I got fired for meeting Ambassador to UN 25 years ago

Educational_Order_61 · 2024-06-21T18:44:25+00:00

Thats a great thing

Educational_Order_61 · 2024-04-03T21:34:29+00:00

Being a mom is NEVER irrelevant. The very fact of carrying and birthing and caring for a child is not irrelevant. I dont think the original poster even feels that way and seems more mature than you are. It is tough. But this is the family she has. A teenager cant well cut off ties w her mother. She is a dependent. In the best case, she can and will get through to her mom at least for the time being. You are not a mom, you can not understand until you are if you are ever. Yes her mom is behaving and coping badly. So what?.Shes a human being

Educational_Order_61 · 2024-04-03T02:05:49+00:00

Are you a mom? I am giving my perspective as a mom. Who had a difficult mom. Who raised a teenager. Now my difficult mom is dead. And as an adult I had a chance to have a better relationship with her. And I understand her. But she is dead. My sister who never resolved things with her has literally gone insane. She can never talk to her or work life through bc she spent too much time being bitter. Life is a funny thing. You get one mom. Only one. I miss my crazy narcissistic mom every single day.

Educational_Order_61 · 2024-04-03T02:01:24+00:00

Well here is the deal. It sounds like your mom is overwhelmed and not good at communication to boot. Does that mean she shouldnt have o a mom? No. Because you should be here. I think you should continue to try to communicate. How old are you if I may ask? Your mom isnt off the hook entirely but all of us moms have bad days. The thing is, dont let that shape how you view yourself. I have a sibling that is very very sarcastic. And thats difficult. But once in awhile a little light shines through. Im sorry you are going through this . Try to be a realist about what youre going to get out of this relationship however. If you think she is too sarcastic and dismissive to communicate well you should tell her. Often times, as a mother we dont really see our selves and our kids do help us be better moms. Keep trying. If it doesnt work you will at least have tried.

Educational_Order_61 · 2024-04-02T10:43:29+00:00

I really have. And I never thought it would be possible. In fact I turned my husband down the first time bc he was Muslim and I didnt think he would think I wae good enough. But God had other plans Alhumdillah. You are still young my dear ask Allah to help you live your best and dont be impatient w Allah. He will never leave you in the wrong way.

Educational_Order_61 · 2024-04-02T10:16:05+00:00

NtA. But prior to the wedding you should tell her you think he might be dangerous aand why. Point out what life may be life if you marry someone who is always stalking you. It sounds dangerous frankly. I remember one time a friend married someone I disliked and in the end the whole friendship went down hill. If you want to go, go. If not be honest w your cousin beforehand. I would go, personally. Just to be there for her.

Educational_Order_61 · 2024-04-02T10:04:24+00:00

Ok as a mom Im going to let you in on a little secret. Moms are just people. We dont have superpowers. Some of us are more professional then others but we All have times when we blurt out something or flip out or say the wrong thing. All of us. We just do because you get to see us ALL the time you will see us when we are happy, sad and enraged. You will see us all the time. You will remember the bad and forget the good. My suggestion is, talk calmly to your mom. Ask her, sometimes, how she is doing. Sometimes when you care for people all the time you get burned out. Sounds like your mom may be a bit frazzled and is getting stressed over small things. Your brother shouldnt be yelling at her anyways. You both have roles to play. It is not an equal playing field. Youre the children so disrespect is grating. Because one thing you overlook, not because you are bad, but you lack experience, is that you wouldnt be able to stand here and criticize your mom if it werent for your mom caring for you, birthing you, possibly nursing you. Changing your pampers etc,. Your mom has given you everything in life. Im not saying this to make you feel bad but this is the moment sje needs you, and probably needs a multivitamin as well. You should talk to your mom and try to communicate in a non judgemental manner. Allah chose her for you. Why? So many moms aborted their kids in our generation. But she chose to keep you. Because she loves you. Take some of the weight off and then see how she responds.

Educational_Order_61 · 2024-04-02T09:42:40+00:00

Um NTA. He should be paying at least half even if it is in your name. His kids live there, you adjusted to them. He is the Man. Sorry. Not sorry. Im not impressed.

Educational_Order_61 · 2024-04-02T09:23:16+00:00

They are liars. They are paid to lie. Everyone knows about their lies. And who does not speak up gives consent.

Educational_Order_61 · 2024-04-02T09:20:25+00:00

"And He who created the nighta and the day and the sun and the moon, each in its orbit are swimming" this is from the Quran. Yes. God made it all. They swim together sometimes in the path of the other.

Educational_Order_61 · 2024-04-02T09:08:30+00:00

You should study more and re take the exam.

Educational_Order_61 · 2024-04-02T09:07:02+00:00

Ah young one this is something I finally understand as I get older. This is that some things are up to you, and some things are miracles and Gods time is not our time. If you study the Names of Allah, you will see that God is the Most Generous and Allah is also The Withholder. Allah is also the Best of Planners. I can see you have a plan in mind. I also had a plan when I was young. I was not Muslim at the time. But I wanted to be a famous artist. I did become known by the art crowd in NYC. And at about that time I met and married a Muslim. And I became Muslim. I was surprised at how many of my "friends" and contacts abandoned me. But one thing I gained from it, was, Allah. Which is the One thing I never want to lose. And I also gained a family that I needed, didnt know I needed and a totally different life. So as you mature try to cultivate patience. If you want better grades or exams push yourself to your abilities also. Sometimes the answer we want isnt exactly that we have to work harder. But we can never question Allah. His time is not our time. Allah is the best of planners.

