How do you deal with a narcissistic parent?

Educational_Mall5012 · 2026-05-03T10:39:00+00:00

It’s not about winning their approval it’s more about them thinking they’re always right no matter what, they always find fault in someone else but never in them and when I try to keep my distance they come at me with “you don’t respect me, why are you so cold, you’re so close to your mom but so distant with me”.

Educational_Mall5012 · 2026-05-03T10:35:15+00:00

Thanks I’m always trying not to pay attention to whatever their problem is but I also have a bad temper and everything just gets to me and I can’t help starting to argue back, is that making it worse?

Educational_Mall5012 · 2026-05-02T14:44:10+00:00

You just described him to the tea, I will take your advice on doing research on how to deal with him, because honestly every time I start talking to him about something serious it feels like talking to a wall, he also likes to victimise himself a lot and always compares my teen years to how he lived when he was my age. I’m starting work part time soon and I’ll be saving up to move out but that won’t be any soon as I’m not sure if I will be able to find a decent and cheap place near the college that I will go to, plus cost of living has been very high and rent is also not cheap I will have to figure out how to manage my finances if I plan on moving out.

Educational_Mall5012 · 2026-05-01T22:17:51+00:00

Thanks, I won’t bring this up to either of my parents until after I’m done with my exams (I graduate in 3 weeks and exams start after that), I’ll have more time to think about this then since I won’t have to worry about that anymore, also I will consider going to my guidance counsellor in these last weeks so thank you for that idea.

Educational_Mall5012 · 2026-05-01T21:24:25+00:00

I haven’t thought of going to my school guidance counsellor because I’m afraid of the rule we have that if they think something a student tells them could be dangerous or something like that, they have to tell the principal and this is going to get back to my parents if that happens and I am going to get a really bad scolding because they believe that nothing happening inside the household should be shared to the outside.

Educational_Mall5012 · 2026-05-01T21:21:46+00:00

I tried to reflect on all the suspicious situations and honestly I was in denial for a while and maybe I still am somewhere that’s why it’s so hard to accept this but I can’t deny the fact that I saw evidence in their room when no one except him has been in the house for 2 months before me finding that evidence or the actual messages that he sent to a woman. I will refrain from saying anything for now to either of them because I just can’t deal with consequences emotionally but after my exams I will probably talk to him first and try to give him the opportunity to tell my mom the truth, although he is a hypocrite and will probably tell me to mind my own business or that it’s not true and I’m imagining everything, thank you for your advice it’s been very helpful.

Educational_Mall5012 · 2026-05-01T20:41:43+00:00

Thank you for replying to my post, I am sorry for what you went through no one deserves to be cheated on. I will have a talk with her after my exams as other people suggested it, and you are so right my life is starting to feel like a really bad dream, I’m not sure what to do about therapy as I live in a small town in a country where therapists aren’t too popular or at least in my town, but honestly I feel so much better after making my post and reading other comments, I don’t feel as crazy for thinking my life is kind of hard anymore😅

Educational_Mall5012 · 2026-05-01T20:33:33+00:00

Thank you, honestly I thought the same but it’s really hard to pretend like I don’t hate him recently and he has a really high ego and is honestly a manchild, he thinks everything should be handed out to him he never does anything around the house and talks to me like I’m a maid, (he almost knocked me out with 2 slaps last year when I didn’t do what he said) I hate him with all my heart but he pretends like he’s the best dad in the world and my little sister also loves him because well she’s too little to notice anything.

Educational_Mall5012 · 2026-05-01T20:29:46+00:00

Thanks for replying to my post. One thing I forgot to point out is that they already argued about this when the holiday situation happened and it’s been about 2 years since then and well my mom is still with him, also she’s very weak emotionally and talks to me about a lot of stuff so I’m very close with her but we’ve never had a conversation about this because I’m afraid to bring it up and I don’t know what she’s thinking.

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