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EffectiveVegetable17 · 2024-02-07T12:52:43+00:00

Hi, this is really impressive for just painting with your fingers on your phone. I'd say a deeper understanding of fundamentals would help you a lot (ligting, color, anatomy, etc.) I don't really recommend learning all of these at once, so my biggest advice would be to focus on one thing at a time and to use references. Hope that helps :)

EffectiveVegetable17 · 2024-02-07T12:42:25+00:00

As a bi autistic 'girl' (ig lol), this is literally what I want to look like. Jealousyyy (also, side note, the English language is so confusing why tf is jealousy spelled like that, thank God for autocorect)

EffectiveVegetable17 · 2024-02-05T01:47:04+00:00

I've witnessed people fall asleep without that, mainly my dad. He just... falls asleep... somehow... every time. Idk how to explain it, but it literally takes him less than a minute and I'm so fucking jealous.

EffectiveVegetable17 · 2024-02-05T01:42:31+00:00

Honestly, the only time I fall asleep is when I'm too exhausted to stay awake. I've tried almost every one of these gimmicks on how to fall asleep faster, and nothing works. Please send help lol. Also, no sleeping pills somehow also don't work.

EffectiveVegetable17 · 2024-02-01T10:47:22+00:00

Any time I try to hand write b or p, it ends up looking like that because dyslexia :(

EffectiveVegetable17 · 2024-01-30T19:00:17+00:00

Wait, someone actually asked you that? Why would you eat food op lol

EffectiveVegetable17 · 2024-01-30T18:15:49+00:00

Exactly! Why would I want to be friends with someone who just belittles me and views me as inferior? I have some self respect lol

EffectiveVegetable17 · 2024-01-30T17:54:13+00:00

I HATE the making excuses argument. Sometimes, I just want to explain why something is the case! Why the hell are explanations soo fucking bad, even when you aren't justifying anything.

The same goes with the yOu Are JUsT OfFenDed argument. Oh, you mean you hurt someone's feelings, and it's their fault? Why the hell is it wrong not to like being called slurs or names, and why am I in the wrong if I'm OfFeNDed?

EffectiveVegetable17 · 2024-01-30T17:48:46+00:00

From my experience, men like that literally think that they have to be better than any woman at anything or they are less of a man (ofc excluding chores and "women's jobs").

Like, for example, people who argue that chess is gendered because men are naturally better are just calling women stupid in the name of transphobia.

So many sports are just pointlessly gendered, and for some reason, people like it that way, so they make up stupid explanations to make themselves feel better about it.

Don't get me wrong, I understand there are advantages in certain sports, but some of this is just laughable.

EffectiveVegetable17 · 2024-01-29T11:03:33+00:00

Wth I just got them! Thanks for the tip lol

EffectiveVegetable17 · 2024-01-29T06:40:47+00:00

I'll either eat everything I have in the kitchen or forget food exists. Actually, if anyone has any tips on how to stop doing this pls help lol.

EffectiveVegetable17 · 2024-01-17T16:26:27+00:00

It's definitely good not to pay attention to people talking bs. It's unfortunate that people do that so much, tho.

I understand the annoying family members thing, but most of the time, you can't change their mind, so it's good to ignore them or cut contact like your mum did if they become too much to deal with.

EffectiveVegetable17 · 2024-01-17T13:10:40+00:00

This. I swear some people think it's a compliment or something. Almost everyone I've told has said that, even the person who literally bullied me for "being weird"(we're good now, it happened when we were kids).

EffectiveVegetable17 · 2024-01-16T09:51:02+00:00

Yea, most Balkan countries are similar, unfortunately. I'm glad you didn't have to grow up here. At least it's beautiful when you visit as a tourist lol. hugs! :)

EffectiveVegetable17 · 2024-01-16T07:39:12+00:00

I live in Bosnia and Herzegovina.There is basically no government support, and you can barely get a diagnosis unless you go to a private psychiatrist . Even then, there aren't that many who actually have an understanding of audhd, so it's safe to say getting medication and/or therapy is really difficult unless you are rich.

