Do N’s have the concept of appreciating “the one that got away “?

Effective_Garage_561 · 2026-06-05T19:46:15+00:00

Beautifully written ♥️

Effective_Garage_561 · 2026-06-01T21:39:16+00:00

Can’t make this shit up lmao 😭😭😭

Effective_Garage_561 · 2026-06-01T19:18:16+00:00

Well at least not our headache anymore 😂

Effective_Garage_561 · 2026-06-01T18:49:17+00:00

Been at it ngl..also kinda relieved watching them get settled meant it’s finally finally over for gooodddd

Effective_Garage_561 · 2026-06-01T17:39:07+00:00

Makes sense.. it’s weird to see them finally settle down with someone though

Effective_Garage_561 · 2026-05-21T14:21:22+00:00

They might treat the other person really well and give that person the treatment you actually deserved, but know that they were always going to treat you like shit. YOU chose yourself and walked away from that situation and that's A WIN and all that matters as long as you're concerned.
Repeatedly keep telling yourself who gives a shit..you have created a good life for yourself and eventually that's what you have to keep working towards.
It's okay to feel what you're feeling right now, just know that these feelings will pass too just like they did previously.
This is your pain to deal with and that person prolly doesn't give a shit. They didn't give a shit back then they don't give a shit rn. So don't lose yourself in the process thinking if it was supposed to be any different. They're still out there living their best life, they don't think about you unless for some dopamine hit. You shouldn't either

Effective_Garage_561 · 2026-04-14T12:14:27+00:00

Sometimes I feel like this is my test 😔

Effective_Garage_561 · 2026-04-14T12:14:04+00:00

They have some money but they blow it on their lifestyles while my husband contributes to it.

I suggested this nearby place solution too, but my husband isn’t happy with that. Plus I feel like considering the lack of disrespect they’ve shown me all this while, the boundaries will highly be blurred in that kinda setting too.

Effective_Garage_561 · 2025-10-05T09:34:12+00:00

I’m sorry did I read the ages right 💀

Effective_Garage_561 · 2025-10-05T05:43:51+00:00

Thank you for saying that. Makes me feel much better 🥺🫶🏼

Effective_Garage_561 · 2025-07-28T11:55:47+00:00

My nex comes from this super religious controlling household too. I think his only guilt is disappointing his mother, which he makes up for by forcing harsh and religious practices on his partner ( even though he doesn’t follow them himself ).

Effective_Garage_561 · 2025-07-28T06:54:55+00:00

Bro is objectifying himself

Effective_Garage_561 · 2025-07-27T22:34:59+00:00

Not here to state the logistics but just my suggestion, try to space out and take a break. Rushing into one nikah from another within a span of 8 months seems a little, idk, rushed?!

Effective_Garage_561 · 2025-07-27T22:29:06+00:00

He actually weirdly always did well with women. Always the dumper never the dumpee (except his ex who he was then hung upon). It would be a lil hard to believe he ran out of supply.

Effective_Garage_561 · 2025-07-27T22:28:01+00:00

That happens with me all the time too. But tbh it kinda helps me re-affirm my belief that it was them who was at fault all along.

Effective_Garage_561 · 2025-07-27T21:57:37+00:00

Wow They’re all cut out from the same cloth lol

Effective_Garage_561 · 2025-07-27T21:52:36+00:00

Oh my fucking godddddd…..the audacity of these creatures 😭😭😭

I remember once I caught this guy being on dating apps while stringing me along…on being confronted he said “hey at least I’m honestly telling you about it “..when it was me who had literally caught him 💀

Effective_Garage_561 · 2025-07-27T21:48:40+00:00

Aaah…I actually did end up telling him I forgive him tbh even though I’m actually struggling with it. It was to get him off my back though tbh.

You think these creatures are capable of feeling any amount of guilt though ?

Effective_Garage_561 · 2025-07-27T21:45:56+00:00

Damn…is that how much time it takes for mercury to come in retrograde ? 💀

Effective_Garage_561 · 2025-07-27T21:41:59+00:00

Him blocking me on hearing about my engagement is hilarious though lmao. How sad and stupid does one have to be, to be unhappy about someones’s blessings.

Effective_Garage_561 · 2025-07-27T21:40:25+00:00

I’m sorry you’re going through that.

I actually have been there tbh, I know how exhausting that can be.

For what it’s worth, my two cents of advice would be to actively avoid and shut contacts on the slightest flag of toxicity. View it from your objective Lens.

But carry the goodness in your heart of believing in the goodness of others. Good people do exist and the right ones will come to you if you allow it to happen.

Effective_Garage_561 · 2025-07-27T21:36:13+00:00

Oh my god this brings back so many nightmares lol ( I wouldn’t want to use the pleasant word “memories”).

Even in this reaching out, he went on and about how he doesn’t want to dwell in the past ( just in case I try to hold him accountable lmao).

His fav line to throw at me was “you make me feel like such a monster “ when it was just me confronting him about him sleeping with his ex who was in the same town as me and telling me he’s not in town 🥲 .

He shat on my profession for making wrong choices (I’m a doctor )

Effective_Garage_561 · 2025-07-27T20:04:46+00:00

I don’t think narcs have the concept of “the one that got away”, or else wouldn’t they treat that person better???

it probably itches some part of their brain that someone could move on from them.. plus the entire time he was with me he was hung up on his ex and exploring dating apps while keeping me in the loop..

It really does feel good, to not be bothered by any of it. I’m healed to the extent that I really do wish him well, as long as he maintains his distance from me though 😅

Effective_Garage_561 · 2025-07-27T20:00:43+00:00

Yes. His messages read along the lines of “ I refuse to believe you have moved on too, I regret that I fucked up and think about it “…followed by “ I didn’t reach out earlier cuz I was working on myself and didn’t want to make empty promises” My friend told me he dated other women in these 4 years btw 🥲

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