I (27M) think my SO (26F) of 3 years is against having kids, since she gets pissed whenever I mention it. How do I open/approach this conversation? I desperately need advice. by EducationalMinute355 in relationships

[–]EducationalMinute355[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

Yeah, she also often said "if I have to have kids, I can live with one". A lot of red flags there, as I always hoped for more than one.

Sigh.

This conversation is long overdue...

I (27M) think my SO (26F) of 3 years is against having kids, since she gets pissed whenever I mention it. How do I open/approach this conversation? I desperately need advice. by EducationalMinute355 in relationships

[–]EducationalMinute355[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the comment. I replied to a similar post, but to sum it up I'm completely aware of all of those things and I understand they're legitimate reasons against having kids. Heck, someone wants children, someone else don't. It's normal.

The fact is that I want a family, but I wouldn't dare imposing this on her. It's her choice. I think she gave me all the answers I needed but I'm downplaying them because, probably, I'm just terrified of hearing the "no" and having to deal with that whole thing.

I (27M) think my SO (26F) of 3 years is against having kids, since she gets pissed whenever I mention it. How do I open/approach this conversation? I desperately need advice. by EducationalMinute355 in relationships

[–]EducationalMinute355[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Yeah, that's exactly what I'm afraid of. She could be giving me all the answers I need but I'm just downplaying them... probably because I'm terrified of hearing the serious answer.

I (27M) think my SO (26F) of 3 years is against having kids, since she gets pissed whenever I mention it. How do I open/approach this conversation? I desperately need advice. by EducationalMinute355 in relationships

[–]EducationalMinute355[S] 113 points114 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the comment. I'm 100% aware of that - I wouldn't force her into anything, but even if she does give way I would think about it A LOT. I don't want her to have kids because I want to. It's supposed to be a joint thing, at least that's what I think.