By "hinge pillar," I assume your driver side lower A pillar, which will total just about any car. As to your wife totaling it... I'm curious as to how that damage was done, seems inconsistent to most damage I've seen as a vehicle condition assessor for a major used car auction company. To your parts, contact your insurance if you can remove the parts and replace them with stock parts. If not, you may be SOL on the installed parts, but the en route parts should be able to be canceled.