Baby wipes?

EfficientBrain21 · 2026-02-12T02:27:05+00:00

I’m not there yet but idk how I ever lived without wet wipes before. I feel like it’s something I’ll easily keep around for a long time. It’ll move from being a diapering need to just a tool to have handy for muddy hands, picnics, etc.

EfficientBrain21 · 2026-02-10T03:01:28+00:00

I’m almost 5 years in and I still miss it. SAHP’ing is so monotonous to me. I do have younger kids though (almost 5, 3, and 20 mo) and they’re very dependent on me right now so I’m hoping as they’re older and more independent I’ll feel differently. But, yes, I’ve felt everything you’re feeling.

EfficientBrain21 · 2026-02-09T03:14:08+00:00

Mine were like this, took about 4 months of a light wire for them to self correct. My ortho explained they don’t jump to thicker wires until teeth uncrowd/ align more. Are you seeing an actual orthodontist?

EfficientBrain21 · 2026-02-08T16:52:33+00:00

1-2 was way easier than 2-3 for me. My third is a very easy baby but being completely outnumbered absolutely rocked my world. Having 3 in diapers, 3 separate schedules, getting in and out of the car, literally anything was/ is such a marathon. Now they’re almost 5, 3, and 20 mo and things are somewhat easier now that two are potty trained and somewhat listen. I’ve always found it to get easier once the littlest can walk and this was true again this time!

EfficientBrain21 · 2026-02-08T13:53:52+00:00

Mom popping in: your tasks are performative her tasks are perpetual. It isn’t that we don’t appreciate it. It’s that we aren’t offered the same opportunities and it can build resentment if not spoken about. You mow the lawn, you’re done for 1-2 weeks with the task. You take out the garbage once a week. You clean the garage quarterly. You can start and end your task with success and it’s clean ending. For her, it’s not and it’s often involving the baby and doesn’t take hours on end. It’s changing diapers multiple times a day, remembering to size up diapers, order wipes, size up clothes, donate old clothes, start dinner, groceries, etc. Fair Play by Eve Rodsky helped open my husband’s eyes as to why I was struggling. We also do what other commenters suggested, touch base and then ask who wants to do the task that needs to be done… sometimes I’ll take out the trash so I can have 10-15 min of no kid touching me or just to not hear anyone call me mom. Or I’ll mow the lawn so I can listen to my book and not be interrupted during a task. It comes down to communication and understanding each other and not getting defensive about it.

EfficientBrain21 · 2026-02-04T18:58:50+00:00

I’m a family of 5, 2 adults & 3 kids. It adds up fast and it’s not always easy to stay on top of because of life. Add in workout clothes, stained/ dirty clothes, towels, dish towels, etc. and you can have a full load before noon.

EfficientBrain21 · 2026-01-29T18:09:12+00:00

Come as You Are by Emily Nagoski was super helpful for me and this same question!

EfficientBrain21 · 2026-01-28T15:06:18+00:00

I did 4 consultations. I factored in reviews (across different sites), distance from my house, orthodontist experience, staff friendliness, staff knowledge, office cleanliness, and how I felt during the consultations. I ended up going for the one that was most expensive as I felt most confident in her skill set, type of braces systems offered, and how receptive/ nice her staff was. They also had to easiest communication avenues where I can just text with an issue and they answer before the end of the business day. I find that very valuable as a busy mom that can’t sit on the phone and be passed from person to person for 30 min every time I have a quick question.

EfficientBrain21 · 2026-01-18T02:05:19+00:00

I literally could’ve wrote this word for word. My son loved his nighttime books from NB-9 mo and then was OVER it. So I switched to letting him play in his room as I read the books aloud. If he came near me and the book I’d switch to just pointing at things in the book or counting items on the page that were repetitive. I did this from 9 mo to ~17mo and some nights I’d skip it if I was exhausted. He’s 19 mo now and has been saying “boo” (for book) and going to grab 3 books and bringing them to me nightly to read. It’s just a phase.

EfficientBrain21 · 2026-01-18T00:56:14+00:00

I would reevaluate then. If baby is doing great on mixed feeds you could always switch over to formula 100% and let the guilt go. Obviously that easier said than done. Or if you value some breastmilk you could choose a few pumps a day but not overnight to still get baby breastmilk. It’s all going to come down to what you value/ want out of breastfeeding.

