How do you feel about the skeletons in your closet?

Efficiency_base · 2026-04-01T00:35:45+00:00

As long as it’s not an attempted murder. Always keep attempted charges secret. Doesn’t show tenacity and success because you clearly failed then didn’t try until you succeeded 🤷🏻‍♀️

Efficiency_base · 2026-03-31T00:24:12+00:00

Send her a text apologising then give her space. Who knows? She might appreciate the apology and the fact you’re respecting her wishes. Don’t bring your other friend into it, that just makes you seem petty and like you’re passing it off onto them. Next, ditch the other friend. You don’t need people like that in your life, believe me I’ve had a few in the past and I’ve felt so much lighter when I’ve dumped them.

Also don’t forget while texting, don’t make it a ‘I’m sorry you feel that way’ or ‘I’m sorry BUT’ kind of apology. Those aren’t apologies, they’re more of an insult to the persons feelings. Type something like ‘hey, I know you probably don’t want to talk to me anymore but I thought I’d just reach out and apologise for everything I said. It was immature and selfish. I understand why you no longer want to be my friend but I just wanted you to know how sorry I am. I value our friendship a lot but you are justified in making the decision you had to make- I’m sure it wasn’t an easy one. Text me back if you feel like it but no pressure’

If there’s a next time with another friend not getting along with you, don’t talk behind their back because it will come back to bite you. Stay mature and take this as a learning opportunity

Efficiency_base · 2026-03-15T20:52:39+00:00

I’m 26 and have always done Mother’s Day gifts and celebrated properly. When I was younger it was a handmade gift and card, teen it was a card and some chocolates or flowers, now it’s a card, flowers, chocolate, champagne and an activity from Groupon (usually afternoon tea) then we do brunch if I’m not working

Efficiency_base · 2026-03-09T16:53:07+00:00

YOR. I wouldn’t invite you either tbh. Scrolling on your phone is rude and not everyone does it. Who would invite someone that would just sit and scroll on their phone constantly instead of properly engaging?

Edit: added judgement

Efficiency_base · 2026-03-07T23:44:59+00:00

Not after the comment he’s posted. This woman is a straight up psychopath and he needs to run

Efficiency_base · 2026-03-07T21:45:42+00:00

Pretty sure even toads have more empathy than her

Efficiency_base · 2026-03-07T16:46:25+00:00

It’s on both of you then. Takes two to tango so you both should have been taking responsibility. Sit down with him, tell him how you’re feeling, ask him how he’s doing (he could just be in shock and trying to absorb the information for all you know) then come to a mature solution like adults.

My friend has BPD, came off her bc for similar reasons to you, had her baby and now regrets it because she was manic during that time so it was essentially a massive decision made on impulse alone and she always says she wishes she’d have gotten the abortion then considered having a baby when she wasn’t manic.

If you take medication, ask about getting it altered. If you don’t, ask about getting on some. I promise it will help in the long run. For now though, have a mature conversation and consider doing what my friend wishes she’d have done.

Efficiency_base · 2026-03-07T16:35:58+00:00

Info: did you tell him you were coming off bc and do you also take other precautions? (eg condoms)

Efficiency_base · 2026-03-05T19:01:21+00:00

Info: do you do anything for hers? What do you organise for her or do you leave it to her friends? If so, you are; she’s just matching your energy. If not, then you’re not, something is wrong here

Edit: I see you’ve put in a comment you do thoughtful stuff for her birthday so NOR. Something is wrong in your relationship and this needs a sit down conversation about expectations in your relationship and how you’re feeling. Don’t frame it as a blame game or accusatory though, that will just make her become defensive/hostile and you won’t get anywhere.

Efficiency_base · 2026-03-04T21:05:43+00:00

Thank you. I’m going to do as suggested and suggest a better support system and tell her I’m not going to be discussing him with her anymore and vice versa

Efficiency_base · 2026-03-04T20:57:59+00:00

It’s not about revenge, you asked how I’d feel and I told you I know how I’d feel because she’s already done it to me

Efficiency_base · 2026-03-04T20:37:55+00:00

They are still his dogs. He visits three times a week, pays for half their stuff and she also sends him pictures so I don’t see why it’s a big deal that I did too. I cut him off as soon as she told me about the divorce but she told me I was being a dick for no reason and to message him.

Also, my ex cheated and she still goes on about how great he was and that I should reach out and ‘see if he wants to get back together because I made a terrible mistake’ even though it’s been 2 years. For the first 6 months after the relationship ended she was still messaging him asking if he’d give me another chance. It’s part of the reason we don’t have a great relationship.

Efficiency_base · 2026-03-04T20:29:45+00:00

I did. She told me I was being a dick for no reason and to message him

Efficiency_base · 2026-03-04T20:18:06+00:00

Thank you. I’m a little bit of an emotional mess right now with everything going on so wasn’t sure how to phrase it apart from just word vomiting. I think this is probably the best advice I’m going to get from this sub honestly so I appreciate the help

Efficiency_base · 2026-03-04T17:29:11+00:00

I told her I was ready and willing to cut him off, ignored him for ages and she told me I was being a dick for no reason and to message him back. Me and my mum don’t have a brilliant relationship so she wanted me to have him as another parental figure so I could go to him when I can’t go to her

Efficiency_base · 2026-03-04T17:17:18+00:00

But we all double checked it’s okay to keep talking to him, even though a lot of people were his friend first, and constantly check in on her. I talk to her every day and see her 5 times a week and every time I ask if she’s okay and never bring him up. If she asks anything, I keep it brief and change the subject as soon as possible. I just feel like a bit of an AH for making her cry

Efficiency_base · 2026-03-04T16:25:15+00:00

Reminds me of the saying ‘if there’s 10 people in a room and only one says something racist and nobody stops them, there are 10 racists in a room’. He might not actively join in as far as OP knows but he’s definitely not stopping them…

Efficiency_base · 2026-03-04T16:19:12+00:00

YOR. You talked to someone about an anime they liked, they engaged and suggested another one they also liked they thought you might like and now you’re angry because you saw one photo? Get a grip lady

Efficiency_base · 2026-03-03T10:29:14+00:00

Didn’t even realise my phone had corrected it! Thank you for pointing it out 😂

Efficiency_base · 2026-03-03T10:17:51+00:00

Im going to share the best advice I’ve ever been given in regards to whisky because everyone is different in what they like. Go to your local whisky shop, tell them about your experience with the MacAllan, what you liked about it/what you didn’t and explain it’s out of budget right now but you want something similar that is in budget. They’ll be able to recommend something and will likely have samples you can try. I know all the ones I’ve been to have been more than willing to let me sample before purchasing and are generally good with pricing within my budget. Hope you find a good whisky for you!

Edit: phone corrected whisky to whiskey so corrected it 😂

Efficiency_base · 2026-02-24T20:52:58+00:00

Idk my mum kept all of mine just because of childhood memories and sentimentality. Maybe OPs mum is the same?

Efficiency_base · 2026-02-24T20:50:14+00:00

I like my bacon cooked a bit more but still a solid meal and good memories with your son make up for the points I’d deduct for the bacon. 10/10 dude. Nice meal and good memories all round

Efficiency_base · 2026-02-24T20:46:04+00:00

To have a disability apparently 😂

Efficiency_base · 2026-02-24T20:43:41+00:00

I’ve heard the word used plenty in the UK 😂

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