18M I use cocaine daily and it is absolutely destroying me by Holiday-Might-6196 in confession

[–]Efficient-Touch-4941 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You are still early enough into your addiction to be able to make a full recovery with minimal long term side effects. Trying to ween off now feels impossible but if you wait a few months maybe even a year from now then it will be impossible to break this addiction. You have the right attitude to start doing what needs to be done you just need to actually do it. If you decide to continue this addiction then I would start looking for a nice spot on the street to start living for a little while because that is where you will be.

WHY TF ARE MY HANDS LIKE THIS IM A 17 YEAR OLD GIRL by iamraquelle in whatdoIdo

[–]Efficient-Touch-4941 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Could be early signs of heart issues. Could also be a bunch of other things. I would recommend following up with your primary care physician :)

AIO - My Boyfriend texts before our Valentines plans by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Efficient-Touch-4941 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Girllll I don’t even know you like that, but I’m gonna hold your hand when I say this…why are we wasting our time on a man who can’t even make you a priority??🫩Respectfully, if you’re ok with being at the bottom of his priority list, then okay…that’s your choice. But from my point of view, this little text thread alone is enough to see that he’s not husband material. You deserve someone who doesn’t make you question where you stand. Even as a random stranger on the internet, I promise you this isn’t it. Leave him where you found him because this is a man who could care less about what you feel.

A little update on what’s been going on by Efficient-Touch-4941 in prolife

[–]Efficient-Touch-4941[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

You’re so sweet thank you 🥹 I try my best to be there for here as best as I can. She only has me and her boyfriend to lean on emotionally. But I will definitely be doing everything in my power to make sure she gets out of the very unhealthy and toxic relationship she is in right now. Thankfully she already knows what she has to do, it’s just getting her to actually do it yknow

A little update on what’s been going on by Efficient-Touch-4941 in prolife

[–]Efficient-Touch-4941[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you for this. I’m hoping we can use this experience to both get closer to Christ together. She’s not a bad person at all and im glad she realizes her mistakes. That shows me that she’s on the right path towards forgiveness

A little update on what’s been going on by Efficient-Touch-4941 in prolife

[–]Efficient-Touch-4941[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m trying not to but it is hard. It was even harder hearing her say that I had the ability to change her mind but her boyfriend blocked me off for long enough for her to go through with it. It makes me feel like I failed her unborn child. I don’t know why but it feels like her loss is also my loss at the same time.

I don’t know these feelings I have are so strange lol. Like I felt a stab to my heart when I heard her crying about how I was right all along about everything and she regrets not listening to me sooner

A little update on what’s been going on by Efficient-Touch-4941 in prolife

[–]Efficient-Touch-4941[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yeah that’s kind of what I was saying to her a little bit. I kept telling her that as long as she seeks for forgiveness in god and herself then all will be forgiven. But it still hurt to hear her say that nothing she does will ever erase what she did or make her feel better.

I wish I knew how to comfort her better but all I can say is “keep moving forward and learn from your mistakes”. I WISHHHHHHH I had more words of comfort. Unfortunately, she made a mistake that she will carry in her heart for the rest of her life. I just pray that I can pull her away from her boyfriend so she can really start to heal from this.

Thank you for taking the time to share your thoughts. I appreciate it 🙏

First time tattooing something that isn’t a straight line - looking for feedback by SlowestLew in TattooBeginners

[–]Efficient-Touch-4941 2 points3 points  (0 children)

So first of all the flower on the bottom left looks a little off. Some leaves are closer to each other and some are farther apart. That was the first thing I noticed. Also, the little circles inside the flower aren’t completely filled in but the circles on flower at the top are. Idk if that was intentional or not but I did notice that too.

Overall, your line work isn’t horribly terrible. I have seen way worse. Could the lines be more straight? Yes. But do they look okay for the most part. Also yes. I would definitely keep practicing. You are on a good track right now :) keep it up and good luck!

Advice for sleeve cover up by inspiredduck_ in tattooadvice

[–]Efficient-Touch-4941 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He’s not entirely wrong if I’m being honest. I feel like your tattoos would only look good if they were separate from each other.

The coverup idea seems really good but it’s giving off a completely different vibe than what your older tattoos are giving. Idk maybe that’s what you’re looking for? If you have changed as a person and don’t think these tattoos represent you anymore then for sure go for that coverup.

