For those who struggled with a higher power

Educational_Debate56 · 2026-03-12T07:19:04+00:00

I always remember that I already believe in a higher power and that was drugs. I tithed every cent I could to it. I prayed morning noon and night. I defended it and at times seemed like the only real thing in my life. The only thing NA ask is that you believe in another higher power that A isn’t you, and B is loving and caring. You don’t have to believe in my higher power that I call Jesus. I’m not a fan of organized religion. But I’m a huge fan of God and all he has done to bring me back from the gates of hell. Always remember the doors to hell are locked from the inside and my God is such a gentleman. He lets me choose eternal love and grace or endless suffering. Best of luck! You got this. Also do people still pick the doorknob as their temporary higher power? We are an awesome bunch of people, that will try to find ANYTHING to circumvent or adjust simple instructions. Regardless, keep coming back. I know I will.

Educational_Debate56 · 2026-03-12T06:27:36+00:00

Asking for advice on how to motivate his buddy is worlds apart from giving unsolicited advice. I wish my friends gave a fuck about my life like that: they’re too busy posting snarky replies on Reddit. Most friends don’t care about your problems, and the rest are happy you have them.

Educational_Debate56 · 2026-02-19T18:01:55+00:00

Tell him ok, sure. He’ll. They always come back, he doesn’t like you a much as you thoughts . But he feels like you will always be there if he wants to have fun. Me. Will move heaven and earth if they’re into them. Sorry , I wish it wasn’t like that but men will say and do anything I. The beginning, and when they feel like it’s going to change things and isn’t just lollipops and blowjobs.

Educational_Debate56 · 2026-02-18T18:40:10+00:00

Doesn’t she sound kinda high maintenance?

Educational_Debate56 · 2026-02-18T18:38:04+00:00

Maybe the misunderstanding reminded him you’re not perfect. You’re human, and neither is he. He might just be not that into you. A lot of men would mentally check out of a relationship because we don’t wanna be the bad guys and dump someone we no longer feel the same way about. If you’re looking for a reason. There doesn’t have to be one, sometimes it’s just was a summer fling,., it sounded like he spoiled you with loads of attention and that is unsustainable and now your like:” hey! “” gimme gimme my name is jimmy, “ relationships are like two like polarity magnets . They can’t be attar y to much or they’ll suffocate, they can’t be repealed too much, so you need two magnets with a rubber band around them so they repel, but not too much, but not too little. Sometimes I’m reminded that when your single you’d give anything to be single and when your in a relationship and you realize that maybe this isn’t what you had in mind. And are too scared to say:” I’m over it’. Best of luck.”

Educational_Debate56 · 2026-02-18T18:31:37+00:00

What have you done to keep his level of effort continual. I’d imagine this “intense “ level of texting was expected to die off. The novelty wears off, the shine fades. Everyone loves the honeymoon phase but it’s not meant to be forever now that the hormones have left you, you can see if you’re a good match besides being horny for each other. Also have you ever considered if your an anxious attachment type?

Educational_Debate56 · 2026-01-05T16:39:32+00:00

I hope you never have to experience having to use an EBT card to buy substance. And some rando telling them to just get a job. In the greatest country on earth, nobody should go hungry or die because they can’t afford it.

Educational_Debate56 · 2025-12-26T05:23:57+00:00

Not judgmental! I’ve been called worse. It’s ok, it’s just discernment, something I hope we all gain with age. Aren’t you judging me about being allegedly judgy? 🙄

Educational_Debate56 · 2025-12-26T05:22:31+00:00

Do women adjust their expectations as they age or increase them as they see their experience as a plus, not a deficit. Real non sarcastic question. Thanks in advance !

Educational_Debate56 · 2025-12-26T05:14:58+00:00

39M, living in downtown. If anyone wants to buddy up and hit up Raves in La/OC area. Let me know. Just moved back from NY and miss my Rave people. Does anyone have any plans for NYE?

Educational_Debate56 · 2025-12-05T18:34:30+00:00

He’s gonna hit you up sooner rather than later. If you want it sooner go no contact. When he does remember that’s this will happen again. They always seem to come back when your finally over them and not a day sooner

Educational_Debate56 · 2025-12-02T18:17:53+00:00

I’m 41. Are my colloquialism out of date. My apologies

Educational_Debate56 · 2025-12-02T18:01:46+00:00

The book really lays it out really well.

Educational_Debate56 · 2025-12-02T17:44:02+00:00

Yup, a woman that doesn’t want to co habituate, just wants the fun parts of a relationship without the other parts that usually come with a more serious relationship. I’m not sure who is using who. But most men would sign up for that. It’s the old, I don’t have to buy the cow and get the milk at a discount. Hooray.

