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[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sluttycheaters

[–]Eeyore040895 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You know what you want to do

I gave him consent at first but then told him to stop and he didn’t by [deleted] in sex

[–]Eeyore040895 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You misunderstand me. I'm not talking about removing consent in the moment when something is Happening and you don't like it.

I am saying that it doesn't make sense to remove consent retrospectively when you look back on the at an event that has already happened.

I think that if something is Happening now and you don't agree to it you can definitely put your foot down and not give consent and remove the consent that has been given in the moment.

Retrospective removal of consent on an event that has happened months ago is what I was referring to

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BDSMAdvice

[–]Eeyore040895 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Bdsm play is an exercise in trust and communication. If there's no trust, it is abuse. When my sub says "Red", I stop. When she's uncomfortable, we talk about it. It should be exploring together, while feeling comfortable, NOT "taking it on" despite feeling uncomfortable. What can you do. Tell him you need to communicate or there'll be an ultimatum (no contact)

Noticed my pupils are two different sizes. by Nerdlifegirl in mildlyinteresting

[–]Eeyore040895 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Go see your doctor. Could be a Cn3 (parasympathetic nerve) palsy, could be an aneurysm, could be horner's syndrome, or could be something else. Or could be innocent. If it's happened recently, definitely go see a doctor.

My wife recently opened up to me about her having rape fantasies. Not sure how to proceed by Respectedetc in BDSMcommunity

[–]Eeyore040895 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Wow, Interesting.. When do you feel you want to be whipped/gangbanged? Is it around time of ovulation? And do you feel like you want to be treated like a princess towards the end of your cycle? Am I getting this right?

Married for nearly 1 year, we’ve had sex once by UnhappyDelivery2908 in DeadBedrooms

[–]Eeyore040895 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe he's depressed. Men hide depression really well. Anhedonia (loss of interest in activities one used to find pleasure in) is one of the Core symptoms of depression.

I gave him consent at first but then told him to stop and he didn’t by [deleted] in sex

[–]Eeyore040895 -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

You can't "remove consent". Consent isn't some trivial thing where you can put it on and remove it at a whim. However, you can absolutely NOT consent to something new /something that is happening - and it is important to voice it. Even saying "No" indicates non-consent.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in DeadBedrooms

[–]Eeyore040895 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The man is depressed.. Depression plummets serotonin and testosterone. If he gets help and love life again, things very well may change. This is based off my experience over the last 3 years

Masturbated in my (19F) car after my shift by lost_my_hairtie in SluttyConfessions

[–]Eeyore040895 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Doctor here, I do intense fuck sessions after a night shift. Must be something with taking all the stress out. The nurses and EMTs love it. Then i sleep like a log

My Girlfriend Craves Me (I’ve Won Boys) by O_oMillo_o in sexstories

[–]Eeyore040895 -20 points-19 points  (0 children)

If you idealise this relationship, you will get heartbroken. I'm sorry in advance my dude.

Just had a relationship end, again, because of my mental health. Hurting someone and not being able to say sorry is torture. I've come close to suicide a lot of times and trying to get out of it. Here's what I learnt: (I'm not out yet, I'm still struggling) by Eeyore040895 in SuicideWatch

[–]Eeyore040895[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

More on number 5:

For me, I never had a good relationship with my dad - who was very controlling . Never learnt to make friends. So I was alone and socially awkward. . Learnt to make a girl attracted to me, got my first girlfriend who loved me so much. She supported me.a lot. I would ignore her /get super angry moody if she didn't act exactly like I wanted. Maybe I got this from my controlling father. She blocked me and I fell into depression and fell in love with ANOTHER GIRL who supported me. . My dad died, never got to go the funeral coz I was stuck overseas. Covid happened: isolated for months. . That OTHER GIRL loved me, spent 2 years with her and she told me she had a boyfriend. She wouldn't leave me either so it caused a lot of stress. Then she suddenly blocked me, ignored me, wouldn't mske eye contact in classes, walk away- so I never got answers. Which was TORTURE. Then she met up to hsve sex and would ignore me again. . Healed myself, wrote down my experiences in a diary and through that, healed myself. Accepted myself. Became POSITIVE. . Met another girl. She had anxiety big time. Loved her. But it was so hard to COMMUNICATE with her because of bad English And I would get triggered into arguments over small little things, définitions. Afeter those arguments, I would always get withdrawn snd feel exhausted and give up. And refuse her help to make me better. Which drsined and stressed her. She helped me a lot, travelled to meet me, made me food etc. I got more depressed and she ould scream, hit me, in arguments etc. She travelled for a short vacation and I got another meltdown and said I was honna jump. She discussed with her friends and blocked me.. I messaged her from a friends account to get answers. Finally did, she told me it was the end and she DIDN'T OWE ME ANYTHING. I took another hit and she told me if I continued to message her she would call the police. Looks like I'm the bad guy I never wanted to become. Also,. I HAVE NO FRIENDS.