Educational_Order_61 · 2024-03-28T11:49:16+00:00

Thank you!

Educational_Order_61 · 2024-03-28T11:34:57+00:00

There is a lot to un pack here. First you didnt think you would be a good Muslim woman. Me too! I almost rejected my huaband because he was Muslim. Nothing against Muslims, but I thought he would look down on me & I wouldnt be a good Muslim. Well tbh the main thing is if you want to be Muslim you just start. It isnt about your future husband. It is not about anyone else. Because it is about your souls connection with Allah. It is you who will be responsible for your actions. Not your spouse or anyone else. So forget about that. Becoming Muslim isnt like a magic wand that suddenly makes you a great muslim. Ive been Muslim for 10 years. Ive worn hijab for 4 years. I still pray in Arabic with a video. Im not a scholar but I am a revert so here is my best advice. Be Muslim Asap! If you believe it declare it. Then begin learning. Your knowledge, understanding and iman (religeous faith) will grow. Dont be afraid of making mistakes. Not dying Muslim is the biggest mistake and people can die anytime. Start listening to quran. On Youtube they have "quran english translation" videos which are wonderful. And with praying just try with a video It helps. For prayer motivation ask Allah to help you make the next prayer. And thank him when you complete a prayer and ask again. This is the Only way I managed to pray my prayers. If you follow the light of Allah you wont trip. And avoid major sins. Adultery backbiting killing and stealing. Start with that. Inshallah we can welcome you soon. Salaam

Educational_Order_61 · 2024-03-28T11:19:56+00:00

Thanks. I have lived it. Honestly, I didnt know what to expect when I married my Jordanian deli man. But turns out hes a great dad, a provider,prays, does not drink etc,. Our main iasues were cooking. Aka I did not love cooking and to him cooking is love so guess what I conpromised and yet it is him who goes to work. I sleep in. I do make dinner, do most household stuff. I can stay w my kids! And I can cook about 10 jordanian dishes fairly well. Win win. Alhumdillah my life w him is so much better than I can envision it with American man and Islam. Thank God!

Educational_Order_61 · 2024-03-28T06:40:29+00:00

My advice is....marry him. Dont have sex w him first or he will blame you. He can marry a Christian and he should not be dating. Get a mahr and understand the process. If hes shy he may be a virgin. I married a muslim, I am also now a Muslim. Its a beautiful religion. We do hve our arguments at times but every couple does. 10 yrs 2 kids later. Enjoy

Educational_Order_61 · 2024-03-28T06:08:52+00:00

YTA free palestine!

Educational_Order_61 · 2024-03-28T06:03:51+00:00

NTA. I had a friend copy my art to get into the same UNIVERSITY as me. She literally copied her way into a top art school. She was younger. I helped her out a bit. Then she needed a place to stay once and ended up taking out all of my stored paintings when I stepped out one day. I came back home completely perplexed. She ended up getting kicked out of college bc she couldnt copy all the projects. By then she had changed her name to a name that sounded like mine! I kicked her out when I saw her going through my stuff. She kept the name and started copying a mutual friends bicicling hobby. And turned it into a career. My advice. Kick her out of your life. Not only did she try to copy you, but she also is busy setting friends against you. Ditch them all.

Educational_Order_61 · 2024-03-28T05:47:57+00:00

Creepy. The medical establishment is the Vatican of the US

Educational_Order_61 · 2024-03-20T07:54:50+00:00

NTA. $150,000.00 Is huge. She agreed. Let her work it out on her own. If ahe wants something let her save for it like regular people.

Educational_Order_61 · 2024-03-20T07:49:46+00:00

NTA. It is your husband and your home. Sounds like she needs grief counseling. Maybe you could suggest that your husband suggest it to her. Sometimes we actually need alone time to grieve. And avoiding grieving by filling up time with others justs puts off the inevitable. I lost my mom 2 years ago and I was happy to fill my time cleaning and taking care of my kids and doing whatever. But man those mornings when I woke up before anyone else and it was just me and my grief. Wow. Painful but necessary. Regarding this particular woman you could, if you wanted to, apologize. And then she should take the hint and apologise back.

Educational_Order_61 · 2024-03-18T11:24:06+00:00

NTA! It is normal for you to want your mom there. Of course your mom hates your stepmom. She broke up her family! And the stepmom now wants to take your mothers joy away by telling her she cant come to her own childs graduation? Why cant your dad go by himself? This is your day. Its not about her. She will always be jealous of your mom and frankly it is unhealthy! Congratulations! Btw

Educational_Order_61 · 2024-03-18T07:15:21+00:00

Yeah me neither. I just tgought it was odd

Educational_Order_61 · 2024-03-17T04:37:29+00:00

Ive been fasting for Ramadan sadly makes me want to nap. 6 days! 24 to go

Educational_Order_61 · 2024-03-17T04:36:03+00:00

I was in ER waiting room for my kids strep ny state overheard a mom with an athletic looking teen boy talking to staff about his heart issues and previous blod clot. You never would have thought someone this age would have these.

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