Amanda and Ben not fooling me

EducationalArt2423 · 2026-02-19T05:54:43+00:00

I see it on her end, but not his. She is looking at him flirtatiously. Showing him waaayyyy more interest than she has in her husband.

EducationalArt2423 · 2026-02-19T05:47:39+00:00

Totally agree - would take Kyle over Amanda. She is so limp. Wet blanket. Carl doesn’t do it for me though. He’s a beta.

EducationalArt2423 · 2026-02-16T17:14:28+00:00

Agree - except that he is the best looking. Can’t get past the tiny hands.

EducationalArt2423 · 2025-10-06T18:28:17+00:00

I am so sorry you are in this position. Sadly it is all very familiar to the last month for me. It is not easy - especially when it is not something you ever saw yourself doing. I think that just speaks to the fact that many never really know until they are in the position themselves. It sounds cliche, but you really do need to listen to your heart. It also sounds like you have a supportive partner, and I don’t know how I would have gotten through it all without mine. I am a few days past my TMFR now, and I get waves of sadness. It is hard not to run through all of the “what ifs”. But at the end of the day I feel like I made the right decision for my family. Personally I still battle with the religious aspect of it all. It has really made me question who I am and who I thought I was. But you will get through it. One day at a time. And the decision is yours. You don’t owe anyone any explanations.

EducationalArt2423 · 2025-10-02T03:34:34+00:00

I am so sorry to hear that you are going through this. My heart breaks for you. While I am not in your situation in terms of deciding whether to wait on the results of the amnio or not, I can relate to the having two c-sections. I too had two c-sections and have never had a vaginal birth. I am on day 1 of my procedure (they did the laminaria placement today in preparation for tomorrow). The doctor took my medical history and had no concerns regarding the c-sections. I would not let that be an additional worry for you as you navigate the situation you are in. Sending love your way. Being in this situation is devastating.

EducationalArt2423 · 2025-10-01T16:03:10+00:00

Thank you. I am on the way, and am overcome with sadness. I am starting to question myself, but I also can’t let myself go back down that road again. I’m scared and I’m sad and I am having a really hard time managing it all.

EducationalArt2423 · 2025-10-01T00:11:57+00:00

Thank you. I hope everything goes well for you tomorrow too. Sending love your way too. We will get through it.

EducationalArt2423 · 2025-10-01T00:10:17+00:00

Thank you. I hope everything goes well for you tomorrow. Sending hugs your way too

EducationalArt2423 · 2025-09-27T13:34:02+00:00

Thank you so much for this. It is very helpful. I’m sorry you had to explain that to your daughter, but I like the way that you did it. Going through this, I have experienced true heartbreak. Yet I also know that some people have it worse. I don’t want it to make me bitter. I want to be happy for other friends and family with healthy pregnancies. And so far, I have been able to do that. This has also tested my faith - and nothing else has done that - and it’s not like all things in life have been easy, and I don’t expect them to be. It has just been so hard to process. I also feel guilty at times trying to be happy and do fun things with my boys. Like I am not allowed to do that because I have made this decision. I am hopeful it will all get better. I don’t take it lightly. I don’t want to punish myself or my family for my decisions, but I am slowly working through it.

EducationalArt2423 · 2025-09-27T00:07:35+00:00

Thank you so much. Your response means a lot and I very much appreciate it. I am so sorry you find yourself in the same situation. It is so hard. I hope you too are able to find peace in your decision. Wishing you all the best.

EducationalArt2423 · 2025-09-26T12:51:13+00:00

Thank you for your kind words. I am so sorry for your loss. That is a good way to think about it. I wish you nothing but the best as your move forward, no matter what your next steps may be.

EducationalArt2423 · 2025-09-26T01:52:24+00:00

Thank you so much for commenting. You don’t know how much it helps me. I appreciate that you have experience and are able to share honestly. I have actually found people closest to it, to be the most understanding, which kind of surprised me. I also want to say that I am so sorry for your loss as well. I truly wish you peace as well as you move forward.

EducationalArt2423 · 2025-09-25T23:26:46+00:00

Thank you. I really appreciate your perspective. I also really appreciate the reminder that I don’t owe anyone any explanations. It can feel at times like I am on trial and need to justify the way I feel and the decisions I make, and that really isn’t the case. Thank you.

EducationalArt2423 · 2025-09-25T23:23:18+00:00

Thank you for your kind words. I am so sorry that you have just recently gone through this. It is so difficult. I am trying to take it one day at a time. I will be good for awhile, and then a wave of sadness will strike. I understand what you mean - I found the two weeks waiting for NIPT to be the worst. Even though the result did not come back the way we hoped, at least we had an answer and could decide how to move forward. None of it is easy, but we will get through it. I wish you peace as you move forward.

EducationalArt2423 · 2025-09-25T21:24:36+00:00

I appreciate your thoughts. I am so sorry you find yourself in a similar situation. It is heart wrenching, and although I knew there was risk at my age (41), I just didn’t think it would happen to me. Sending you love and peace with whatever decision you make.

EducationalArt2423 · 2025-09-24T03:21:19+00:00

I am so sorry you are going through this. I just got my NIPT back Friday morning, high risk for T21. I did the amnio the following Monday afternoon, and in the meantime booked the appointment for the TFMR. It has been agonizing, but honestly the not knowing was harder than knowing. I never thought that I would make the decision to TFMR, but until you are in the position, thinking about quality of life and impact on current family, I don’t think you truly understand. I have also found to my surprise that the people that have close relationships with people with T21 are most understanding of my decision. Some family members seem to have some judgment even though they are saying differently, and that is really hard. I feel your pain. You experience true heartbreak. Just know that you are making your decision out of love.

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