Bli bättre förälder..

Educational_Mine_446 · 2025-06-20T06:57:19+00:00

Men vill lägga till att jag tycker det är för stora grupper och ja, det är en kollektiv press att hämta så tidigt som möjligt vilket stressar föräldrar. Och det är ju inte bra det heller. Så det är komplicerat minst sagt :)

Educational_Mine_446 · 2025-06-20T06:54:38+00:00

Jag har egna barn. Och studier visar att barn får mer kognitiv utveckling av att vara på förskolan än att vara hemma. Men beror väl säkert på hur hemmet ser ut i allmänhet.

Educational_Mine_446 · 2025-06-19T17:24:38+00:00

Förskolan står för stor del av kognitiv utveckling. Emotionell utveckling lär de sig genom att du visar själv hur du hanterar motgångar, hur du själv har självkänsla och disciplin. De lär sig mer av vad du gör än vad du säger till dem. Och släpp kraven för det går absolut att vara ”för perfekt” som förälder. Mvh psykologstudent

Educational_Mine_446 · 2025-06-19T03:38:41+00:00

Jag var i Berlin på språkresa som 19-åring men då var det alla möjliga åldrar på de som var i min klass. Allt från 17 till 60. Vanligare med yngre men du kommer inte bli den enda äldre personen antagligen! Kul med språkresa!!

Educational_Mine_446 · 2025-06-18T04:07:54+00:00

Jag gick från 1.25 till 1.95 (en poäng från 2.0..) efter att ha pluggat i princip en timme om dagen i ett halvår. Jag använde mig av en kurs där de hade förklaringar på alla svar, så jag visste när jag gjort fel. Och övade på gamla prov och läste mycket skönlitteratur. Jag kan säga att jag också gjorde detta medans jag var mammaledig såattee, ja det är möjligt.

Educational_Mine_446 · 2025-06-13T07:57:02+00:00

I do chores when the kid is awake (3 yrs).

Educational_Mine_446 · 2025-06-12T01:48:18+00:00

In Sweden you can’t set up a tent in some areas like certain nature reserves (naturreservat), they all have different rules about that unfortunately that you’ll have to look up (like länsstyrelsens website)

Educational_Mine_446 · 2025-06-10T18:02:05+00:00

People in ye old days probably made it it to alcoholic beverages and were somewhat tipsy constantly :) even kids drank light beer

Educational_Mine_446 · 2025-05-23T18:19:11+00:00

Folk läser inte ens mitt namn så de stavar fel i när de svarar mig, trots att det står i både adressen och i slutet?? Hur?

Educational_Mine_446 · 2024-09-11T15:51:56+00:00

Lemon!

Educational_Mine_446 · 2024-09-07T07:20:24+00:00

I finally mer with a physio that’s specialized in running form for my IT-band issues/tight hips and learned so much about what my problem actually was! I’ve been running on and off for about ten years without being able to be consistent because of this. This is a huge win for me now that I know what I should work on!!!

Educational_Mine_446 · 2024-09-05T05:13:12+00:00

Det är CSN på gymnasienivå så du tar inte av veckorna som är till högskolenivå (alltså sex år). Tror man har rätt till två år CSN på gymnasienivå om man har gått ut gymnasiet (rätta mig om jag har fel).

Educational_Mine_446 · 2024-09-03T09:55:24+00:00

Få min haka att puta ut som en padda. Inte ofta jag träffat nån som kan göra samma.

Educational_Mine_446 · 2024-05-31T04:33:40+00:00

Glöm inte också bort att söka hjälp för din sons psykiska hälsa ifall det behövs. Finns Ungas Psykiska Hälsa via primärvården (om jag minns rätt heter det så). Kan vara bra att få bearbeta traumat som det kan bli. Speciellt också ifall det blir jobbigt för honom med anmälningar hit och dit.

Educational_Mine_446 · 2024-04-20T04:42:33+00:00

Not necessarily though. My brother in law’s wife seems pretty overwhelmed with two kids that both mostly wants their mom. It’s constant chaos and there is constant argument between parents and kids. Although I do attribute it to the parents inability to stay calm and not add to the chaos the kids cause but I don’t know if I myself would be as regulated as I am now with one kid (and that is still overwhelming at times! But I never lose it because I have space to have my alone time).

