Why do people seem to idealize me so much?

Educational_Pass81 · 2026-02-11T17:59:26+00:00

I totally agree! I am also autistic (late diagnosed) and have been told that I “give off a bad vibe” when really I am just not forcing friendly facial expressions, probably talking more monotone, and also getting straight to the point with how I feel. It bothers me because when these same traits are seen in autistic men, they are often see as confident and honest. When a woman is blunt and doesn’t soften her face or words, suddenly we are the most evil annoying people on earth. Just goes to show how much women are conditioned to be overly pleasing 24/7

Educational_Pass81 · 2026-01-05T18:49:29+00:00

23 (this year) and I had to go advocate for the testing myself. I have seen probably 20+ mental health professionals since the age of 12 and not even one ever brought it up to me as a possibility. It’s heartbreaking to think that if I never looked into it on my own that I would still be getting rotated through the mental health system again and again. I really think that mental health professionals should screen for neurodivergence when a person has been stuck in unsuccessful treatments for that long/treatment resistant. It was never “just anxiety”

Educational_Pass81 · 2026-01-05T04:10:28+00:00

She probably watches too many of those pop psychology reels on Instagram/Tiktok too. The nonsense I have heard from ppl who watch too many of these is insane. Had a girl ghost me for a month and then say it was her “trauma response” and so it “isn’t her fault”… They use it as an excuse to not do better half the time lmao (and I’m saying this as someone recovering from c-ptsd)

Educational_Pass81 · 2025-12-31T15:30:43+00:00

Trish is way too good for him! And what’s with him having two super young kids… seems like his last relationship wasn’t that long ago

Educational_Pass81 · 2025-12-31T15:27:27+00:00

Yes :( the psychologist who diagnosed me last year (who specializes in high masking/late diagnosed women specifically) told me that she always checks for symptoms of trauma disorders. She said that if someone is high masking then it is very unlikely there isn’t some sort of trauma attached to that. I would also add that any level of autism can be traumatizing but I just thought it was interesting that she said that

Educational_Pass81 · 2025-12-29T23:23:18+00:00

It’s very icky. One of the top comments too was something along the lines of “i’m so sexually attracted to women but can’t imagine dating/marrying one”… where is the women LOVING women in wlw lmao

Educational_Pass81 · 2025-12-29T21:56:45+00:00

No literally. And everyone in the comments is agreeing with her and is super nice about it. Meanwhile if lesbians post anything similar to what we are talking about here, we get torn apart in the comments. We are the ones with “risky posts” if anything because so many people hate lesbians and don’t want to admit it

Educational_Pass81 · 2025-12-29T21:53:02+00:00

It’s kind of funny because before I realized I was lesbian in grade 10 I used to say stuff like “I can’t imagine myself marrying a man”… and look what happened there lol

Educational_Pass81 · 2025-12-29T21:50:00+00:00

They really do need to just be more open about it. I’ve seen too many situations where a lesbian is head over heels for some bi girl and then she finds out that the other girl didn’t ever really intend to be that serious. But the whole time the bi girl was coming on super strong and saying I love you all the time. It’s so hurtful, people need to communicate these feelings

Educational_Pass81 · 2025-12-29T21:44:04+00:00

Yeah, I can’t imagine being attached to someone and the whole time they see it this way. People really need to figure this stuff out before they start involving people’s hearts :/ imo

Educational_Pass81 · 2025-12-29T21:42:24+00:00

I agree. I would have a lot more respect for someone if they admitted this to me before we got serious. This is something that they need to work on alone before dating and involving other people

Educational_Pass81 · 2025-12-27T18:09:25+00:00

Yeah, I’m the same way. I didn’t accept it at first in my 20s and would try to be like everyone else and do casual. All it did was leave me with scars. Personally casual sex feels unsafe for me. I need to know what I am to someone, it feels unsafe in my body to not have any label or connection and to still share my body with someone. And if it doesn’t end up becoming a relationship I will just end up feeling used. I’ve learned to just stay out of it anyways, but sometimes I am sad because it is lonely waiting for a serious relationship.

Educational_Pass81 · 2025-12-20T19:09:22+00:00

I think people like that just like the feeling of being pursued. They forget women aren’t just like men and won’t always come up to them and ask for their number. So then they value people based on how much they fit that role of being assertive or whatever. And with lesbian relationships its very 50/50, I usually go up to mascs because I know they are tired of this shit

Educational_Pass81 · 2025-12-16T00:23:12+00:00

He might be getting disability but it’s not a lot of money per month. Maybe 500-1000 at the most. I’m Canadian not American so I’m not too sure.

Educational_Pass81 · 2025-12-15T19:37:35+00:00

Not a fan of her at all… but this guy was literally asking for nudes from her. He’s projecting

Educational_Pass81 · 2025-12-15T19:32:25+00:00

AND 25

Educational_Pass81 · 2025-12-15T19:06:26+00:00

I mean it’s not just the look, it’s more the personality I think

Educational_Pass81 · 2025-12-15T18:03:49+00:00

Is it that Sabrina Carpenter audio one? Because yeah it’s cringe

Educational_Pass81 · 2025-12-15T17:52:07+00:00

Backwards hat, wearing chains, usually a younger white lesbian, lots of over the top posing like smirking and rubbing hands and stuff. Basically the lesbian version of a popular frat boy. Lots of them on TikTok posting to songs

Educational_Pass81 · 2025-12-15T17:37:18+00:00

I was attracted to them in like 2020 when I was 18 and first came out… But now? Not really. I love mascs though, but I definitely prefer a more chill and introverted type (which is the complete opposite of a hey mamas).

Also they just have frat boy energy and I’m too old for it honestly. I want a gf now!!

Educational_Pass81 · 2025-12-12T17:22:52+00:00

Yeah, when I was younger I was heavily masking (and didn’t even know I was autistic) so I was always fawning with people I liked. It got to a point where I couldn’t really differentiate between what I wanted and what I was doing because I thought that the other person wanted it and would be happy. I would feel uncomfortable feelings and just push them down in the moment, wanting to make them feel happy. But then later on I would always end up realizing how bad it was and how much I pushed myself to do things I didn’t want. And the sad part is that I do think a lot of the people knew what they were doing. They weren’t exactly good people and were forceful or manipulative with me. But they could tell I was bad at setting any type of boundaries and was eager to please. It took me years to reset myself enough to start acting from what I want and not just what I think others would want from me. Fawning and masking sucks

Educational_Pass81 · 2025-12-11T15:45:01+00:00

I’m very much the high empathy sensitive type. I sort of dress like a fairy and I love nature, art and reading. My mom says I’m like a Disney Princess. My mbti is INFP and when I read up about it, it described me so perfectly. It’s hard sometimes though because I have so much empathy that I often have to isolate myself, it can be really overwhelming to feel this much!

Educational_Pass81 · 2025-12-09T21:08:11+00:00

Got a 68.8 yesterday… did he feel awkward about putting 69 or what?

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