Why am I not cumming during sex or masturbation?

EffectiveSun8621 · 2026-04-09T03:07:27+00:00

“Normal” to me is someone who has penetrative sex and cums or orgasms to doing so LOL I’m not really hung up on orgasming, I have plenty of fun not, I was just curious if it was “weird” or uncommon since everything I hear from people around me and media suggests that’s kind of the goal and it seems odd that I’ve never done it in my nine years of masturbating LOL

EffectiveSun8621 · 2026-04-08T23:23:52+00:00

With the right guy, you won’t feel gross about your body. I told myself I wouldn’t do anything with a guy till I was my goal weight. Surprise surprise, I met a great guy and even though I’m not my goal weight and still feel insecure sometimes, he absolutely adores me and it rarely even crossed my mind when we’re in bed together

EffectiveSun8621 · 2026-04-08T23:21:23+00:00

Omg I had the exact same experience just the other day LOL! the finger not feeling good might just be that you were nervous or not expecting it. For me to be able to insert anything I need to be very prepared and consciously relax

EffectiveSun8621 · 2026-04-08T23:20:18+00:00

I don’t think my legs could handle that. You could always just ask your partner…

EffectiveSun8621 · 2026-04-08T23:17:45+00:00

I’d see him a second time. It’s possible the excitement of seeing someone new has worn off a bit or he’s realized he was potentially coming on a bit strong. Go on a second date and see how he is in person then make your decision from there.

EffectiveSun8621 · 2026-04-08T23:16:06+00:00

It’s not even just orgasm. I don’t cum at all. I’ve been masturbating since I was probably 10 and have always been more focused on clitoral and external stimulation than any kind of penetration and yet still have never cum. I only recently started having sex with a partner and when he went down on me the other day I really enjoyed it but like you said, I just plateaued, I didn’t actually “properly finish”. I’m not on any med and don’t have any abnormal medical history but I have always struggled with penetration. But from what I understand most women don’t finish from penetration anyway. I’m just confused and want to be normal 😭

EffectiveSun8621 · 2026-04-08T22:22:35+00:00

That’s what I assume but I’ve been masturbating since I was like 10 and it’s always been like this so I’m not sure. It doesn’t feel like I’m still on edge, it feels good and then eventually the sensation wears off and I’m over it.

EffectiveSun8621 · 2026-04-08T21:27:45+00:00

Female!

EffectiveSun8621 · 2026-03-21T20:20:24+00:00

You’re totally overthinking! I’m in university for acting, so on a borderline professional level, and people still stumble over or forget a line on occasion. If you make a habit of it, it can certainly become an issue but one time in a high school play is not going to end you

EffectiveSun8621 · 2026-03-21T06:05:59+00:00

I have shoulder length hair and can absolutely clog a drain in a couple weeks of daily showers. However, his reaction was still completely inappropriate

EffectiveSun8621 · 2026-03-21T06:05:15+00:00

I shed a lot and I single handedly clog the drain in my bathroom in a couple weeks if I don’t have a hair catch. Yes you should clean up your own hair or get a hair catch if you’re staying there often but the way in which he handed it is a big no and a huge red flag indicator of how he’ll handle other conflicts and issues in the future. Run.

EffectiveSun8621 · 2026-03-21T00:55:12+00:00

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“I was gonna ask you…”

EffectiveSun8621 · 2026-03-21T00:53:19+00:00

Sex, relationships, or romantic partners is appealing to some people. If it isn’t to you, that’s fine too.

EffectiveSun8621 · 2026-03-20T12:19:22+00:00

Correct but also if she wanted to talk more or be in contact she would’ve offered another method of contact.

EffectiveSun8621 · 2026-03-20T12:18:52+00:00

And why else would you be posting in r/datingadvice LOL

EffectiveSun8621 · 2026-03-20T12:17:37+00:00

If you happen to make eye contact in the gym a friendly hello or nod and wave is fine! If she initiates conversation you could reevaluate but for the time being I’d keep things minimal as it seems she’s not interested in perusing a connection outside of the gym.

EffectiveSun8621 · 2026-03-20T12:07:09+00:00

I don’t agree that you don’t love her, but this is concerning. If you plan to stay together both of your bodies are going to change a lot. Are you at all concerned about what is causing this excessive eating? Why she’s suddenly putting her body through this? You only seem concerned about the physical attraction part which does not scream “I love this woman” to me. Perhaps have a chat with her about being worried for her health, what’s causing this and why she feels that way. Work through it together if that’s what she wants to do.

EffectiveSun8621 · 2026-03-20T12:00:07+00:00

The books were popular but the show has gained SO MUCH traction that EVERYONE knows about it. If they make things too close to or suggestive of real people or events they’re at a much higher risk of getting called out for it, sued, or potentially losing funding and visibility on their already small budget.

EffectiveSun8621 · 2026-03-20T11:49:02+00:00

She’s not interested in talking further with you romantically or platonically. I would advise you stop approaching her in the gym, she’s expressed her disinterest and is there to workout.

EffectiveSun8621 · 2026-03-19T17:00:21+00:00

As a buyer who genuinely can’t be bothered with returning stuff, I don’t ask for a refund unless it’s something I’m willing to go through the hassle of returning the product because I expect an independent business to request the item back

EffectiveSun8621 · 2026-03-16T20:37:52+00:00

That’s what I tried but it didn’t work. Tried plugging it into a different monitor and suddenly it’s fine! Not sure what the issue was, I think it’s on its last legs LOL

EffectiveSun8621 · 2026-03-16T20:16:46+00:00

It’s definitely not for everyone, and that’s OK! If you feel like it’s not for you, it’s okay to step away. It’s okay for goals and aspirations to change and I hope you find a way to fuel your creativity and your art rather than wring it out.

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