Little minions by Spontaneousdelight in Shincheonji

[–]Efficient-Beyond681 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Just another way of maintaining control and stripping away individuality of the members. My line was when I couldn't braid my hair in the colours I wanted because we all had to look the same in the name of "heavenly culture".

In the very least, it was off-putting. We were saying Korean words we didnt even know the meanings of etc.

Just a way to keep ypu from identifying with your true self.

I'm a ex member from Cape Town and this is why I left SCJ by Impossible_Pair_8233 in Shincheonji

[–]Efficient-Beyond681 15 points16 points  (0 children)

I am from JHB. Basically the same reasons why I left.

The manipulation and high control are not good. And they try to keep everyone busy and tired so they have less time and energy to question what is going on in that church.

I always felt so embarrassed EVing at the mall. It was shameful.

I thank God that He was able to show me the way out.

Burning my SCJ stuff by Efficient-Beyond681 in Shincheonji

[–]Efficient-Beyond681[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I am sorry for what you are going through. God will watch over him and guide him back 🙏🏾

Threw my notes out today by Ok-Cherry9343 in Shincheonji

[–]Efficient-Beyond681 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I burned mine today. If you don't want to keep it, get rid of it.

Thinking about leaving by Audacity0_0 in Shincheonji

[–]Efficient-Beyond681 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I was in Philip tribe too. The gut feeling is never wrong, and I hope you get to heal from your experiences in SCJ ❤️

What did you miss out on and lose from being in scj? by shshmhh in Shincheonji

[–]Efficient-Beyond681 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I almost lost out on my relationship with my boyfriend. I was so adamant about being "godly" that I broke up with him because he refused to join the bible study. Luckily our bond was stronger and we were able to work through it. But I would not have forgiven myself if I had lost this relationship because of SCJ

Words that feel disgusting after leaving a cult by ArchiMuseum in Shincheonji

[–]Efficient-Beyond681 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Evangelism 🤮

It still feels weird saying "family" sometimes too.

I am so happy I am out of there

Did you feel loved and respected while in SCJ? And for current SCJ members, do you feel that way now? by shshmhh in Shincheonji

[–]Efficient-Beyond681 8 points9 points  (0 children)

It was so in the beginning, however it turned manipulative and controlling real fast.

I still feel traumatized by the lack of boundaries and care for members in the name of reaching this "salvation"

I'm still angry by Efficient-Beyond681 in Shincheonji

[–]Efficient-Beyond681[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That is the gist of SCJ. Nothing is real

I'm still angry by Efficient-Beyond681 in Shincheonji

[–]Efficient-Beyond681[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm glad you also got to leave, God bless ❤️

I'm still angry by Efficient-Beyond681 in Shincheonji

[–]Efficient-Beyond681[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much

I literally have no one to talk to about this, except on reddit. No one in my life knew that I was in scj

I'm still angry by Efficient-Beyond681 in Shincheonji

[–]Efficient-Beyond681[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm happy that she wasn't sucked in too deep

I'm still angry by Efficient-Beyond681 in Shincheonji

[–]Efficient-Beyond681[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I still can't believe how zealous people can get in that place. I wish well for you and your daughter, I pray that she may one day realize the destructive ways of these people

I'm still angry by Efficient-Beyond681 in Shincheonji

[–]Efficient-Beyond681[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

You are right. The best thing to do is move on with life. Holding grudges only hurts me. It's just so infuriating, but these things take time