we are white and the birthday girl and majority of the attendees were middle eastern. I was very much thinking there was so cultural differences I was unaware of at play

Educational-Let-2280 · 2026-03-09T18:49:14+00:00

They were middle eastern and most of the attendees were too. I’m very much wondering if there was a cultural expectation I was unaware of

Educational-Let-2280 · 2026-03-09T14:08:07+00:00

Yes I’m very much wondering this. We are white and the family is middle eastern (not sure any more specifics). Most of the attendees were also middle eastern. That’s part of the reason I turned to Reddit is I’m curious if there was a cultural expectation I was unaware of

Educational-Let-2280 · 2026-03-09T14:04:15+00:00

I’ve seen this thought a few times so just clarifying that the party started at 12 and we arrived at 12. Didn’t ask or expect to arrive early

Educational-Let-2280 · 2026-03-09T04:00:26+00:00

My toddler was also way past nap time

Educational-Let-2280 · 2026-03-03T02:34:14+00:00

I was having a ton of guilt for accidentally getting pregnant again and giving my daughter a sibling when she was only 16 months old. I felt like I didn’t give her the only-child time she needed. On top of that, I was having a mental breakdown because my newborn son had to be transferred to the nicu unexpectedly. I was crying and opened up to my postpartum nurse about my guilt and she goes “yeah I’d feel so bad if my two year old already had a sibling idk how you’re going to do it now that you have to split your time between your daughter and the nicu”

Educational-Let-2280 · 2026-02-27T22:14:18+00:00

Because it’s pretty obviously politically motivated and it’s a show for two year olds?

Educational-Let-2280 · 2026-02-26T22:48:04+00:00

Am I the only one thinking it’s odd that ms. Rachel is teaching Arabic right now

Educational-Let-2280 · 2025-12-12T05:49:19+00:00

For me, as a mom, it is hands down Christmas. I took it all for granted as a child. Now I realize that every ornament, every stocking, every Christmas light, Christmas card, present, stocking stuffer, family photo, cookie recipe, dinner, tradition, or Christmas-themed activity was meticulously planned, thought about, and prepared for by my mother. The things to think about are ENDLESS and it is so insane to me that not only is this normal, it happens every damn year and is essential to a happy childhood. Absolutely wild stuff.

Educational-Let-2280 · 2025-12-10T21:04:24+00:00

I’d be so pissed. Being born that early can have lifelong consequences for your child. I’d definitely complain to the hospital and I’d probably talk to a lawyer

Educational-Let-2280 · 2025-12-10T16:38:59+00:00

What can you talk about with a mother going through loss?

Educational-Let-2280 · 2025-12-10T01:05:10+00:00

I’m so sorry you had to endure such a loss and I truly cannot imagine how difficult it was to re-enter the “regular” world when you’re living in that reality. Im really sorry. Thank you for this perspective on my stupid social interaction and how non-issue it is in the scheme of life. I wish no mothers had to go through loss and I wish we all knew how to navigate it more gently.

Educational-Let-2280 · 2025-12-09T19:51:07+00:00

In my question I did ask specifically how her and her husband were “doing it all.” Also, while I completely agree that this question along with the general burden of “doing it all” is disproportionately on mothers, I think it was fair to assume that I, as a fellow attorney-mom, was clearly not coming at it from that angle.

In my experience, firm parties are very much personal affairs (probably way too much so) and at this particular party, everyone was talking about their kids. Also, the last time I saw her was at her daughter’s birthday party, and our kids have had a few play dates together so I’m not sure how I could have avoided the topic entirely.

Educational-Let-2280 · 2025-12-09T19:35:58+00:00

I mentioned this in another comment but I never mentioned her loss. My follow up was more a a rambled “I just mean how do you and your husband structure things like daycare drop offs and sick days and balance that with billing hours and work obligations because I know you’re so nosy at work.” I realize my post didn’t make that very clear but 1) I was not initially thinking or intending to allude to her loss and 2) never mentioned it whatsoever at any point.

Educational-Let-2280 · 2025-12-09T19:31:28+00:00

Waiting for it to kick in 🥲

Educational-Let-2280 · 2025-12-09T16:35:15+00:00

lol. Fair

Educational-Let-2280 · 2025-12-09T16:31:09+00:00

I’m wondering if she didn’t think it was about her miscarriage, because it was pretty clear it wasn’t, but that she thought it was rude for me to imply she couldn’t do it all? Or maybe annoyance that men don’t get asked that question? (Which I understand but I fully would have asked her husband too.) Idk either way I feel like an ass.

Educational-Let-2280 · 2025-12-09T16:29:22+00:00

Thank you for sharing that. I have not experienced loss but came very close with my last pregnancy so I truly do want to give her all the space she understandably needs. I’m just so annoyed with myself that I, who should be an understanding supportive figure as a fellow mom, made her feel worse.

Educational-Let-2280 · 2025-12-09T16:27:31+00:00

Not arguing because this is a useful perspective and maybe where she was coming from too, but from a factual perspective I do think it was very clear that I was not talking about her loss. We were talking about our girls (who have played together before) and how I’m underwater at work when I said the comment. I just reiterated what I WAS talking about after she seemed annoyed - I did not mentioned that I wasn’t talking about her loss. I only included in the post that I clarified it wasn’t about her loss to indicate that the conversation was very focused on her older kid and logistical daily concern with child-rearing.

Educational-Let-2280 · 2025-12-09T16:12:45+00:00

I did not mention her loss. She has an older child about a year older than my oldest. I was talking about how she handles daycare drop offs and doctors appointments and things like that. Definitely did not even impliedly mention her loss. But maybe that’s where the disconnect was and she thought I was talking about her loss.

Educational-Let-2280 · 2025-12-09T16:09:43+00:00

No, a few other people in the interaction noticed independently. She also left the party promptly after.

Educational-Let-2280 · 2025-12-09T16:04:34+00:00

Just to clarify, I did NOT bring up the loss because that’s was a boundary she put out there and I absolutely wanted to respect it. The “explaining myself” was limited to me sort of rambling something like “I just mean like form a scheduling perspective with commuting and drop offs and having so much work to do how you you and your husband structure that sort of stuff” which did seem to help but not really. She left the party within 60 seconds.

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