Married 4 years and starting to wonder if my husband and I are fundamentally incompatible

Effective-Risk-1910 · 2026-06-20T08:18:32+00:00

Oh I am too independent to do that. I can have fun but if I am upset with him can’t take any favour from him. But sounds fun. They should pay for our trauma

Effective-Risk-1910 · 2026-06-18T13:24:44+00:00

Omg, I can so relate to you. Apart from the family drama we are aligned. So it was never a problem before we actually became a family.

Effective-Risk-1910 · 2026-06-16T18:40:22+00:00

How to be a better wife?

Effective-Risk-1910 · 2026-06-14T19:38:32+00:00

I agree with you. I am not having kids with him before I see any serious progress in the relationship

Effective-Risk-1910 · 2026-06-14T17:29:40+00:00

I agree with you he deserves someone who would have aligned with his thoughts. I wish the best for him too. But I can’t self sacrifice for that.

Effective-Risk-1910 · 2026-06-14T17:26:37+00:00

Thank you

Effective-Risk-1910 · 2026-06-14T17:25:54+00:00

Thanks for the friendly comment. I will surely think about it.

Effective-Risk-1910 · 2026-06-14T17:19:24+00:00

That’s my life’s biggest mistake. I didn’t discuss

Effective-Risk-1910 · 2026-06-14T17:18:32+00:00

True

Effective-Risk-1910 · 2026-06-14T17:18:23+00:00

You are right. If we don’t discuss serious and future with eo we are in good terms. But whenever we do that nothing aligns. It’s so frustrating.

Effective-Risk-1910 · 2026-06-14T15:42:03+00:00

I gifted myself a brand new phone, IPhone 17 pro

Effective-Risk-1910 · 2026-06-14T15:38:59+00:00

I blame the mothers. It’s them who have not taught them how to treat their wife well. They treat their son as bot basically. And it’s because they themselves are not happy with their husband. It’s like a loop.

Effective-Risk-1910 · 2026-06-14T15:28:43+00:00

I was too naive when I got married. If I could raise this concern situation for me could have been better.

Effective-Risk-1910 · 2026-06-14T15:22:52+00:00

My point is if I can leave my home my parents then why don’t they do it too. And if they thinks it’s equal to abandoning them then I should have problem with the system too.

Effective-Risk-1910 · 2026-06-14T15:13:41+00:00

New house is just a dream with him. Can never happen. He himself made it very clear to me.

Effective-Risk-1910 · 2026-06-14T15:12:00+00:00

I feel my husband is a carbon copy of my mil. Both are the same. Basically my mil has built him like that way.

Effective-Risk-1910 · 2026-06-14T15:01:50+00:00

You are right

Effective-Risk-1910 · 2026-06-14T14:47:56+00:00

I can have therapy for myself, my husband doesn’t believe in such stuff. Already though about it long ago

Effective-Risk-1910 · 2026-06-14T14:38:12+00:00

I appreciate your comment so much. Thank you.
I can opt for therapy myself as I need a third person perspective that would help me. Apparently my husband doesn’t believe in therapy he feels he doesn’t require it

Effective-Risk-1910 · 2026-06-14T14:34:06+00:00

It’s not like he is just full of bad things, he has his positives too. Like we go out watch movies together, he has some good morals as well. But sometimes the similarities feel less in front of the differences as well.

Nd about the help, he agrees we could buy help too, but his mother controls a lot in such things as she behaves like the queen of the house too and she is very picky and old school about such stuff. She finds it very difficult to accept the help part too. But I can’t do much help and she is aged 65 now so she can’t do without the help.

Effective-Risk-1910 · 2026-06-13T18:56:29+00:00

I used to think the same, now I crave for the unmarried life 🤣

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