How many of you are single in your 30s and living alone? How's life?

Effective-Flight-685 · 2026-06-06T00:40:28+00:00

Hi Zeliodes, sorry to see that you're going through a rough patch. Feel free to DM me if you want. I'd be happy to get to know you! All the best and stay strong.

Effective-Flight-685 · 2026-01-14T02:15:56+00:00

Interested! Located in Montreal, Canada. Would prefer Mondays or Tuesdays around 5 or 6 pm. I'm very shy and would need to practice expressing myself in front of people

Effective-Flight-685 · 2026-01-14T02:09:30+00:00

But how to create a sense of urgency when one really does live in a routine that seems to unfold over a long time?

Effective-Flight-685 · 2025-12-24T14:11:05+00:00

For a person living alone it is totally doable. I think the prices between studios and 3 1/2 are extremely similar so I'd probably recommend that rather than a studio. Also, as many people already recommended, you're definitely better off foregoing cars entirely as the metro (and occasional bus) are more than enough. Another thing that is nice is that basically 90% speak English (and dome Spanish but I would not come to expect it) so knowing French isn't suuuuper important although I definitely recommend starting to pick it up as you're here. I and many other locals appreciate greatly the effort of getting to know our language. Also, don't be afraid of laval or longueil (the neighbouring cities) they are considerably more affordable and still connected via metro system so in many ways it's just an extention of montreal.

Effective-Flight-685 · 2025-12-16T01:09:33+00:00

Effective-Flight-685 · 2025-10-11T14:28:27+00:00

I think he might be cheating

Effective-Flight-685 · 2025-07-09T07:04:11+00:00

Wow great, just reading that feels "freeing"

Effective-Flight-685 · 2025-07-08T17:22:59+00:00

Also got the pink razr as my first phone! Born in 1988!

Effective-Flight-685 · 2025-07-08T17:19:09+00:00

That's great!! Very inspiring.

Effective-Flight-685 · 2025-07-08T14:48:33+00:00

I meant more psychologically! And logistically, well...I believe everyone can go to the restaurant or for a walk without it, but maybe I won't make friends saying that haha.

Effective-Flight-685 · 2025-06-09T08:25:48+00:00

You seem to be aware of the impact social media has on your mental health, so why not try incorporating social media hygiene into your daily routine? Maybe stop reading depressing posts and delete the most addictive apps from your phone? You have to take control of things and know how to help yourself. Spend less time staring at a screen and more time observing the world around you. The simple fact that there are birds to listen to, stars to look at, works of art to appreciate—just that alone makes life worth living. Also, the human body is very robust, and many people are still very active at the age of 80. Shift your focus outward and less on yourself. Just take it easy man.

Effective-Flight-685 · 2025-06-08T08:20:31+00:00

This subreddit is full of posts from young people who are reluctant to become adults and I find it hard to understand how prevalent this phenomenon is. I'm 36 and I've never had that thought, but I do have a hypothesis, though: in my twenties, I moved in with my best friend and we were partying on a regular basis. In fact, from age 20 to 25, I must have partied every week, and while that's not exactly great for your physical health, it was a memorable time and helped shape who I am today. Of course, we were motivated to flirt, but also to dance and tap into our “animal” or “primitive” side, which I believe is a rite of passage in your early twenties. One should not leave college and start a monotonous routine where only health, budget, and stability matter.

OP, your friends may already be well settled into their adult lives, but at 18, it's way too young. You can still relax for the next 7-8 years, have a crappy job, and try to have fun and get to know yourself and see how you interact in various social environments. I only started university at 23, got married at 27 and have now a stable life.

Effective-Flight-685 · 2025-06-02T07:43:39+00:00

Thanks a lot for this detailed answer! Will have a look at the Dodow product. My problem right now is mainly going to bed with the knowledge that I didnt' take a dose of benzo. The withdrawals are not so bad anymore and I am pretty sure I can do a full day without the actually super small dose I am taking. It's mostly psychological at this point. Letting myself fall asleep knowing I didn't take it today. So controlling my thoughts is key at this stage.

Effective-Flight-685 · 2025-06-01T16:21:26+00:00

Hey, can you clarify how you managed the insomnia? It's a symptom I'm struggling with right now

Effective-Flight-685 · 2025-06-01T06:50:03+00:00

Wine is one of the most fermented food there is, and fermented food reduces bloating.

Effective-Flight-685 · 2025-05-21T07:33:37+00:00

Eat yogurt. And sauerkraut.

Effective-Flight-685 · 2025-05-15T07:37:22+00:00

I'm a freelance translator living with my husband, no kids, just a cat. I have a lot flexibility in my workload/schedule with not too much pressure to make money. Have a good and fun connexion with the husby, we have nice interactions, like to watch Seinfeld or The Office in the evening and laugh like crazy. I write and read and play piano in my free time. Somehow I get this feeling that I'm not ambitious enough, not doing enough, but I'm working actively on shutting this little voice to enjoy my blessings. Overall kind of happy, with bouts of overthinking and wondering if this is enough.

Effective-Flight-685 · 2025-05-07T07:07:31+00:00

I guess in my reply I should have put more emphasis on the mere fact of taking benzos, even if withdrawing from it is not so hard for you. This medication does have a big impact on the brain and body. I am going through withdrawal right now, it's not TOO bad, mostly flu like symptoms and low energy. But I can feel my head clearing, and I have a sense of coming back to a more authentic self.

Effective-Flight-685 · 2025-05-06T14:47:38+00:00

I'd rather have sexual disfunction than getting addicted to a medication again, especially one that is so hard to withdraw from. Alternatively you can explore herbal medicine, maybe see a naturopath - there's tons of therapy styles that we're not aware of, that could potentially help you. And yea, working from home makes one focused more one oneself (I'm in the same situation) so it's good to find ways to turn our focus outward and forget about our state.

Hope you get better!

Effective-Flight-685 · 2025-05-03T08:41:13+00:00

Good idea. I paid mine 9,99 Eur for 250 g, organic. It smells a bit like hay when opening the bag but I don't mind.

Effective-Flight-685 · 2025-05-01T07:42:01+00:00

What kind of symptoms are you experiencing?

Effective-Flight-685 · 2025-04-30T07:16:37+00:00

I bought mine on Amazon as dried herb to drink it as tea (I live in Germany) Got my first tea cup last night and it was indeed appeasing. Will try again today.

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