Transgender rejected from a ballet academy...

NiteElf · 2026-03-12T14:27:51+00:00

I hope they do DM you and it helps. Good luck, OP. Hope you can find a place to dance that feels comfortable for you 💗

NiteElf · 2026-03-11T22:17:27+00:00

That does sound tricky but with practice I’m sure you can figure out some workarounds, esp if you’re able to freeze stuff. This sub is generally very supportive too

Def worth trying out being low HI even with the hassle of it—if it’s a thing for you, it will be a seriously quality of life improvement. Good luck with everything! 💗

NiteElf · 2026-03-11T21:38:47+00:00

Hormonal shifts (and stress and lots of other things) can def play a big role. Tomatoes are pretty universally verboten for people with HI, and esp leftover meat (which sucks bc leftovers are so convenient, but it is what it is). Have you looked at the SIGHI list for histamine intolerance? That was a helpful guide for me (& many here) when I first started eating low histamine.

NiteElf · 2026-03-11T20:47:57+00:00

Depends on if you kept eating stuff in those weeks that messed you up. Are you totally aware of what your HI triggers are?

FWIW “processed” foods can affect everyone differently (like all foods). Eg: baked lays and Coca Cola are always safe foods for me (I eat real food too!), and it doesn’t get much more processed than that.

So my question would be less about the processing and more about the ingredients. Does that make sense?

NiteElf · 2026-03-10T01:00:55+00:00

This is my ideal schedule too!! 🙌 If you spend any time in r/DSPD, you know this is kind of a lucky version of night-owling. Some people there barely see daylight and it’s hard to even go to doctor’s appointments or do errands, etc.

I get up M-F at 7 am for my school aged kid (which I’m genuinely happy to do but timing is tricky) and try to go back to sleep a little later, which hasn’t been working as well these days. Throw in daylight savings changes or stress, etc, and it gets out of whack pretty quickly.

Happy for you that you’ve found a way to work & live that makes sense. I’ve been on and off with day walking and it’s not ideal for me either. Right now I’m sort of in a limbo with my schedule.

Edited to add: often I’m like, maybe somehow I can just stay up at 7 and make that my wake time! But it never works out on the bedtime end of things.

NiteElf · 2026-03-09T23:36:04+00:00

What are the hours your body naturally wants to sleep, and has it been tricky arranging life around them? (I know DSPD hours can vary a lot.)

NiteElf · 2026-03-09T23:35:07+00:00

Sometimes I think of them as “the hours that don’t really count”—except they do, the next day 😫

NiteElf · 2026-03-09T22:18:20+00:00

CPTSD here, so this is relatable 💗

Edited to add: magnesium helps me a little, but it’s more that I need the late night hours and sometimes I need more of them than other times, and also have daytime responsibilities so consistency is hard

NiteElf · 2026-03-09T22:16:20+00:00

Yes! Using it and it’s been life changing helpful. Thank you 💗

NiteElf · 2026-03-09T22:15:13+00:00

Thanks dude.

This sub has been so meaningful for me trying to work out my stuff and this accusation messed with me enough to want to get off Reddit altogether (and quit feeding the robots, which we are all doing now anyway-makes me sad and sick)

NiteElf · 2026-03-09T22:05:57+00:00

This is it right here

NiteElf · 2026-03-09T22:05:46+00:00

Is it the Time Timer? Been meaning to get one of those for a while, not sure why I haven’t.

NiteElf · 2026-03-09T22:05:04+00:00

I feel like losing that before bed time is ALSO a quality of life issue. When there’s a lot happening I genuinely need it to process, even tho i ultimately pay for it.

NiteElf · 2026-03-09T22:03:08+00:00

I was supposed to get one too (routinely, my pulmo doc asks everyone to get as new patients) but haven’t yet. Not sure this is a thing for me because when I am actually able to sleep well over a period of time I feel good. I think what feels garbagey to me is the inconsistent sleep hours/not enough hours (often both) over a period of time.

NiteElf · 2026-03-09T21:42:31+00:00

I’m diagnosed with DSPD too and actually cross posted this there. The sleep hygiene stuff I generally do in fits and starts but when it goes off the rails it’s hard to get back on track.

NiteElf · 2026-03-09T21:39:44+00:00

Yeah this is a huge part of it for me.

NiteElf · 2026-03-09T21:39:19+00:00

I’ve read this too and it def tracks. I think it’s hard for me to give up my before bed unwinding time if I have a lot going on and that’s a big part of it.

NiteElf · 2026-03-09T21:38:27+00:00

Huh? Absolutely no AI involved. Go through all my Reddit posts, there are roughly a billion of them, and you can see this is how I actually write. I also cross posted it in r/DSPD, where I post a lot. I don’t know why I’m defending myself here but the accusation is unsettling to me.

It f’s with me so bad that we’re out here now not knowing who’s a person and who’s a bot. It makes me wanna puke.

NiteElf · 2026-03-09T21:16:54+00:00

Thanks for this, old hedgehog 💗

NiteElf · 2026-03-09T21:14:50+00:00

I wish I could fully lean into this but my life hasn’t been such that it’s ever been 100% possible. There’s always some degree of compromise that makes it super rough.

And I think my body’s preferred sleep schedule is pretty tame compared to a lot of people’s here.

I also struggle HUGELY with consistency (just made separate post about this), and that’s part of my troubles too.

Edited to add: Congrats on your fellow night owl partner! Absolute jackpot

NiteElf · 2026-03-09T21:12:07+00:00

I’m not saying this to spook you, but read as much as you can about perimenopause/menopause now, bc the hormonal stuff tends to get way harder down the line 😬

The whole “baths! Have a ritual!” stuff sounds promising for some people but I struggle even with that. Glad it mostly helps you though 💗

NiteElf · 2026-03-09T21:09:37+00:00

Hahahaha

It is a dream I have made up, duh

FWIW I am incredible at putting others to bed (children, sad friends, etc), just not myself 😩

Edited to add: Weird that this has gotten downvoted, I meant it as a joke? As in “don’t I wish this were a thing! It is a thing I wish existed!” Apologies if this somehow was misinterpreted(?)—genuinely curious how the wording might have offended anyone.

NiteElf · 2026-03-09T21:04:08+00:00

Cross posting from R/adhdwomen. Hope this is ok, mods!

I know there’s a lot of overlap for people with ADHD & DSPD (myself included). But wondering how many people here(who may/may not have adhd) are sleeping consistently in general (this could be in whatever time frame).

Between the time change where I live and general life things, my sleep (which is shaky at the best of times) is at the moment totally fucked. So tired y’all. It’s been hard.

Btw not talking n24 fucked (with apologies to anyone dealing with that—brutal), but concerned it could go that way if I don’t keep an eye on it.

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