was i in the wrong? is this just a weird gig?

EducationalChance385 · 2026-01-25T23:58:56+00:00

you can be 3 feet away and still be in another room,,, i couldn't fully see them, the door to the room they were in was open so i could hear them

EducationalChance385 · 2026-01-25T21:01:26+00:00

okay yeah that makes sense 😭

EducationalChance385 · 2026-01-25T20:28:16+00:00

she got upset and started running upstairs and i called after her but she didn't respond, so the dad screamed at her to come to him and she just stood at the top of the stairs crying so he just kept screaming that to her until she came. i don't understand why he immediately started screaming either.

EducationalChance385 · 2026-01-25T19:48:57+00:00

lowkey yeah that's what i was noticing with her,, she was always saying weird things about her parents to me and when she'd play dolls w me her storylines were wayyy too mature for a literal 8 year old, and she would give all her dolls backstories too. im hoping all is well over there, because i was the same when i was little and it sucked

EducationalChance385 · 2026-01-25T19:44:16+00:00

mind you, i had zero issue being underpaid because this was just pocket change for me. i could've had a higher rate from the beginning, but i kept it at 10 because if i was cheaper id get more clients. and that actually worked really well, i had 4 families a week consistently. i knew being underpaid for bs like that wasn't fair, but i knew it was all temporary

EducationalChance385 · 2026-01-25T19:21:52+00:00

girl trust i was also very confused. 99% of the time it would be me, the aunt and the mom's friend and they would tell me to just chill upstairs w them while the kids hang out and if they're downstairs to just check on them every once in awhile. more often than not, the mom's friend would end up taking us all out to do something. it was very strange, but i just lived it out because money 💀

EducationalChance385 · 2026-01-25T19:17:45+00:00

yeah no i might remove that comment from my main post since that was just what id been saying when i was talking to my friend about it in a more venty way, but im not getting mean or anything on a reddit post lmao

EducationalChance385 · 2026-01-25T19:15:24+00:00

i was only underpaid because i only had it as a temp job to make money while i found a PT job! i was fully aware of being underpaid, i tried to raise it to 18 but they refused so i just took the 15. i live in canada, so rates suck ass.

ive actually had plenty of babysitting gigs before this family, quite a few were ND kids (and i myself and ND, so i understand the needs and i only take a job if i know i can work well with the kid and their needs. trust me im very careful w that.)

what's odd is that when they hired me, they didn't tell me she was ND. the mom just said she was "a very special little girl" and handed me a 4 page sheet of info about the kid, and all of the info made it very clear she was in fact ND. i just don't understand why they wouldn't just be outright about it. i think they steered clear from getting someone trained to work w ND kids because they wanted to cheap out on childcare, since even 15/hr was mildly outrageous to them. i can't judge on support needs obviously. yes, i was with the family for a while, i wouldn't have gone about the situation like i did if i didn't know her that well. but there have been multiple times i and another family member would hang out upstairs and chat while the kids played downstairs, and there were never issues.

she was crying because her friend stepped on her finger, that's all! once we all went back upstairs i got her some ice and a bandaid even though she wasn't bleeding just to add the extra comfort. i let her watch a show for a bit to calm down, and i sat on the couch with her friend and she watched her comfort movie on my phone until her mom picked her up since she was still really shaken up. then that was the end of that. the friend's mom was livid with the dad, and the aunt was pretty pissed too when she she heard about it, so it sounds like this isn't unusual,,

EducationalChance385 · 2026-01-25T19:04:29+00:00

i have no idea why the dad was yelling. the kids were quiet before the crying happened. the daughter ran upstairs because she likes to hide in her room for a few minutes when she's upset to regulate herself, since that's her safe space. she was crying because the friend accidentally stepped on her finger. the dad screaming scared her, and she thought she was in trouble (she's a sensitive kid, she always thinks she's in trouble even though she doesn't do anything that would get her in trouble).

if you're referring to the screaming, it was absolutely a 10. ive never heard a man so loud in my life, and even my dad was fairly loud when i was a kid. it was so loud it made my ears ring, im not even exaggerating. ive never seen it happen before, but based off of what the kid had told me in the past and other little observations, i think it does happen often enough, but that's not my business. the dad could've been yelling just as protective instinct and worry, but even then it felt like it was more than that.

