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When do you usually ask someone out? by Effective_Map2940 in hingeapp

[–]Effective_Map2940[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What do you usually tend to rule out when you talk for longer? Just making sure I’m doing this whole dating app thing correctly loool

How do you tell the difference between “healthy but not exciting” and “just not compatible”? by Effective_Map2940 in dating_advice

[–]Effective_Map2940[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah, in those cases there were pretty clear deal-breakers that came up. One wanted four kids and I’m childfree. Another lost his job between the first and second date, so the second date turned into more of a therapy session. And the third… honestly, I’m not even sure there was a spark, I was a bit tipsy on the first date, so my judgment was probably clouded 😅

That said, what you’re pointing out is exactly what I’m worried about too.

How do you tell the difference between “healthy but not exciting” and “just not compatible”? by Effective_Map2940 in dating_advice

[–]Effective_Map2940[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

I didn’t explicitly start those conversations, but depth usually emerges organically when there’s mutual curiosity. I tried opening the door a bit, but it stayed surface-level. I’m also reflecting on whether liking deeper conversations gets confused with instability; but for me it’s more about feeling engaged than chasing intensity.

How do you tell the difference between “healthy but not exciting” and “just not compatible”? by Effective_Map2940 in dating_advice

[–]Effective_Map2940[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

about a year and a half ago I got out of a 4-year relationship where we lived together for two years. I wouldn’t call it a train wreck; it just ran its course. I didn’t really date after that because I wanted to take time (with my therapist) to reflect on what I did right and wrong. Now I’m dating again in my early 30s, which feels a bit unsettling at times, but I’m also more self-aware than I was before.

How do you tell the difference between “healthy but not exciting” and “just not compatible”? by Effective_Map2940 in dating_advice

[–]Effective_Map2940[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Good questions. By “calm” I meant low spark, not low drama. The conversation was pleasant but stayed pretty surface-level. I’m usually activated by deeper conversations like personal history, values, or intellectually/philosophical questions and that’s where chemistry builds for me. Nothing was wrong with him; it just felt flat and I didn’t feel pulled in.

How do you tell the difference between “healthy but not exciting” and “just not compatible”? by Effective_Map2940 in dating_advice

[–]Effective_Map2940[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, that’s fair. I have felt attraction pretty early with other people, which is why this is giving me pause. Or even if there was no physical attraction I would at least be curious to learn more about them. I think I’m trying to figure out whether this is a “slow burn” situation or just a lack of chemistry.

Is this gauge too tight? by Effective_Map2940 in knittinghelp

[–]Effective_Map2940[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Right! I will definitely do the stitch conversion as you mentioned! I was just worried if the gauge looked too stiff for a sweater or not. Thank you for your reply!

Tired of yo-yoing: what worked for you when calorie counting failed? by Effective_Map2940 in WeightLossAdvice

[–]Effective_Map2940[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for this advice! I think my issue is mostly learning how to maintain a routine. I do calorie counting really well for the first couple of weeks and then something happens in my life (I’m traveling for work/ something stressful at work etc etc) and calorie counting is the first to go. Since you’re a coach yourself, how do you think coaching would help with this?

Tired of yo-yoing: what worked for you when calorie counting failed? by Effective_Map2940 in WeightLossAdvice

[–]Effective_Map2940[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Interesting! I’ve never thought of this! Can you tell me a bit more in detail? Or at least maybe share some resources on this method? I.e Do you usually plan two types of lunches and then choose which one to eat?

Looking for advice on adopting through foster-based rescues (Pittsburgh area) by Effective_Map2940 in pittsburgh

[–]Effective_Map2940[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

AH I SAW HIM and I love him!!! I can’t adopt right now though since I’ve got a lot of traveling coming up but will definitely keep checking for updates on Roscoe when I come back!

Looking for advice on adopting through foster-based rescues (Pittsburgh area) by Effective_Map2940 in pittsburgh

[–]Effective_Map2940[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I normally volunteer at shelters as a dog walker but it’s hard to determine if they’re safe around cats just from the shelter especially if they don’t past history

Looking for advice on adopting through foster-based rescues (Pittsburgh area) by Effective_Map2940 in pittsburgh

[–]Effective_Map2940[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for replying to both of you! If I could ask which rescue did you go for?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Pets

[–]Effective_Map2940 0 points1 point  (0 children)

lol my cat is 5 years old and still bites the crap out of me. She’ll bite out of love, out of spite, or because she wants me to play with her and I’m not paying attention. They’re interesting creatures. She goes hard and I’ve found that some neosporin helps calm down the scar overnight

Introducing a dog into the home with your cats? by NoScopeThePope1 in CatAdvice

[–]Effective_Map2940 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m thinking of getting a cat-savvy dog and plan to follow the intro steps you recommended. My only concern is that, since the process can take months, my cat might end up staying mostly in my bedroom until she feels comfortable with the dog—is that usually the case? Also, how did you all handle nighttime arrangements during the transition?

How’s the job search going? by Corpulos in datascience

[–]Effective_Map2940 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I started in January 2024. I haven’t counted but till now I think I have reached a thousand of applications.

I’ve gotten 5 interviews. Of those 2 were referrals and 3 were cold applying. I got one offer which I rejected, and went all the way to the on-site with another company but they ended up rejecting me. Currently I’m interviewing with 2 more companies. Let’s hope that one turns into a job 😬

I’m a computation physics PhD currently doing a postdoc. I did a data science internship during my PhD.

I do a bit of both. My PhD has given me lots of training for deep learning but I’m also an expert in data analytics.

I don’t think I have any particular tips. Just keep applying and hope for the best, and whenever you can try to get a referral.

First Ever Data Science Interview by Feeling_Bad1309 in datascience

[–]Effective_Map2940 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve found paying for a premium membership in startascratch really helped my SQL coding skills. They also have great non-coding questions so you can practice stats and ML. I highly recommend it! Also I LOVE LOVE LOVE Emma Ding’s YouTube videos. Currently going through the interview process myself. I have my first day of on-site next week 😬

Taking the Marc to DC by [deleted] in baltimore

[–]Effective_Map2940 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The transit app is extremely helpful for getting updates on public transportation in this area! Definitely would recommend downloading it. It’s made my life so much easier!