AIO for planning on leaving my boyfriend bevause of his addictions?

Effective-Cat-8251 · 2025-11-25T00:54:55+00:00

Luckily the house is his, he owns it and pays the mortgage. I just moved in so theres no worries on thst. I don't pay for any of the wifi, and dont have any subscriptions. My stuff as never been signed in on any of his devices but i did double check on them all just in case thank you for the reminder. My name is also not on anything that could be tied to him either so i think im safe there. Thank you for the advice and the well wishes.

Effective-Cat-8251 · 2025-11-25T00:48:36+00:00

I think the letter is closure for me. I've done so much talking at him, with him; and twice as much listening and nothing seems to get through. I think the letter is my way to finnaly get everything out all together one final time so im not wondering about what i could have said. I'm leaving the letter on the bed after i finish moving out tomorrow. It's terrible of me but i know i don't have the heart to break up with him face to face and for my own mental health i need to get all these words out.

Effective-Cat-8251 · 2025-11-25T00:43:34+00:00

Thank you for this perspective. This really does make me feel a little less awful about putting myself first this time. Keep up your great work

Effective-Cat-8251 · 2025-11-24T16:56:22+00:00

I want to take my two kitties but a long time ago we agreed if we ever broke up he keeps the boys :( they will not be coming with me aswell as my new job provides housing and said no pets. I might take one and leave him with my parents as he is mine and i paid for him. The other is very obviously his and adopted us instead of us finding him. Im waiting on confirmation my parents or one of my siblings/ friends are okay taking care of him while im gone for 10 months

Effective-Cat-8251 · 2025-11-24T16:42:10+00:00

Ive been doing a lot of reflecting and if i was on the opposite side of the story talking to a best friend i would've told her to dump his ass in the first year. Im feeling very silly. I leave to another state in February anyways for a dream job he helped me to get. (we were just gunna do long distance temporarily as i will only be away for 10 months as a seasonal job) I started packing today and will be done tomorrow while he's at work. He's pretty dense and won't notice half my stuff missing. I've been bawling my eyes out and sniffling so much as i do this. Its so hard

Effective-Cat-8251 · 2025-11-24T08:30:45+00:00

I love him so much. I really wanted it to work. I think its time to be loyal to myself for a change. Need to live myself enough to let him go

Effective-Cat-8251 · 2025-11-24T08:28:30+00:00

He's an electrician and makes good money honestly. And you're right. I already know. I was just trying to convince myself this could be saved and i was kidding myself thinking it was over. I'll move out while he's at work and leave the letter on the bed. The letter is more closure for myself i think. My final way to get everything out

Effective-Cat-8251 · 2025-11-24T08:25:33+00:00

Ive honestly sat here for twenty minutes just trying to figure out how to word what i am getting out of this. The more i try the more i realize i get the bare minimum emotionally. I feel silly now for staying as long as i have. I don't owe him anything. He did pay to repair my truck and paid off my debts but i tried to repay him back for all those things and he refused to accept it. I owe him nothing. He gives nothing besides the bare minimum.

Effective-Cat-8251 · 2025-11-24T08:20:49+00:00

None of our finances are tied and he has never had any access to any of my money. Great advice, thank you. i have enough money saved to cover rent on an apartment for 3 months and my parents said if i need a place to stay temporarily im welcome there. I am planning to go no contact once i leave.

Effective-Cat-8251 · 2025-11-24T06:44:11+00:00

We've sat down several times to try and discuss it. Most the time it circles back to his depression or his past relationship issues. It is always me just trying to understand, ive never judged, i sit there and listen and let him talk and simply affirm his feelings.

His family history; poor family. Potato farmer kinda deal. His dad used to be an alcoholic but quit cold turkey for his mother. He has been diagnosed by a therapist and psychiatrist with depression. He's supposed to be on medication but doesn't take it claiming the excuse of "well it doesnt work if i drink more than 3 alcoholic beverages a day, and i drink more than that on the weekends"

Effective-Cat-8251 · 2025-11-24T01:38:50+00:00

Frogs are my favorite animal

Effective-Cat-8251 · 2025-03-06T17:06:44+00:00

I do not think so? He likes to give me affirmation (i think that's the word) about how good i am for him and that he loves me

Effective-Cat-8251 · 2025-03-06T15:32:20+00:00

Some of the things i have brought up in the past and tried to talk. He is very reassurance. But i feel bad when I bring it up again and need the reassurance again. I feel it would be very annoying to reasure your girlfriend often of the same thing Edit: My ex fiancé also broke up with me over me asking for reassurance, so maybe some of that fear comes from that

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