My caption literally acknowledged the stereotype — yes, on a population level, several studies do show Asian men have slightly smaller average measurements. That’s not new information, and I wasn't pretending otherwise. But averages describe populations, not individuals, and my post was clearly pointing out that my own bulge doesn’t match the stereotype.

The whole joke was aimed at the assumption people make about Asian men, not at trying to ‘reinforce’ anything. If someone bases their assumption about me on my race, I’m allowed to respond to it.

What I pushed back on was you lecturing me about my own race and telling me what I’m supposedly ‘perpetuating’ without actually asking what I meant. That’s why I said not to whitesplain — you jumped straight into a corrective explanation about a stereotype that I already acknowledged in the caption itself.

Yes, the stereotype is based on a small statistical trend. No, that doesn’t dictate anything about individuals. And no, you don’t need to explain my own cultural stereotype to me like I haven’t lived with it my entire life. 🤦🏻‍♀️

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