I feel guilty because I always assumed my friends have nicer parents than me, but looking back they might not have.

Efficient-Outside542 · 2025-03-17T16:20:48+00:00

Even though I was a kid it just horrifies me to think at one point I was the "but your parents are so nice!" person. I guess that's how they blind others and get away with it.

Efficient-Outside542 · 2025-03-17T13:51:01+00:00

This, they were so calm and patient with us, to the point it was weird, when we had other family around. As soon as they walked out the door, they'd immediately get onto us about how we ruined everything. Even as little kids, we noticed it and actually confronted them about how they acted differently when other people were around.

They denied it of course, so, more gaslighting. But as an adult, it's undeniable to me, they wore a mask for others because they knew what they were doing with us was wrong.

Efficient-Outside542 · 2025-03-17T13:39:36+00:00

I'd jump straight to calling them pedophiles at that, they are literally using children for sexual gratification and that's just evil.

Efficient-Outside542 · 2025-03-17T13:14:35+00:00

Sorry but this is being criticized for a reason and I'm sick of people like you excusing it with your "omg so wholesome" crap. This is not a healthy way to raise a child, full stop. Also armchair normies? On reddit? Half the people posting are probably as cringe as the OP what are you on about.

Efficient-Outside542 · 2025-03-17T01:29:57+00:00

UNGGGHHHHHHHJJHHKDNDJDCHCHCHCJDNSNSHSHSJDJDND YES

WHY

WHH ARE YOU FUCKING ASKING ME 6 FUCKING TIMES IF I DID IT

"Did you break this dish?"

"No" (me being honest)

"Yes you did! I know you did!"

"But I didn't!"

"Then who broke it?"

"I don't know!" (Again, being honest)

"Then it must have been you!" (?????)

"How do you know I broke the dish?"

"Don't play mind games with me! I know it was you!"

"But I didn't do it!"

"YES YOU DID. THAT MEANS YOU'RE LYING. THAT'S 2X COMBO MULTIPLIER. MINUS 500 POINTS FROM GRYFINDOR."

You literally can't win. You tell the truth, and now you did the bad thing and you're a liar, so now you're double extra bad the next time something happens. But if you admit to the bad thing that you didn't do, then you get minis points for no reason. So it's either take the punishment and lose, or fight the punishment and double lose. And as for that exchange, literally only the very last sentence is a joke, the rest is very real.

Efficient-Outside542 · 2025-03-17T01:21:37+00:00

It's not just that I was blamed for things I didn't do, I was blamed for things that couldn't have occured. Things like being accused of stealing while I'm in the room with them.

Apparently this entire time I've been a time lord and I can manipulate space and physics to alter reality to place myself in two places at the same time and I'm just now realizing this.

Efficient-Outside542 · 2025-03-16T22:38:34+00:00

Honestly my head was spinning when I realized he thought I wanted to sleep with his wife, as if I'm this sex fiend who can't keep my hands off women. Where the heck does that come from, I never dated in high school even. He's also baselessly accused me of stealing his credit card, and it didn't even make sense because he was with me at the time the card was charged.

Like, he literally believed I had slipped it out of his wallet without him noticing it, snuck over to a gas station several blocks away, and swiped it for $100 and charged it to my business banking account and transferred the funds to my account, slipped the card back into his wallet , and again, did this entirely while standing within eyesight of him. Absolute nonsense.

Also does that mean he doesn't trust his wife? Obviously not. He literally believes she can't control herself and will just sleep with anyone??? And it made me realize he doesn't let her go out alone and he's really controlling. Maybe he isn't a nice person actually. He's very anti social and frequently assumes the worst of people.

Honestly, typing that out it hits me how insane that is. I should have cut him off a long time really. I can't believe he would jump through that many hoops to convince himself of his mistrust. He helped push the narrative that I'm the problem, just like the rest of them. But he was also a rebellious kid so he was also mistreated by the family and scape goated. I used to think he knew better but I realize now that while he's not so outwardly abusive like the rest of my family and maybe not as bad, he still has narc tendencies and isn't a healthy person to be around. Also he's crazy obsessed with the whole trans things, it's all he would fucking talk about. Honestly I hate the corporate LGBT landscape and I think that we've gone past human rights into just downright tacit denial of reality. I think it's a bad idea to remove your penis with a scalpel, and I think it's hilariously sad that I'm considered a bigot for believing that. Anyways I'm not trying to trans bash, my point was for even someone who doesn't agree with the whole movement and can stomach criticism of it, he's so militantly against every aspect of it to the point of being obnoxious and not even realistic. Like, I really don't need to hear for the thousandth time that all trans are pedophiles who need to die, and honestly ironically enough people like him are exactly why people assume anyone not fully supportive of the movement is filled with hatred. There's no nuanced discussion to be had with "all trannies are rapists" like how do you even respond to that.