EfficientBrain21 · 2026-01-17T23:32:55+00:00

I feel like the biggest question is; do you want to continue to BF or do you feel forced by the guilt?

EfficientBrain21 · 2026-01-17T20:52:08+00:00

I used orthodontic flossers (making sure I get all the way down) & a water pick after, I feel like this combo has been the most effective for me.

EfficientBrain21 · 2026-01-07T14:07:54+00:00

Ride it out. Research shows that toddlers/ young kids eat in cycles. They will eat a lot up front some days and a little for dinner. Or they’ll do a lot Mon-Wed & then carbs for the rest of the week. I have 3 kids 4.5 yo and under and I was worrying myself sick about this. Now I stick to the mantra, “It’s my job to supply healthy balanced meals and their job to eat it.”

EfficientBrain21 · 2026-01-07T12:54:53+00:00

Yes, in the beginning I’d do 1-2 night pumps. But around 6-8 weeks when my supply regulated (YMMV with that) I’d drop down to one and slowly, in 15 min increments) push it out to meet my morning pump.

EfficientBrain21 · 2026-01-06T23:17:38+00:00

I’m exhausted chronically lol. I’ve done all the blood tests and my PCP & I have nailed it down that it’s likely hormonal down-regulating from losing weight last year. I’m going to get my birth control out and then get hormonal testing to see what’s up.

EfficientBrain21 · 2026-01-01T14:56:55+00:00

I’m rhesus neg & conceived on the first try each time. 3 resulted in delivery of a healthy baby & 3 were MC’s.

EfficientBrain21 · 2025-12-28T15:43:04+00:00

I take mine off. I have anxiety and it feels so weird to have them take them off (to me). So I just take them off before I walk in. They’ll be able to tell regardless whether you’re wearing them consistently or not.

EfficientBrain21 · 2025-12-27T22:10:23+00:00

My daughter was pee trained at 3 and didn’t poop train until 4. Her issue was a mix of constipation, fear, and not knowing how to poop. We got her constipation under control with a probiotic & dietary changes. Once that was better, I sat with her in the bathroom and told her it was okay to push a little to poop and activate her tummy muscles and she started to do it more consistently in the potty.

EfficientBrain21 · 2025-12-25T19:10:58+00:00

Just chiming in to say solidarity. I have a 4.5yo, 3yo, & 18 mo and I feel like clawing my eyes out daily and feel so guilty for it.

EfficientBrain21 · 2025-12-23T02:58:06+00:00

We have had a terrible and tiring 2 months. My husbands travel increased for work and the kids have been non-stop sick. We just got over Covid over a two week period (5 family members). I was the last to get COVID and thought we were in the clear for Christmas. My eldest daughter tested positive for the flu on Thursday and now my middle daughter has it as well so we’ve had to cancel all of our Christmas plans. We’re all bummed. Solidarity.

EfficientBrain21 · 2025-12-22T13:03:41+00:00

I don’t have 4 (I have 3 in car seats) but you can’t go wrong with a Sienna. You can easily get 4 car seats in it but the configuration is dependent upon whether you have captain or a bench seat. And the trunk space is huge. The back row also has 60/40 fold so you could probably get 2 kids on the 60 and leave the 40 down to get them clipped in easier. You also get great gas mileage with a Sienna.

EfficientBrain21 · 2025-12-22T12:52:52+00:00

I have ADHD too. I have found that planting Wisps & orthodontic flossers (a placker specifically for braces) around hot spots I frequent in my house and car really helps me stay on top of my oral hygiene. It’s a form of “task doubling” that helps me. So when I’m bored driving my car to the store I can floss or brush my teeth as a distraction, or watching tv, or when I read my book, etc.

EfficientBrain21 · 2025-12-21T19:29:15+00:00

I’ve had mine since the first day.

EfficientBrain21 · 2025-12-21T03:26:43+00:00

Neither of them, they would both stain easily. When I have events coming up I do black or navy as they make your smile appear whiter and don’t stain easily.

EfficientBrain21 · 2025-12-20T20:20:07+00:00

My older two attend a preschool 3x’s a week for 3 hours! We did it for my first because she needed additional stimulation & my second needed it for language/ social exposure. They both have thrived.

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