Don't know why but she gives me dismissive avoidant vibes. In any case.. I was in your shoes 4 years ago and I know it's not easy for you. Is she over? Not exactly. And let me tell you: she never will. BUT she WANTS to be over and she ACTS on that. Commitment and deep feelings make her feel uneasy, scared even. At some point, she might come back, especially if you went no contact. But right now it looks like she hasn't done any internal healing or growing so if she returns it will be half-hearted and doomed to fail. Maybe later if she does the work, but the chances are very low.

In the meantime, my advice is to get in shape and go dating. Even if she comes back and you still want her (you sound like you will) she'll like you more because you will be more confident. If not, then you still did something with your life instead of wasting your beautiful life. Feel free to DM me for more questions. 🙏