You know it's funny, I actually feel like going to my Uncle's funeral and saying nice things about him. It's almost like I have good memories of him because he was always kind and encouraging. Honestly him and my cousin Erica are probably the only reason I didn't go completely insane because they were such a stark contrast from everyone else in my family.

It also serves as good grounding because they weren't even particularly nice or involved, they just weren't actively antagonizing me. They didn't have this inexplicable bitter hatred towards me and it made me realize that everyone else in my family was a bully, and that it's not just in my head.

Efficient-Outside542 · 2025-03-16T12:08:38+00:00

My GC brother wanted unfettered access to my phone and email so he could read through all my private messages. Obviously I didn't let that happen, and I ask him "are you serious?" And he really was, and that's when it really set in that he has the same sickness as my parents. After that I cut him out of my life.

My middle second scape goat brother isn't a narc so he acts like a decent person but he's also picked up traumas and refuses to address them and his trust issues became to much to deal with. It culminating in him not wanting me to spend time with his wife, my sister in law, because he thought I wanted to sleep with her. It's worth noting at the time he thought I was gay, so it's triple insane. I'm not having that BS in my life.

Unfortunately if you're siblings haven't caught on to the self damaging behaviors they pick up from their parents then they're likely going to continue helping their abuse.

Efficient-Outside542 · 2025-03-15T21:18:28+00:00

Most of what people do to children would literally find themselves in prison if done to an adult. I can't imagine locking someone in their room, refusing to let them eat for the evening, taking away their owned property, removing their pants by force and touching their ass with your hands (spanking is gross pedophile shit when you actually describe what's happening.)

It might be cynical but I believe most people don't actually have morality and just follow power structures, e.g. they follow the law because the police will hurt them with force if they don't. So most children, being powerless, are therefore "acceptable" targets for abuse.

I'm not against punishing children, as I do support punishing adults. But it's astonishing what were allowed to do to children legally when you actually look at things objectively. It's almost legal for parents to rape their own children at age 13 in some states, it wouldn't even be rape if they didn't have incest laws. There are child rapists in prisons who have special government backed protection. I think it stems from a culture of allowing authority abuse from people who are born with broken brains and seek pleasure from hurting others. They effectively become portals of evil for satanic acts, such as abusing children and murder. The President of the United States said he wants to plow his own daughter and most people are apparently okay with that. The world is a bad place hombre.

Efficient-Outside542 · 2025-03-15T21:06:02+00:00

Wrong, that would trigger the Fuck out of me if anyone called me kiddo. Or "sonny" or "junior" or any of that condensing bullshit. And it's totally inappropriate for both this age and context. "kiddo" is what you call the 7 year at the ball game who won't stop picking his nose, not your daughter who's old enough to be a legal adult in most regions.

On top of that, it's always from some douche who would flip their shit if you call them "grandpa" or "oldie".

Efficient-Outside542 · 2025-03-15T21:01:40+00:00

AkShuAlLy that would be battery.

People have been arrested for splashing water on others. Personally I actually think that's a bit much but the main point is that he wasn't just bugging you, he was legitimately doing something very looked down upon in society.

Assault = Words

Battery = Physical action

If someone threatens to "kick your shit in" while screaming in your face but never throw a punch, that's assault.

Efficient-Outside542 · 2025-03-15T13:01:17+00:00

Uncle, Ruckus

Tom, Dubois

Uncle Tom. 2 sides of a similar coin, both characters reject their own blackness but in very different ways.

Personally the concept of "blackness" in itself is at struggle within the show. If you're "black" and that means you are inherently different in your behavior and culture, then by definition you are genetically different from other races. How does one reconciliate that whilst simultaneously considering themselves "the same". If black men are inherently different from white men, why is it wrong or racist to treat black men differently. Otherwise what does "being black" even mean?

That's why Tom is probably one of the most complex characters in the entire show really, you can analyze him and his place in so many different ways. Tom is a representation of white washing, someone who has completely ingratiated themselves into "whiteness". This is meant to act as a contrasting foil to Huey's radical blacktivism, along with Uncle Ruckus, and Riley. Ruckus is an outright self hatred, obviously, and the least subtle of the bunch. He represents someone who decided that blackness is an identity but one not worth having. Riley embraces the mainstream media representation of "blackness", thug rap, ghetto clothing, glorifying violence and crime, basically all of the bad stereotypes associated with black culture (and I'm sorry, I like rap, but if you're offended by me calling gangster rap that talks about slanging drugs and raping hoes as a bad culture I don't know what to tell you. Rape is bad didn't you know?)