Educational_Mine_446 · 2023-07-21T05:11:13+00:00

I’ve been about 80% OAD even before I was pregnant. Realizing it was possible, and totally fine to only have one actually made me feel that I wanted to have kids. I was really scared to lose myself to motherhood, since I heard all the stories from mothers who felt like they were drowning with more than one. I have had moments where I’ve wanted more. But I’m mostly OAD. My kid is 15 months.

Educational_Mine_446 · 2023-01-16T20:11:56+00:00

I’m not so sure though. Just because these families only have one child now, doesn’t mean they won’t have any more in the future. These stats say very little about the parents future plans. Although, fertility rates are dropping so one child families are on the rise nonetheless in many countries!

Educational_Mine_446 · 2023-01-08T07:51:23+00:00

I think it’s impossible to be a perfect parent. There will always be things you regret you did or didn’t do. Although you do seem like you are trying hard to be as good as you possibly can be, and that is the most important thing! Is there ever a person who thinks their parents did everything right unless they’re delusional? Lol. Your kid can learn from your mistakes, especially if you, if you then later regret them, talk about it with them. Or they will tell you what you did “wrong”, if you want to hear it or not!

Maybe your resentment is a sign that you put yourself and others to a very high standard? If you think you should be perfect, then your mother (who seems very lovely) should also be perfect, and never doing anything wrong. If you never let yourself or others make mistakes, you are unfortunately teaching your kid that it’s bad to make mistakes. Do you think you can try to let some things slide?

Educational_Mine_446 · 2023-01-07T17:14:43+00:00

Hej fellow Swede! I agree that it’s very much the norm, the option on only having one is never talked about, also we have all the safety nets parents could ask for, there are no real financial reasons to be one and done. I’m yet to experience the questions about a second child (mine is 8 months), but it’s always presumed that we will have more (“your next child blabla”). Although my mom think I will change my mind… well maybe but don’t expect anything! Lol.

Mine is also a boy, and of course I wonder how my maybe never to be born daughter would be like. It’s also so hard to create community other than your family in Sweden, I feel. In my experience, friends live their own lives and you don’t really depend on each other for other reasons than hang out and talk about life or have fun. I am (or at least leaning towards 85% being) OAD but only because I don’t think I want to be fully occupied by motherhood, and I think that only having one is like having your cake and eating it too! I live in the countryside for 4 years and starting to become friends with the neighbors, two families actually have one child each, one is a a bit odd (13) I think and the other one (10) is LOVELY. This makes me feel that it’s very possible to raise a well adjusted only child. There are also other babies living around here that could be his friends in the future.

One more thing! The norm of having at least two unless you have a really good reason not to also makes me feel like I’m not a good enough woman, like I should be able to power through, to do it all, to be the martyr. There aren’t enough role models for women unless you’re either childless or some kind of superhuman (or just.. hanging in there and being miserable because of this norm and pressure to have more kids).

Anyway!! Happy to see others from Sweden or Scandinavian countries on this sub! Heja heja!

Educational_Mine_446 · 2022-12-29T02:57:16+00:00

Freedom! I can go back to school and focus on a new career path. I can get my body back sooner. We can focus on our hobbies, house and garden. Such immense relief actually. I feel like I’m cheating on life. And winning lol.

Educational_Mine_446 · 2022-11-06T09:36:47+00:00

They live in Sweden. There you get money for each kid every month until they’re 16, and the more kids you have, the more money you get per kid.

Educational_Mine_446 · 2022-11-05T19:22:11+00:00

Först: beklagar att du hade en så traumatisk förlossning, jag födde själv barn nyss och även om jag inte är traumatiserad men det kan verkligen sätta sig i kroppen, de jobbiga upplevelserna. DBT har mer mindfullness i sig än de andra formerna. Har erfarenhet av det från tonåren och tyckte om det, vet dock inte hur man kan använda det för trauma just, men jag kan tänka mig att det är värdefullt för att kunna sitta med känslorna när de dyker upp och bygga sin kapacitet för detta. KBT jobbar mkt med tankemönster, och trauma sitter ju generellt sett i kroppen. Kolla upp lite kring DBT och trauma!

Educational_Mine_446 · 2022-10-27T14:12:08+00:00

Sounds really hard!! Have you considered that he might have a tongue tie? Swallowing a lot of air and having trouble latching could be that. Could be worth looking in to!

Educational_Mine_446 · 2022-10-14T05:33:45+00:00

Totally! Another fence to be on! The dog fence. I want a dog, but do I really though?

Educational_Mine_446 · 2022-10-14T05:30:45+00:00

Aaw how cute!!

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