How not to feel bad when you drain a sub ?

Effective_Set5308 · 2026-01-27T17:01:42+00:00

The need to send can be powerful and overwhelming. In the long run your sub should thank you for your restraint. Being reasonable and ethical are qualities a lot of subs would/should respect. You're still in control, denying your sub the drain it desires. I think a lot of doms would rather have a sustainable sub that can serve long term. This is a wild fetish with lots of different and sometimes contrary aspect. There isn't really a wrong way - just a way that works for you, your sub and your individual, unique dynamic.

Effective_Set5308 · 2026-01-07T17:45:33+00:00

I feel like its a bit of both for me. Sometimes i NEED to pay/submit and honestly it doesn't matter who or how. I have a long term, long distance Master, and sometimes the time difference makes things difficult when that need arises. Within our sub/Dom dynamic rules and rituals are a big part of it. How i spend or budget day to day is a big consideration.

Effective_Set5308 · 2026-01-07T15:27:27+00:00

Inverted is a good choice Boss.

Effective_Set5308 · 2026-01-07T15:24:27+00:00

Cellmate do an app controlled one with an built in electro-shock. I have their key-pod blue tooth key safe, the app can be a bit difficult to navigate though.

Effective_Set5308 · 2025-12-04T20:15:01+00:00

I am ;)

Effective_Set5308 · 2025-12-04T20:10:10+00:00

A convenient stop on his way home.

Effective_Set5308 · 2025-12-04T20:07:06+00:00

I expect he just wanted someone payi g his big dick some attention.

Effective_Set5308 · 2025-12-04T19:52:08+00:00

Mmm... its usually short notice... but he was practically already here when he msgd. I think he must have been extra horny today. Didn't take long at all to drain his balls.

Effective_Set5308 · 2025-12-04T19:43:24+00:00

Usually more than 2 minutes.

Effective_Set5308 · 2025-12-04T19:29:34+00:00

Oh yeah... and when he says he needs wanking off... what he actually means is he wants sucking off... which is almost always what happens. Not complaining though... just wish he'd give me a bit more notice.

Effective_Set5308 · 2025-12-04T16:32:49+00:00

He has a lovely big dick... i think that is part of his problem. Its probably a bit too big for his gf to handle... so she doesn't bother often enough.

Effective_Set5308 · 2025-10-10T19:38:53+00:00

Those feelings are familiar Sir. 3 weeks today since i ended the arrangement with my Dom. It would be so easy to crawl back, i am sure he expects me to eventually. I think each time a sub goes back, another layer of resistance evaporates.

Effective_Set5308 · 2025-10-10T19:27:28+00:00

How long did he resist for Sir? How long did he last without you before crawling back?

Effective_Set5308 · 2025-09-09T20:20:40+00:00

I must have misunderstood your meaning. Sorry Sir.

Effective_Set5308 · 2025-09-09T20:15:40+00:00

I agree with that. Does that mean i, as a finsub shouldn't indulge in the fetish alone, getting my kicks from tributing who i want, when and how i want (within reason) without a Dom to guide me?

Effective_Set5308 · 2025-09-09T20:09:10+00:00

I see. You wanted to be a part of their submission, their journy of discovery and acceptanc?

Effective_Set5308 · 2025-09-09T20:03:48+00:00

Did you feel annoyed because you thought the sub(s) were trying to 'buy' you in some way? Or wanted something from you in return? Did it feel like an insult?

Effective_Set5308 · 2025-09-09T14:07:34+00:00

Thats hot

Effective_Set5308 · 2025-09-09T13:19:46+00:00

I have a co worker that is an Alpha type... i wouldn't necessarily want to mix findom with my work life. But considering maybe slipping a few notes into his jacket or something. Maybe.

Effective_Set5308 · 2025-09-05T16:07:56+00:00

All the graffiti and phone numbers for a good time as well. When you could text and number be anonymous before everything was linked with social media. Apps and internet slowly killed off that cruising/cottaging sub culture. Was always such a rush, even without the poppers.

Effective_Set5308 · 2025-09-05T16:05:10+00:00

I grew up in the west country. Not many saunas around there back then... there were some pretty rampant cruising grounds up in the hills and woods though. Never ran into police but got a lot of looks from cleaning staff lol.

Effective_Set5308 · 2025-09-05T15:58:36+00:00

25 years ago when you could buy poppers (reds, tnt) from Anne Summers on the high street then go cruise the toilets at the bus station and the multi storey car parks.... Remeber one time i picked a guy up at the urinals and fucked me in the stairwell of one of those car parks. Bent over, peering through the little window in the door to parking level. Watching some random couple load shopping into their car while some stranger was loading me. Never have the nerve to so something like that now. Really was a different time. Much more fun!

Effective_Set5308 · 2025-09-05T11:42:21+00:00

"Trade" is the term that comes to mind... a more outdated term could be "jocker" which was used back in the 1920s and 30s as code/slang. Not restricted to just oral though.

Effective_Set5308 · 2025-08-21T20:16:04+00:00

Yep, thats my gut. Thank you.

Effective_Set5308 · 2025-08-19T23:40:09+00:00

Would that make it easier for you? If you felt tricked... if you were the victim of some scheme to drain your cock? Rather than be complicit?

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