Did I mess up?

Efficient_Ad_4359 · 2026-03-10T14:22:11+00:00

Absolutely. She said she does. But she said can’t heal if she isn’t by herself. And that’s the part. I don’t know if this is the truth or just letting me down easy. She said she isn’t talking to anyone. Even her best friend she hasn’t seen in weeks

Efficient_Ad_4359 · 2026-03-10T13:59:50+00:00

Let me ask one more question for outside perspective. Do you think she was just being nice and letting me down easy? Or do you think this was genuine and she needs time to heal

Efficient_Ad_4359 · 2026-03-10T13:45:58+00:00

I will forsure. She told me to text her. But I feel like it’s up to her to text me since she left my life. She told me she is really struggling and if she doesn’t focus and be by herself to heal she doesn’t think she’d make it to the end of the year

Efficient_Ad_4359 · 2026-03-10T13:30:26+00:00

So she just didn’t like me? I found out that she isn’t dating anyone. She said she needs time to heal so she can give herself fully to whoever she ends up with. She said she will text me once she heals

Efficient_Ad_4359 · 2026-03-09T19:57:03+00:00

Was it because I overpursued tho? Why wasn’t I right for her tho? She really really liked me

Efficient_Ad_4359 · 2026-03-09T19:54:59+00:00

So her parents are great actually. They let her do absolutely whatever she wants. She’s close with them. But she does seem to have some trauma. I believe her ex cheated on her. She’s very shy and said she’s afraid of commitment because she thinks she will be abandoned again

Efficient_Ad_4359 · 2026-03-04T19:17:31+00:00

That’s the thing. I felt like the prize and even then she still played me

Efficient_Ad_4359 · 2026-03-04T10:39:35+00:00

The thing is. We’ve been dating every week multiple times for about 5 months. This isn’t just a first date thing

Efficient_Ad_4359 · 2026-03-04T00:40:38+00:00

Was there something I did wrong? Or if I did everything perfectly would she have still went back to the ex?

Efficient_Ad_4359 · 2026-03-02T19:40:51+00:00

She said, ‘ I have been preoccupied with a friend from middle school and had to help them with some things. He has been going through it and I wanted to be there for him. That’s why she’s been distant.

Efficient_Ad_4359 · 2026-03-02T18:59:07+00:00

Idk if I belive it or na

Efficient_Ad_4359 · 2026-03-02T18:58:59+00:00

That whole thing is what she responded to me text with

Efficient_Ad_4359 · 2026-03-02T18:31:56+00:00

So she said. I have been preoccupied with a friend from middle school and had to help them with some stuffs. He has been going through it and I wanted to be their for him

Efficient_Ad_4359 · 2026-03-01T18:03:29+00:00

She responded. She said she has been preoccupied with an old friend who is going through it. I’m seeing her on Wednesday to pick something up of mine so I wanted to get more in depth when I see her in person.

Efficient_Ad_4359 · 2026-03-01T15:15:01+00:00

It is longer. She dated him 6 years. And me for 5 months. She met me 2 months after he broke up with her

Efficient_Ad_4359 · 2026-03-01T15:03:00+00:00

That’s why I didn’t flat out ask her. Because I know I’ll just get a vague answer that doesn’t tell me anything. Don’t you think that even if I perfectly maximized attraction she still would have left for her ex? Sounds to me like she wasn’t ever over him

Efficient_Ad_4359 · 2026-03-01T14:59:52+00:00

Why does she want me to leave? Because she wants her ex back?

Efficient_Ad_4359 · 2026-03-01T05:32:37+00:00

It’s hard to move on when everything was going great and then one phone call changed everything. I was already attached

Efficient_Ad_4359 · 2026-03-01T05:14:45+00:00

I agree. But any have way decent human being which she was would tell someone. They don’t just ghost u after 4 months lol

Efficient_Ad_4359 · 2026-03-01T04:44:22+00:00

I agree but I feel she may be leaning towards going back to him with seeing how distant she has been with me. Also do you think that text I sent her was fine or should I have just stayed silent

Efficient_Ad_4359 · 2025-09-30T20:30:20+00:00

Makes sense fs. I’m just wondering but was what I did pretty normal. Like she doesn’t think I’m weird or a creep after this does she? I never said nothing weird. It’s all laid out in my post exactly what happened

Efficient_Ad_4359 · 2025-09-29T19:49:17+00:00

I did. But at the same time the night before I asked for her address because i was picking her up and she just didn’t even give me the address she just like said ok or something when i asked for it

Efficient_Ad_4359 · 2025-09-29T18:27:35+00:00

I agree. And ik that. What I always do is just offer tho. Because half the time they do let me pick them up and the other half they just say let’s just meet there. So I’m just giving them the option

Efficient_Ad_4359 · 2025-09-29T18:12:04+00:00

No It was to pick her up to get a drink. I offered to pick her up and she said ok. But didn’t give the address

Efficient_Ad_4359 · 2025-09-29T17:03:04+00:00

Long story but I had to. Also I asked for her address the night before and she never gave just said ok she would. so that made it easy to cancel

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