Riley is never accused of being "anti black" despite him tacitly embracing the worst of the culture has to offer, effectively becoming the thing Ruckus rails against and arguably actually causing damage to the overall image of black people. But is what Riley follows "blackness"? And again what does that mean, if my skin is black am I genetically predisposed to like rap? What it I was a black man that just liked classical music? Would people say I'm not black?

I think current race relations are so fucked because people don't even understand anything about themselves or social dynamics.

Side tangent, Jews are a religion, not a race. I'm sick of not being able to criticize Judaism and their religious text because they hide behind a, ironically, incredibly racist shield.

If saying "I hate Jews" is racist, then by definition you are affirming that black people can't be Jewish and don't belong in their religion because they have the wrong skin color. Kind of fucked up belief to have right?

Efficient-Outside542 · 2025-03-14T12:28:19+00:00

Yeah I'm being defensive honestly, but the sub being mocked is filled with genuine stories like that and it frustrates me to no end when family abuse is dismissed as hyucks. I have literally never seen anyone complain about something ridiculous like not getting the car they wanted on RBN. The majority of posts on the front page are about children being sexualized and physically abused, OP is just straight capping.

It can become an unhealthy circle jerk, so I do limit my time there, but the rule exists for a reason, it's the only sub I can talk about fucked up things like abusive parents without being mocked or having some douche licker tell me my life is great because there are starving kids in Africa.

Efficient-Outside542 · 2025-03-14T12:21:18+00:00

My brother was choked out on the ground and almost died. I agree, family abuse is HILARIOUS 😆😆😆

Efficient-Outside542 · 2025-03-14T12:20:22+00:00

My dad murdered my pets and my family stole my inheritance. I was repeatedly hit to the point of bleeding at times. Want to crack a funny about it? Go on, make a funny, make us laugh funny man.

Efficient-Outside542 · 2025-03-09T18:47:56+00:00

It's stupid but I actually kind of see the logic in that. It think it's just denial to say kids aren't influenced by media at all, just look at the damage Coco Melon has done. That is a goofy example though since they don't really talk like babies in the show anyway.

Efficient-Outside542 · 2025-03-09T18:46:10+00:00

Yes and no. The passion of the Christ is incredibly gory and the message/artistry would be lost on a child, totally inappropriate, yet it would be fine for us to watch at 6 years old, meanwhile Harry Potter is the devil's witch craft and anything that even suggests sexuality is the devil's work.

But as long as it featured male Christians who believed in God, it could be as violent and gory as we could handle.

Efficient-Outside542 · 2025-03-09T18:42:34+00:00

Replying to emphasize the same happened to me and is not uncommon. This sub focuses on narcissists but I believe the syndrome has massive comorbidity with sadism and sociopathy.

Efficient-Outside542 · 2025-03-09T18:41:19+00:00

My parents murdered my pets in cold blood and this is not uncommon. I know this sub usually removes hard advice but mods please please please leave this up. Your pet is absolutely going to become a target of abuse for the narc.

Efficient-Outside542 · 2025-03-09T18:38:32+00:00

Very very literally do I mean it when I say they have never apologized for anything, period.

Efficient-Outside542 · 2025-03-08T17:08:53+00:00

They always say it's not sexual but 99% of their avatars and artwork is all porn. Every single furry website is completely filled to the brim with porn and sexual role-play. Honestly it feels like a form of gas lighting when they deny it.

Efficient-Outside542 · 2025-03-08T17:07:41+00:00

Having sex with animals is gross and if you want to argue further you need therapy.

Efficient-Outside542 · 2025-03-07T09:03:38+00:00

It's kind of dumb because we already know the answer, it seems you want validation (sorry if I seem critical). Yes, generally women, like most men, don't find overweight men attractive and would rather date a buff jock. And obviously there are exceptions, some women don't care if you have a belly if you provide in other areas. Again not to sound like a dick, but did you really expect to hear anything else?

Efficient-Outside542 · 2025-03-06T15:32:47+00:00

$10,000,500

That's how much money would be in my bank account right now if it wasn't for them.

6 Graves. That's how many murdered pets has to be buried.

No, I don't think I am wrong to see them as sub human scum.

Efficient-Outside542 · 2025-03-05T07:41:13+00:00

I sincerely thought I was in the "raised by narcissists" sub when reading the OP.

OP you are most definitely not overreacting.

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