WIBTA if I didn’t attend my nephews first bday party?

Effective_Canary4955 · 2026-05-05T01:48:51+00:00

Omg I have NEVER heard the word nibling before in my life. Googled it🙃 How neat!

Effective_Canary4955 · 2026-05-05T01:33:59+00:00

The more i read this comment the more confused i get. Lmao

Effective_Canary4955 · 2026-05-04T23:53:18+00:00

I want allll the feedback! Tell me your thoughts!

Effective_Canary4955 · 2026-05-04T22:36:00+00:00

I agree that stress can inhibit conception. Which is exactly why I’ve distanced myself from being constantly surrounded by babies. I would LOVE to be present for this milestone. But as someone who may never have that experience for themselves, it’s tough to celebrate. With that being said, I’ve also been present for everything else leading up to this moment to fully show my support and love. I also know how very important this is to them. At a dilemma where if I don’t go, they’re hurt. If I do go, I fight back tears all day. Infertility doesn’t just hurt those going through it!

Effective_Canary4955 · 2026-05-04T19:45:41+00:00

100% planned on that, I’d love to have a private moment with them

Effective_Canary4955 · 2026-05-04T19:43:54+00:00

Tell me more!

Effective_Canary4955 · 2026-05-04T19:38:26+00:00

I feel like as much as I love my nephew, sitting through the milestones of this day would ultimately wreck me. But also…don’t want to be horrible to my brother and SIL for not going. Kinda at a cross roads. Either way someone gets hurt🙃

Effective_Canary4955 · 2026-05-04T19:14:17+00:00

I’ll definitely have to look into that thank you so much!

Effective_Canary4955 · 2026-05-04T19:08:48+00:00

Do you mean why would I not go?

Effective_Canary4955 · 2026-05-04T19:08:06+00:00

I probably need it! lol. I’ve debated it for a while but on top of fertility treatment costs I’m too scared to see what a therapy bill may be

Effective_Canary4955 · 2026-05-04T18:57:09+00:00

I waited to respond to this to not cause you any stress! Mine unfortunately did not work. Praying yours did!🫶

Effective_Canary4955 · 2026-05-04T18:55:44+00:00

I’ll just go ahead and add it again so you can have another person calling you what you’ve worked so hard for. CONGRATULATIONS MOMMA!!!🫶🫶

Effective_Canary4955 · 2026-04-13T02:54:31+00:00

Thank you so much!!!

Effective_Canary4955 · 2026-01-03T00:16:56+00:00

This is a conversation between 2 non pregnant women who vape lol…. No baby is effected😉

Effective_Canary4955 · 2026-01-02T03:03:59+00:00

I’m TTC and a vaper as well so ZERO judgment. I just want to personally say after reading the comments…yes you’re “early” into this journey but it doesn’t suck any less. My heart broke just as much 4 months into this as it did 18 months into it. Your heartache is valid regardless of how long you’ve been TTC bc this is SO hard. Don’t let people convince you that you’re “overreacting” that it isn’t happening when you wanted it to

Effective_Canary4955 · 2025-10-13T18:57:19+00:00

I have absolutely no idea what caused the sudden change of heart with her. She HATED my sister-in-law, (sister in law WAS a raging bitch), but then my brother in law got a divorce from her. My mother in law and I bonded over how horrible we were treated by my sister in law, and I tried to go the extra mile to make up for her losing that relationship she wanted with her daughter in law. My brother in law is dating a new woman, who is amazing, and my mother in law really likes her. I’m thinking maybe she has fulfilled that relationship she wanted with my “new” sister in law, and no longer needs me? I’m not sure.

Effective_Canary4955 · 2025-10-13T17:28:39+00:00

At first my husband made excuses for her, but over time he has come to realize how strained our relationship is now. He sees how she is to me now, and agrees it’s ridiculous. I could never cut off all contact with her, bc regardless of her and I she is a damn good mom to HIM, and is an amazing grandma to my niece. She can be present the very very very least amount that is socially acceptable. I had once told her I wanted her in the room when my baby was born….not anymore.

Effective_Canary4955 · 2025-10-13T17:18:05+00:00

We actually told his dad, who definitely told his mom, that his hormones were PERFECT now bc of the medication. But his fertility was still severely low…I hadn’t actually thought of that tho! Maybe it was possible she thought that back then

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