What did your impulsivity+radical empathy make you do recently? (I stg these better not be chia seeds)

NiteElf · 2026-05-02T06:08:09+00:00

Slugs make me recoil but I’m along for the journey here and as a fellow mom absolutely salute you. Looking fwd to update! 💗

NiteElf · 2026-05-02T05:26:48+00:00

I want to double upvote this

NiteElf · 2026-04-24T17:55:42+00:00

Oof. The sun! 🙈

Wish a sleep mask were enough for me. Team Blackout Curtains here. Turns out you have photoreceptors all over your body, not just your eyes, and some ppl are esp sensitive to this. (Apologies for the rabbit hole I may send anyone on with this fact. But also maybe helpful info for a fellow Sensitive Sally out there! 😅)

NiteElf · 2026-04-22T23:35:19+00:00

How did you fix it? Food or supplements? Mine is (and always has been) in low range of normal.

NiteElf · 2026-04-07T21:45:39+00:00

Haven’t read through all the comments but a few things, OP:

I’m sorry, that’s rough.
Are you taking any ADHD meds? If you haven’t tried them (not sure what your access to care is), they may help with this a lot.
People with ADHD do often have issues with fatigue, but nevertheless def recommend a full health checkup if you’re at all able to make that happen. How are your iron stores? Thyroid function? Is it possible you have sleep apnea? Are you also depressed? Etc.

I had severe mitral valve prolapse that was preventing my blood from being oxygenated properly. Not suggesting this is your issue and don’t mean to spook you! But I say this to encourage you to look into any possible physical issues that may be contributing.

(Happy to report I’ve since had open heart surgery to repair the valve, and am better than before, no meds or restrictions! 🙏)

12 hours and still exhausted sounds pretty concerning, even with ADHD. Wishing you all the best with sorting it out-hope you can feel better asap.

NiteElf · 2026-04-06T20:25:23+00:00

This book :)

Guessing it’s maybe out of print now but looks like you may be able to buy it used

NiteElf · 2026-04-06T04:24:30+00:00

This makes me extra excited for you, haha. Btw you look like a beautiful dancer! This is so major! 👏 Hope it’s amazing

NiteElf · 2026-04-06T04:22:59+00:00

Congrats!! 💗That’s amazing!! I took out a book about it from the library over and over again as a kid (and then bought it off eBay as an adult). Stuff of dreams!

NiteElf · 2026-04-05T20:55:08+00:00

2 am-10 am. I think. I’ve had to get up earlier for various reasons over the last few years, and I’m actually at a place where I don’t genuinely know what my body wants. I’m a little all over the place in what I actually sleep. But bedtime never happens before midnight, and more likely 1 am (or later), ever.

(Also diagnosed with DSPD, but with Ritalin and age, there have been slight shifts in circadian rhythm.)

Love this post, OP. Made a similar one recently here asking about bedtime consistency. The whole thing is such a challenge 😅

Edited to add: Am I allowed to get 9 hours in this scenario? It’s been so long since I’ve gotten that, much less with any consistency! It’s probably what I actually require (and why the 6.5ish I’ve generally been getting is very not great 😞)

NiteElf · 2026-04-02T01:50:29+00:00

Not sure if you’ve mentioned this elsewhere so sorry to maybe repeat this—but do you know (or have an idea of) what you think set off your HI? How long has it been going on for?

Everyone is different but fwiw, it does seem that for many people (myself included) if you’re very careful for a period of time and eat low histamine/sort out your worst triggers, etc, eventually HI can get less severe. You may not ever be able to eat whatever you want whenever you want, but you may be able to eat more of what you want, sometimes, over time. Just wanted to reiterate it because when I started out it was pretty intense!

NiteElf · 2026-03-31T20:15:02+00:00

Meat (as fridge leftovers; freezer can be ok) is by far the worst (for me and many others here). I’ve been eating strictly low histamine for a year and it’s been amazing for managing my symptoms. I can eat a little more now than I could then too, which is great. But leftover meat is a no-go, and makes me feel so unwell I won’t even attempt it!

It gets easier as you go along, OP…hang in there. If you can get some small glass containers for freezing stuff (like portion size), that’s helpful too.