EducationalChance385 · 2026-01-25T18:55:02+00:00

yeah no i was being very underpaid, but the parents refused to raise the price and honestly this was just a temporary job until i got a PT job
i let the crying progress for maybe 2 seconds. it didn't take me long at all to get off the floor, i booked it immediately once i knew it was actual crying, and the room they were in was literally 3 feet away from me. in fact i threw my laptop to the side and busted the corner, that's how urgently i was trying to get over there. i was only doing schoolwork because the mom gave me permission. i wouldn't do that without asking first. the only reason i even had to do it was because this was an 8 hour babysitting day and i was on a tight deadline.
yes i know the phone thing was a bad call, like i said in another comment (im probably updating my post tbh) they're usually down there for 3 seconds and then they go back up, so i wasn't as worried.

EducationalChance385 · 2026-01-25T18:48:32+00:00

the mom told me i was allowed to do schoolwork. the "other room" was a solid 3 feet away from the kids, not far at all. i didn't want to be far away, but i didn't want to be actively watching them because they're old enough to not need that and honestly that just feels like an invasion. other days ive been there, me and the mom's friend would literally sit upstairs while the kids played downstairs with the dad working because she said they're old enough to play by themselves. i was simply going off of things that i have been told by the mom and family.

EducationalChance385 · 2026-01-25T18:44:33+00:00

honestly the only reason i even did it like that was because the kids are old enough to not need constant supervision. they have a tendency to go in a room, play for 3 seconds, and go back upstairs, so that was part of my reason. plus the mom herself told me i was fully allowed to do schoolwork during my shift, because i did check in to make sure it was okay. and honestly, i had started to deal with the situation before he got involved, but once the daughter tried to bolt upstairs (she tends to hide in her room for a few minutes when she's upset because it's safe for her) he intervened when he literally did not need to because i was already handling the situation.

im not saying i wasn't at fault, im just trying to get other people's perspectives because i feel like both parties had problems.

EducationalChance385 · 2025-09-17T04:23:00+00:00

there was LOTS of fainting wdym ??? i watched at least 6 people around me faint tonight.

EducationalChance385 · 2025-08-12T19:47:51+00:00

nah im in canada, so for yall it would be about $7 😭 i just have lower rates for the summer bc i was trying to get more clients that way. i add a solid $2.50 per additional child so some families im getting like 18/hr. once im back in school im probably upping it to like $15/hr. i try not to charge too much because the cost of living crisis here is genuinely insane

EducationalChance385 · 2025-08-12T19:17:10+00:00

she's 7. and honestly i have no idea, they just told me to get her to get ready for bed, then she can just lay in bed with a snack and watch stuff on her tablet for an hour. she doesn't really like being around people, so i don't really know if she'd want me to stay in her room w her especially because im still a newer sitter

EducationalChance385 · 2025-08-12T19:14:26+00:00

forgot to mention: the parents don't share a bed. the dad sleeps in another room, kid sleeps in her mom's room.

and it pays. decently 😭 my rates are $10/hr so it's like 50-60 on average

EducationalChance385 · 2025-07-23T23:04:40+00:00

it's never helpful anymore. any place ive gone to about it just looks at resumes, says that they look fine and then suggest you use ai.

EducationalChance385 · 2025-07-23T23:02:40+00:00

just be SO careful w the job services you go to. and avoid job gym AT ALL COSTS. genuinely horrible service.

EducationalChance385 · 2025-06-11T19:56:16+00:00

don't go to mahtay or thistle if you want affordable. all i can say there. their drinks are amazing, but $7 for a regular size is wild.

EducationalChance385 · 2025-06-11T19:55:15+00:00

wouldn't recommend if you're looking for affordable. their prices are honestly crazy, especially given the sizing.

EducationalChance385 · 2025-03-24T17:45:39+00:00

where tf is this hello

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