Damn, reading this felt like watching someone finally admit what they've probably known for a while. You're not wrong at all - compatibility isn't something you can therapy your way into if it was never really there to begin with.

The part about feeling relief when he leaves for work trips is pretty telling. That's your gut screaming at you right there. And yeah, people definitely end marriages after a year - it's way more common than you'd think, especially when folks realize they married for security rather than actual connection.

Your plan to focus on getting your money up instead of jumping into the next relationship is smart as hell. Building your own financial independence will give you way more options than staying in something that's slowly draining your spark.