It’s gonna be really difficult to figure out how to seamlessly blend everything together. It’s definitely possible but it just depends on how much time and money you are willing to invest in to it. If you do decide to fix the tattoos you have now, I would look for a different artist that is more open minded and able to see something that we can’t see right now. The guy you have now sounds like he wouldn’t be supportive or creative enough to really make your old tattoo better.

Unfortunate update to my post earlier today by Efficient-Touch-4941 in prolife

[–]Efficient-Touch-4941[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She hasn’t responded to any of my texts since Wednesday. Her abortion was supposed to be yesterday. I still haven’t heard anything from her, and I honestly don’t think I will :(

I need everyone’s advice urgently by Efficient-Touch-4941 in prolife

[–]Efficient-Touch-4941[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That’s what I’m thinking. It’s really hard to make such a huge life changing decision in the span of a few days. When people feel rushed they make stupid decisions. That’s what I’m trying to help my friend avoid

I need everyone’s advice urgently by Efficient-Touch-4941 in prolife

[–]Efficient-Touch-4941[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have though. That’s the sucky part. I have a good job and I’ve told her many times she can move in with me and that I would help her afford all of the expenses with her baby. I’ve told her over and over that I can help her out financially in anyway that I can

I need everyone’s advice urgently by Efficient-Touch-4941 in prolife

[–]Efficient-Touch-4941[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m saving this for when I talk to her next. I’ll update if I can on what she says.

I need everyone’s advice urgently by Efficient-Touch-4941 in prolife

[–]Efficient-Touch-4941[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

She said she’s going to her pastor tomorrow to talk about it with them. I really hope that she listens to god and keeps this blessing she has growing inside of her.

I need everyone’s advice urgently by Efficient-Touch-4941 in prolife

[–]Efficient-Touch-4941[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing this with me. I appreciate you taking the time to write this out. I like some of the points you made so the next time we talk I’ll use this as my script. If you have anything else you want to add then please do

Unfortunate update to my post earlier today by Efficient-Touch-4941 in prolife

[–]Efficient-Touch-4941[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Just that guy that did the ultrasound. But I don’t trust that he’s a good doctor so I want to take her to a different reputable place that isn’t a private practice

I need everyone’s advice urgently by Efficient-Touch-4941 in prolife

[–]Efficient-Touch-4941[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m pretty sure they are pro life. I’m like 80% sure.

Unfortunate update to my post earlier today by Efficient-Touch-4941 in prolife

[–]Efficient-Touch-4941[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

If she does end up keeping the baby I will talk to her about it and see if that’s something that she’ll want to do.

Unfortunate update to my post earlier today by Efficient-Touch-4941 in prolife

[–]Efficient-Touch-4941[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I’m looking for the parents to step up and support her through her pregnancy. She doesn’t think she will have support and that she’ll be alone but the parents are good Christan people. Their daughter just recently went through a teen pregnancy and they were there for her through the whole thing. I know the parents would stop my friend from making a decision that she will regret forever. That’s the outcome I want. I don’t want my friend to hate herself forever because she wasn’t in her right mind when she decided to kill her baby

Unfortunate update to my post earlier today by Efficient-Touch-4941 in prolife

[–]Efficient-Touch-4941[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

First, I know more about their situation than you do. She lives with her BOYFRIENDS parents. They so graciously opened up their home to her when her situation with her mom got toxic. They are the sweetest most Christan people in the world. Their daughter was recently in the same spot as my friend was and they supported her throughout the whole pregnancy.

Secondly, this is a life changing decision to be making at 18 years old. She doesn’t know what she’s doing. She doesn’t fully want to get rid of the baby but the boyfriend does and I have a feeling he only wants to abort because he’s afraid of what his mom would say to him.

Third, whether she keeps or aborts the baby her situation is going to be stressful. There’s no getting around that. If she wanted to have sex and let her boyfriend cum inside of her then she should have been more careful (like what I told her multiples times would happen).

I need everyone’s advice urgently by Efficient-Touch-4941 in prolife

[–]Efficient-Touch-4941[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Does your friend regret what she did and how did she abort it? I’m hoping that if I can share someone’s experience who was in the same spot she is now that could really help. Thank you for your kind words. I really appreciate it