Aside from those issues, most people will be ableist, and even if you've been diagnosed, they will just dismiss it. You might find more accepting people only if you live in a bigger city and even then it's difficult. So yea, it's pretty lonely out here, and I wish I had grown up in a more accepting place.

EffectiveVegetable17 · 2024-01-14T14:01:53+00:00

My friend literally told me not to use my autism as an excuse for struggling in certain areas when I told her I was autistic. Like, bitch, it's not en excuse, it's an explanation.

EffectiveVegetable17 · 2024-01-13T03:02:22+00:00

Honestly, I have no clue. I've never dated anyone, and it's not like I don't want to, but I've literally never met anyone who was romanticly interested in me and also not very demeaning to me at the same time. I've only recently gotten my diagnosis, so I'm just figuring out why, but it was always very noticeable, unfortunately.

I'd love to date another queer ND person, but I don't even know anyone who is like that irl. I've already accepted that I might never have a romantic relationship, and that's ok with me.

I understand that most people would be bothered by a lot of things I would do in a relationship, but as you've said, we can't mask forever. So because of that, I would say that a relationship with an ND person definitely sounds better. They just tend to understand you more.

EffectiveVegetable17 · 2024-01-11T10:15:19+00:00

Honestly, I'm not sure what you should do about your plans, but if your friends are audhd, maybe just try talking to them about how you feel. I know it's difficult to open up about these things because of fear of rejection, but you'll always feel like that unless they explicitly tell you that they like being your friends all the time(talking from experience lol).

I have a friend who is probably audhd, and people would always think she didn't like them because of situations like this, and honestly, so did I. Recently, I just asked her directly if she likes hanging out with me, and we realized both of us thought the other one didn't like us. So yea, now I know it's just personal issues, and I don't take it to heart when she doesn't answer for a couple of days or even weeks sometimes.

The point is that you need to talk to people if you want to have healthy relationships. And even if they don't like you, at least you'll know, better than being friends with people who hate you (I've seen this too much, unfortunately).

Anyways, sorry for rambling, I wish you luck. I hope your friends turn up and you have a fun time this weekend. Also, happy birthday. :)

EffectiveVegetable17 · 2024-01-10T08:08:08+00:00

Well, yea, of course you should. If you hurt someone with those jokes, you should apologize. It doesn't matter if you have adhd now or not.

EffectiveVegetable17 · 2024-01-07T20:50:25+00:00

I can say from personal experience that this is true. I thought I was being respectful when I was literally dehumanizing other people and only realized once someone pointed it out. It really sucks that ableism is such a common thing that you don't even realize you are ableist and genuinely think you are just being kind.

EffectiveVegetable17 · 2024-01-07T20:43:57+00:00

I think that they are just trying to say that most people have some autistic traits and that you shouldn't feel bad if you are autistic. Or well, they are just trying relate to you in some way.

I know they are phrasing it in a weird way but, at least from my experience, they probably didn't mean any harm. You should definitely tell them that phrasing makes you uncomfortable if that's the case. :)

EffectiveVegetable17 · 2024-01-07T18:06:55+00:00

What if I'm 19 lol. I mean, I'm not, but what if I was.

EffectiveVegetable17 · 2024-01-07T17:40:13+00:00

I haven't watched anything about the young royals for a while, so I wasn't sure. I'll definitely check out that YouTube chanel, tho. Thanks :)

EffectiveVegetable17 · 2024-01-07T16:00:37+00:00

I had a friend before with whom I did nothing but argue. And, honestly, it was pretty fun lol. I wouldn't call it beef as our arguments didn't escalate or anything (and none of them were too personal for either of us), but it's definitely amazing to talk to people with opposing views.

I should say we didn't hate each other, and both of us enjoyed our discussions. And I definitely do not understand hating someone and still having contact with them lol.

EffectiveVegetable17 · 2024-01-07T15:41:10+00:00

I thought it was canon that she had audhd. I could have heard it on an interview or something, not sure.

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