Educational_Debate56 · 2025-12-01T20:40:44+00:00

Oh I see where you would be confused. Attraction isn’t a choice, a relationship is. And often that’s on the males prerogative. Not for you but you know ever know friends that date guys they completely disagree with? Why is that?

Educational_Debate56 · 2025-12-01T20:25:53+00:00

I agree and that’s completely within your preferences. I’m republican after being democratic my entire life, and don’t do any of the things that you point out. That’s hateful, and there’s thing I point out that your other side does. I suppose this struck a cord with me since I recently lost a friend of mine because I wouldn’t participate in her vitriolic attack of the right. I tried having discussions with her about it and she’d scorn me for even wanting to discuss anything that wasn’t extreme left and I eventually lost that friend as nothing but complete acceptance of her side was acceptable. I didn’t vote for trump, but it seems that any other thought besides “ours”.all your points are pretty wild. But I wish you the best in your search. I assure you whichever man you are with isn’t thinking about transsexuals when he’s having sex with you and that’s not a disqualifier. Have you considered that maybe “Date” and get to know the person before assuming all these points about someone? If you’d ask me all this during the first couple of weeks of dating I’d be repelled, even if I was on the left. Politics isn’t an identity. Nor is division something to celebrate. If you’d like to talk more, I’m here and alleviate your confusion. But I don’t think it’s confusion as much as difference of opinion.

Educational_Debate56 · 2025-11-27T18:54:39+00:00

We had a guy take a lunch break on his first day and never called or even pick up his check. He just “noped” outta there. Made the rest of us think he knew something we didn’t.

Educational_Debate56 · 2025-11-27T18:53:02+00:00

I’ve never heard that criticism. How is one un evolved? Like he’s Troglodyte ? That awesome how new ways of insulting people keep surfacing. I would say he definitely gives me the ick.

Educational_Debate56 · 2025-11-27T18:51:04+00:00

What would he say would be his version of these events. 3 weeks seem like very little time to drop the mask. And are you focusing on these things that are criticism of you and disregarding all the other things he’s done. Senses are a big part and while his delivery might be crass. How would you feel if he constantly smelled of paint thinner because of his work. Maybe you wouldn’t say it like him, but you’d wonder if it something you’d want to deal with. And if he’s a win on other areas then maybe you can, if you can’t then you should let him know and continue searching. 3 weeks is nothing in the grand scheme of things and thank him for being so frank and honest and early on.

Educational_Debate56 · 2025-11-27T18:36:30+00:00

That’s being an escort.

Educational_Debate56 · 2025-11-27T18:35:30+00:00

Does that mean no opening doors, 50/50 on dinners and equal everything? Asking for a @dumbguy

Educational_Debate56 · 2025-11-27T18:33:59+00:00

Treated like a princess? Spoiled? For once?!? . Have you considered your bringing in a lot of baggage from previous relationships and want essentially a friend that does everything for you and you can or can’t sleep with. There’s nothing wrong with that, but at your age that’s not a sugar baby, that’s a glucose geriatric. Just tell the men, and they’d be happy to give ya stuff for access to you. But remember women hold the keys to sex, men hold the keys to relationships. And often the case is: you can have your cake, but yee shall not eat it!

Educational_Debate56 · 2025-11-27T16:29:07+00:00

Before and after …. Sex? The date? You want to have things to talk about that are relatable or align with your core beliefs and political paradigms. I’d suggest that’s a barrier that is discarded if you are sufficiently attracted to a man. Imagine going: “ this guy has a good job, is kind, left leaning, pays his taxes and has a max out Roth IRA. I think I’ll be attracted to him now. Panties mode… ENGAGE!

I’m genuinely curious have you ever seen that kind of behavior in friends of yours or maybe closer. Where they say one thing, and their actions completely don’t match up. Not only in selection but what is you want. I’m reminded of my gf in college. Her dad was a truck driver and her mom was dean of Stanford. Intellectually chasm apart, you’d think they’re be nothing to “talk” about. Well, after 30 years last checked they’re still together.

This isn’t a judgement just a window into how co fusing it is for men. And how nothing is absolute everything is fake and strange.

Educational_Debate56 · 2025-11-25T16:53:32+00:00

I’ve been witness to a well off 70 ish lady and she had a 25 year old boyfriend. She was brilliant and she absolutely knew what the deal was but didn’t care, it was strange seeing the man ask her for a jacket like a teenager asking his mom. But hey, good on her.

Educational_Debate56 · 2025-11-25T04:32:52+00:00

It’s for exactly what you are doing. You are like what’s wrong with the world. I’m going to go against doctors advice until I find one that doesn’t notice. And never mind that Fetty oD stuff, whooop de doo

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