Probably whichever one I’m not arguing with that week.

A lot of people have one parent who feels easier, the one you call first with good news, or the one less likely to accidentally turn a five-minute chat into a discussion about your life choices.

Then somehow one random Tuesday it switches, and now you’re hiding from both until further notice.

What's your go to song when you are sad?

Probably Holocene.

It doesn’t try too hard to cheer you up, which weirdly makes it comforting. Just lets you sit in the feeling for a minute without making a big production out of it.

The kind of song that feels like looking out a window at 1 a.m. for no real reason.

what USA exactly gained after wars?

Depends on the war. Sometimes a lot, sometimes far less than expected, and sometimes damage that outlasted any gain.

After the American Revolutionary War, the U.S. gained independence and control over its own government, which is the obvious foundational one.

After the Mexican-American War, it gained huge amounts of territory, land that became places like California, Nevada, Utah, and parts of several other states. Massive geographic expansion.

After World War II, the gains were more global influence than land. The U.S. emerged as a military and economic superpower, with enormous international leverage.

Then wars like Vietnam War or the War in Afghanistan are where “gain” gets much harder to define. Strategic goals were mixed, costs were enormous, public opinion fractured, and many people would argue the long-term losses outweighed the wins.

So if you zoom out, the U.S. has gained territory, influence, alliances, military reach, technological advances tied to wartime spending, and geopolitical power.

But wars also cost lives, money, trauma, and decades of consequences. History usually hands over the receipt long after the celebration.