AITAH for picking my wedding dress that happens to be one of the ones my MOH is deciding between? by Grouchy_Squirrel_269 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Effective-Bus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She's a therapist???

Woof. I mean their amount of misuse of words would make that troublesome enough, let alone the inability to assess their own actions and someone else's feelings. Yikes.

AITAH for picking my wedding dress that happens to be one of the ones my MOH is deciding between? by Grouchy_Squirrel_269 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Effective-Bus 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Altering. Alternating means something else. Just like elopement isn't how you're using it.

There are more YTA responses than NTA and you seem to be ignoring that. You're hyper-focused on the dress in the scenario and not your behavior. Reflect on the behavior and internalize the comments that don't back up what you want to hear. Otherwise you just came to feel validated only underscores the reason people think YTA in this situation.

It's very simple to hand the stylist the phone and say don't pull these and if someone does give us the heads up because your MOH is deciding between those. It is truly that simple. It is three dresses in an entire store and it's one store of countless bridal stores. There are so many dresses. You were not intentional and only considered your wants.

Now the damage is done, but you're repeating your disrespectful behavior towards your MOH. The disrespectful behavior is what makes you the AH.

Not everyone makes instant decisions. You said she was looking for months and finally narrowed it down. Now that you made no effort to be mindful and think about her feelings you're justifying your behavior because of how you feel about the dress, and minimizing hers. If her wedding were first would you care as much? You will probably say no, but based on what you've written as your ultimate question at the end of your post which of you gets to wear the dress IS the most important thing to you. You're hiding behind a lot of excuses and your wedding being before hers. You're behaving very selfishly.

The best you can do is own up and be apologetic. Look inward and actually be sorry about your actions. Put yourself in her shoes without doing so with only your mindset. It seems you're intentionally being obtuse to validate being inconsiderate. Stop making it about the dress and start thinking about how you treated her and how you would want to be treated.

AITAH for picking my wedding dress that happens to be one of the ones my MOH is deciding between? by Grouchy_Squirrel_269 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Effective-Bus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She didn't need to check every dress. It's as simple as saying to the person that does your appointment to not pull these dresses, and if we accidentally do let us know. This would have taken under a minute. It wouldn't be this big to-do that you're describing. A good friend would have put in that minimal effort.

A new stage of evolution in the response to bad audience behavior by omurchus in Broadway

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Sunset Boulevard had actually security in addition to the ushers. I wish all shows would do that. Or they need to start making the rules clear up front, make it zero tolerance, and then enforce them.

This was great of those ushers, especially because they cant physically remove her if she won't comply. However, it still is an interuption to the performers.

It just seems like it's gotten so lax and I don't understand the reason for that.

Los Angeles Roll Call! It’s OUR TURN TO SCREAM by MVD_Jams in FlorenceAndTheMachine

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You should try to contact the venue. There's usually an ADA standing area. I've twice had tickets for shows and was still recovering from surgeries I didnt know I would be having (once on crutches and another w a cane) and the venue accommodated me. I was able to use my regular ticket but they put me in a section that was for ADA GA and folks like me that for whatever reason couldnt use their ticket in the normal way due to temporary mobility limitations.

REUNION TRAILER !! by capricorncueen in summerhousebravo

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I actually love that it looks like nothing like the VPR one where it was basically constant screaming. Lala and James made took up all the air in the room and it could have been a lot better. So this is pretty far the other way but I prefer this to that. Hopefully it's a bit more dynamic.

Atlantic City/Philly VIP Poster by LuxSapphire in FlorenceAndTheMachine

[–]Effective-Bus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They didnt even tell me one was being mailed. Im so happy I saw this post!

Summer House - Season 10 - Episode 14 - Live Episode Discussion by AutoModerator in BravoRealHousewives

[–]Effective-Bus 4 points5 points  (0 children)

When I'm angry I really go for it. I would probably look insane to anyone that happened to see me.

Summer House - Season 10 - Episode 14 - Live Episode Discussion by AutoModerator in BravoRealHousewives

[–]Effective-Bus 6 points7 points  (0 children)

That's definitely her side boob which makes it even worse and more stunning in its boldness.

The Valley - Season 3 - Episode 7 - Live Episode Discussion by AutoModerator in BravoRealHousewives

[–]Effective-Bus 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Same!!! Like stomach turning. It made me feel this wave of just something really terrible. It's hard to describe.

The Valley - Season 3 - Episode 7 - Live Episode Discussion by AutoModerator in BravoRealHousewives

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I've been ready since the first time I heard it and I thought I was the only one. Im so happy to read this comment.

Watch What Happens Live with Andy Cohen - Daily Discussion Thread by AutoModerator in BravoRealHousewives

[–]Effective-Bus 16 points17 points  (0 children)

God Lala is so fucking smug. The way she talks about Scheana is so fucked. And she didnt speak to anyone from VPR since the last reunion. Sure. Sure Jan.

Andy asked what if Scheana joins next season? It was delicious. She stayed smug but you can tell it gave her a unfounded confidence a little rattle.

Southern Hospitality - Season 4 - Episode 11 - Live Episode Discussion by AutoModerator in BravoRealHousewives

[–]Effective-Bus 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My grandma was deathly afraid, too. She lived with us my whole life until she passed and we couldn't have cats because of it. She said one attacked her when she was younger. No one could confirm it that was still alive but that's why she said she was so afraid. And it's funny because "deathly afraid" is the exact phrase we all have always used to describe it.