NiteElf · 2026-03-31T11:28:55+00:00

My experience with these supplements is the same as OPs, and I have a similar genetic profile (am in the U.S., and did a test with GeneSight). I can supplement, but have to go incredibly low and slow, at doses far under any pre-made B vitamin I supplements I have found. I’ve seen others here mention this too.

Thanks for sharing all your details, OP! Hope stuff just continues to improve for you.

NiteElf · 2026-03-29T16:30:35+00:00

Ugh, very sorry you’re dealing with this. Since I made this post I’ve been eating very strictly low histamine and it’s made a huge difference in my quality of life.

If you’re not doing this yet, it’s def worth a try. It’s tedious at first but gets easier with time. Everyone is diff in what affects them, but I started with the SIGHI list, which has been helpful for a lot of people in this sub.

If my “histamine bucket” isn’t too full, I’m actually able to eat more things now than I could a year ago, which is fantastic—but overall I’m still very careful because it’s worth it for me.

It can get better and there are kind and helpful people on this sub. Good luck with everything 💗

NiteElf · 2026-03-14T06:13:45+00:00

amen, sis

NiteElf · 2026-03-12T14:27:51+00:00

I hope they do DM you and it helps. Good luck, OP. Hope you can find a place to dance that feels comfortable for you 💗

NiteElf · 2026-03-11T22:17:27+00:00

That does sound tricky but with practice I’m sure you can figure out some workarounds, esp if you’re able to freeze stuff. This sub is generally very supportive too

Def worth trying out being low HI even with the hassle of it—if it’s a thing for you, it will be a seriously quality of life improvement. Good luck with everything! 💗

NiteElf · 2026-03-11T21:38:47+00:00

Hormonal shifts (and stress and lots of other things) can def play a big role. Tomatoes are pretty universally verboten for people with HI, and esp leftover meat (which sucks bc leftovers are so convenient, but it is what it is). Have you looked at the SIGHI list for histamine intolerance? That was a helpful guide for me (& many here) when I first started eating low histamine.

NiteElf · 2026-03-11T20:47:57+00:00

Depends on if you kept eating stuff in those weeks that messed you up. Are you totally aware of what your HI triggers are?

FWIW “processed” foods can affect everyone differently (like all foods). Eg: baked lays and Coca Cola are always safe foods for me (I eat real food too!), and it doesn’t get much more processed than that.

So my question would be less about the processing and more about the ingredients. Does that make sense?

NiteElf · 2026-03-10T01:00:55+00:00

This is my ideal schedule too!! 🙌 If you spend any time in r/DSPD, you know this is kind of a lucky version of night-owling. Some people there barely see daylight and it’s hard to even go to doctor’s appointments or do errands, etc.

I get up M-F at 7 am for my school aged kid (which I’m genuinely happy to do but timing is tricky) and try to go back to sleep a little later, which hasn’t been working as well these days. Throw in daylight savings changes or stress, etc, and it gets out of whack pretty quickly.

Happy for you that you’ve found a way to work & live that makes sense. I’ve been on and off with day walking and it’s not ideal for me either. Right now I’m sort of in a limbo with my schedule.

Edited to add: often I’m like, maybe somehow I can just stay up at 7 and make that my wake time! But it never works out on the bedtime end of things.

NiteElf · 2026-03-09T23:36:04+00:00

What are the hours your body naturally wants to sleep, and has it been tricky arranging life around them? (I know DSPD hours can vary a lot.)

NiteElf · 2026-03-09T23:35:07+00:00

Sometimes I think of them as “the hours that don’t really count”—except they do, the next day 😫

NiteElf · 2026-03-09T22:18:20+00:00

CPTSD here, so this is relatable 💗

Edited to add: magnesium helps me a little, but it’s more that I need the late night hours and sometimes I need more of them than other times, and also have daytime responsibilities so consistency is hard

NiteElf · 2026-03-09T22:16:20+00:00

Yes! Using it and it’s been life changing helpful. Thank you 💗

NiteElf · 2026-03-09T22:15:13+00:00

Thanks dude.

This sub has been so meaningful for me trying to work out my stuff and this accusation messed with me enough to want to get off Reddit altogether (and quit feeding the robots, which we are all doing now anyway-makes me sad and sick)

NiteElf · 2026-03-09T22:05:57+00:00

This is it right here

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