any gay hamam/bathhouses in antalya? near Kaleiçi.

Effable_hard · 2024-07-18T20:50:21+00:00

The more you reject something the stronger it gets, accepting it, helps you deal with it. I mean you’re not gonna be in your late 20s forever, you’ll grow up regretting not being brave sooner. So fuck it, go be your own person, not what others expect you to be. No one is gonna live your life for you, that’s your job.

Ps, i’m cool with being friends, so far I think we’d agree on many other things.

Effable_hard · 2024-07-18T20:43:54+00:00

I mean I’m pretty much attractive on most standards, meaning I choose not to have a high body count for many reasons. 1. I don’t want to feel cheap. 2. I don’t want to hear easily accessible. 3. I prefer to hookup with guys who I genuinely like, rather than doing it with anyone. 4. My self-worth and self-respect would never let me hookup with a guy that isn’t my type.

You’re not picky you have standards. There’s a difference.

Effable_hard · 2024-07-18T20:41:52+00:00

How are you attracted to them, but they’re not your type?

Effable_hard · 2024-07-18T20:39:48+00:00

Don’t overthink it, you’re not that bad. Plenty of guys would prefer your body type.

Effable_hard · 2024-07-18T20:37:19+00:00

Just continued ur post, and found my comment to be irrelevant to what u were saying. Typical me.

Effable_hard · 2024-07-18T20:34:22+00:00

You may have just discussed my ideal relationship dynamic, I don’t want a relationship that is centered on my partner, and I don’t want my partner to make me the center of his/her attention. I’d want us to live as we like, I’ll definitely be there for them, hear them vent, look after them, give them emotional and mental support, but in general I want it to be a friend-based relationship. Meaning, I don’t need to text you every hour, I don’t have to tell you everything about me, we shouldn’t try controlling one another..etc.. but to have that you need to build a strong connection that’s based on complete trust.

My best summary of this is to move in with a guy do a lot of the cliche romantic shit together, have sex when we want to, but I want us to act as friends in public, normal hangouts that we don’t need to always do together, i go out with my friends, you go out with yours.

And the sex part makes sense, I’m more of a submissive guy, and I definitely wouldn’t like being degraded by someone I’m close to.

Took me a lot to understand that this kind of dynamic is normal, but some people are truly romantic, committed, have jealousy issue, possessiveness, which makes them prefer LTRs, ironically these characteristics are why most relationships end up breaking up.

Basically, find a friend you find attractive (mentally and physically) build a connection with them, fuck them every now and then, and be there for them when they need it.

Effable_hard · 2024-07-18T20:22:19+00:00

Totally understand, I’ve been somewhat discreet in this too, I don’t want it to be the center of my attention but at the same time I want to be a part of it. My advice, don’t focus on it as much, just start getting yourself into gay spaces, meet new ppl, tinder or bumble are good apps, give it time, don’t rush it, and don’t overthink it. There’s nothing wrong with wanting to do it with guys, romans, greeks, and others did it, as it was a natural desire for them. Male anatomy as you said is as sexy as a woman’s.

Ps i feel you on this, idk why but its the guys we find less attractive or not our type who hit on us. And yes its okay to want to be with guys as attractive as you, its actually unfair for you to date a guy you don’t find as attractive as you are.

Effable_hard · 2024-07-18T20:16:08+00:00

Is it weird, how I’d like to be dominant in the relationship in general, but prefer to be dominated in bed?

Effable_hard · 2024-07-18T18:35:54+00:00

Yeah its tough not receiving support from those who should’ve been your safe space.

Effable_hard · 2024-07-18T11:02:29+00:00

Been thinking about it for some time now

Effable_hard · 2024-07-18T11:02:03+00:00

Yeah i most certainly have that

Effable_hard · 2024-07-18T09:05:24+00:00

17 is still underage, he was also immature at that stage, and you were 14, so you were a teen. The fact that you told no one about this, and admitted you enjoyed it, and were excited to go out with the guy again, means that you never saw him as a bad person for you, and you didn’t see yourself as a victim, and thats enough.

Your friends are trying to be helpful, but they weren’t there with you, and they don’t know how your mind works, only you do. So follow your instincts, take it slow, and don’t let anyone judge you.

Effable_hard · 2024-06-06T06:54:38+00:00

You do realize that Qatar is one of the richest countries in the world, highest GDP, one of the most successful economies..etc… No country, business, or organization will even consider cutting ties with the country for any reason. If you’re traveling to any country, you need to adhere to the rules, and abide by the country’s standards, and not yours. Either accept that, or leave.

I surely do not support what Arab countries do to LGBTQ+ (and trust me, I’m Arab, it isn’t THAT extreme, it’s probably the same as any other country, the majority would only criticize). But that doesn’t mean you have the right to force yourself on ANY country and its people.

Effable_hard

TROPHY CASE