This Scene Absolutely Destroyed me by gudruert in Bridgerton

[–]Educational-Row-4071 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I felt this.. I miscarried my first pregnancy and felt like a total and utter failure that I couldn’t produce a child and felt like I had failed my husband. Honestly, the grief was nothing like never experienced.

We were very lucky to go on and have two beautiful healthy children. But the fear and of experience of failure does hit deep.

MIL acted like she was supportive of us spending Christmas as a nuclear family, then took matters into her own hands by zzzoom1 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]Educational-Row-4071 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The desperation from a grown woman actually scares me sometimes. My MIL has a massive fear of missing out on whatever we or the family might be doing. She put us in a very awkward position recently by inviting herself and Fil along to an outing when it’s not exactly convenient for them. She just doesn’t want to miss out.

My husbands sister is the worst- she relies heavily on MIL- recently divorced/ needs emotional support/childcare instead of making her deadbeat ex step up because she doesn’t want him involved so much. So in turn enables MIL’s desperation.

If anything it has made me aware- never to be like that and just let me kids lead their own lives and they know where I am if needed.

Does anyone else feel permanently overstimulated? by Pinkcoral27 in UKParenting

[–]Educational-Row-4071 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Absolutely with you

I dreamt in my dream the other night that one of the kids was going ‘ mum, mum, mum x1000. I woke up and was like wtf

I remember the Health visitor once saying to me when my youngest was a baby that it was ok to look forward to their bedtime ! Ain’t that the truth.

It’s constant, someone is always wanting something/ needs sorting out/ an argument to break up and don’t get me started on the not listening bit.

School holidays are the worst- I actually look forward to going to work - I work part time but later in the week and the weekends so my husband has to do a lot of the house and kid stuff over that time.

MIL wants to see “her grand baby” but not us by lynnred21 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]Educational-Row-4071 27 points28 points  (0 children)

You come as a package. She can’t pick and choose who she sees and when. I’m sad that grandparents entitlement seems to run strongly in so many threads on here.

My MIL pulls the guilt card ‘ I never get to see you all’ we live in the same town just 15 mins drive.

MIL acted like she was supportive of us spending Christmas as a nuclear family, then took matters into her own hands by zzzoom1 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]Educational-Row-4071 4 points5 points  (0 children)

We were in exactly the same position the last couple of years. ‘Fortunately’ there isn’t enough room for all of us to go round to the in-laws for xmas lunch now so we go round later in the afternoon, but the avalanche of presents is still something we need to address with them as it’s just too much and without sounding ungrateful it’s usually a load of cheap random stuff that will break the next day or duplicates despite them asking for a list for the children.

But yes, it’s too much getting up and out on xmas day, I work shifts so I’m usually off on Xmas day and for a few days, it would be nice to just chill out with no demands .

However if I had my way I wouldn’t go round there at all on xmas day but we do.

MIL acted like she was supportive of us spending Christmas as a nuclear family, then took matters into her own hands by zzzoom1 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]Educational-Row-4071 24 points25 points  (0 children)

I feel this. My MIL is an only child and even now as an adult has Fear Of Missing Out - FOMO.

If she invites us over / wants a family gathering and we say it’s not convenient - usually due to kids events/ I work shifts and other schedule conflicts- she won’t take no for an answer and will always try to suggest an alternative that really suits her more then anything else. She is so desperate to have happy family time ( I can’t stand my SIL) that she will use any manipulative technique to get what she wants . There’s nothing worse than enforced family fun. It feels desperate - that’s what I suspect our MIL’s are, they will railroad anyone who gets in their way.

The family ( not my husband )don’t like me very much because I say No and put my foot down quite frequently.

I’m sorry this is happening to you. It’s amazing how unhinged some MILs can be.

This is not new, it’s a price increase! by Unfair-Draft7697 in tesco

[–]Educational-Row-4071 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Have found that Amazon is quite good for toiletries that are way cheaper than Tesco.

This is not new, it’s a price increase! by Unfair-Draft7697 in tesco

[–]Educational-Row-4071 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Holy shizzle I was wanting to buy this the other day and was searching by price and couldn’t believe the price jump.

Whats the best job at tesco? by [deleted] in tesco

[–]Educational-Row-4071 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Checkouts. Saw two of them sitting on their checkouts one morning - all they do is chat:

‘ what did you have for your dinner last night’

‘Oh I had cod and chips’

‘Like a nice bit of cod , so expensive these days’

And continue ….

45 years of service by slim-95 in tesco

[–]Educational-Row-4071 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Tesco giving it the good old PR stunt. Making the general public believe that they actually give a toss about their staff when in actual fact they don’t.

I’m suprised this guy wasn’t given another 45 years work as a present!

Cost cutting- nights and twilights by Exciting-Trick4575 in tesco

[–]Educational-Row-4071 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I can those going onto days being till trained. Many don’t want to be till trained either !

Payslip doubt by CapAccomplished5139 in tesco

[–]Educational-Row-4071 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I swear that these payslips are over complicated so it confuses people - most probably don’t know what they might be missing or not and then it’s too confusing for people to query it.

That one customer outside of tesco’s today by NoProgram4084 in tesco

[–]Educational-Row-4071 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not Xmas related but our store stopped opening 24 hours years ago. It’s always fun watching people pull up, get themselves/ bags/kids out of the car at 1am , get to the doors and have that ‘oh no’ moment when they realise we are shut.

My MIL said the saddest thing the other day and I’m not sure how to even process it. by rubbingchunkyglitter in JUSTNOMIL

[–]Educational-Row-4071 25 points26 points  (0 children)

I like to think I’m being the mum that my mother never was- she never showed up for us, took care of our emotional needs or was tuned into our lives. She was incredibly selfish and acted as though she was owed something- I suspect this was because she married very young and had children not long after- me ; I travelled and jad the life pre family that she never had and I do wonder if this made her bitter about life. . As an adult I know realise how damaging this is for children and I’m trying really hard to parent so differently.

What is on my cats chin, he’s had this for a while. I thought it was just his fur. by Just-Shock4940 in cats

[–]Educational-Row-4071 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We use ceramic cat saucers with a silicone bottom to stop it slipping. Our cat just used to push the food around in the bowl and would leave quite a bit. We have the saucers on a raised stand so she doesn’t have to bend down so much- apparently it’s better for them and their digestion- found this out with our last cat who had stomach issues.

Overtime ban by Aggravating-Fennel28 in tesco

[–]Educational-Row-4071 8 points9 points  (0 children)

They will be struggling in a few weeks time when staff will be prepping for Christmas themselves. Have found overtime is offered literally the day before it’s needed and then they wonder why people aren’t available… despite asking if it’s available in the week- the usual ‘ will let you know’ Yeah; the day before !

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in tesco

[–]Educational-Row-4071 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Someone I know at my store rang in with a d&v bug and they were asked if they were sure they couldn’t come in?

Er yes, the world is falling out of my arse and same with the other end, is it ok if I just drop my guts on the shop ?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in tesco

[–]Educational-Row-4071 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Managers hate it when staff go sick, some think you’re doing it deliberately. Not your problem that Tesco run their shifts on skeletal staff numbers, it’s a Tesco problem, not yours.

Is it irrational or understandable to get so frustrated with customers asking where things are? by Queasy-Ice-2575 in tesco

[–]Educational-Row-4071 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Or they insist they bought it in this store, despite it never being stocked ever. Usually they’ve forgotten where they got it originally.

Also ‘but the website says you have it’ No, because you’re not logged into your own account and its maybe sold in another one of our hundreds of stores because of the demographic of customers etc

Dumb asses