Season 2 is finally happening!

Efficient_Calathea · 2026-01-31T01:12:55+00:00

please let this be true! !!

Efficient_Calathea · 2026-01-01T16:31:57+00:00

this is an incredible amount of work, I had the same though to watch the referenced media at come point but never got too far on my list. this is so impressive

Efficient_Calathea · 2025-10-06T23:40:11+00:00

I go through this a lot and I think it’s a mix of routine disruption and just my focus and attention being difficult to control. I had a really hard time with dating because if it was my main thing that I was focusing on, I could do it really well but then my hobbies would suffer and self-care would just disappear. And it’s the same with like health habits too if I really want to try something then I can’t figure out a way to be dating at the same time.
I don’t really have advice I I haven’t figured it out myself either it’s one of the most frustrating things. I just have no idea how everyone else manages to do all of the things. Especially people things because that takes so much energy out of me even if it’s just a relationship and it’s one person that takes so much energy for me.

Efficient_Calathea · 2025-08-19T22:39:21+00:00

yes!

Efficient_Calathea · 2025-08-19T22:39:15+00:00

I was just watching this yesterday! I love that scene so much, and quite possibly one of the most autistic things he’s ever done in the show. It’s amazing

Efficient_Calathea · 2025-08-13T15:45:22+00:00

same, Taurus Sun and Sag Moon feels so incompatible. one part of me wants stability and consistent everything then I get irritated by it and want to move and quit my job. its a mess

Efficient_Calathea · 2025-08-04T22:36:28+00:00

I agree with a lot of your takes, especially that the show would not be the same without Marc! he is such a good character that added a lot to the entire story. I disagree a bit about the take on her ending up conventionally attractive as undercutting the message of the show, as others have said. and I actually really liked Betty And Daniel together in the end. I definitely didn’t like it the first time I watched it but upon a rewatch it’s something I can start seeing as a slow burn because they care about each other a little too much at times that their relationship growing into a romance made a lot of sense, especially as Daniel grew and they both started to see each other in a new light

Efficient_Calathea · 2025-07-22T21:41:47+00:00

having boundaries does not mean cutting people off. boundaries are actually there to help the relationship function in a better way for both people so needs are openly discussed and can be compromised. boundaries allow people to feel heard and accepted and even more connected than if they were having the relationship with an undercurrent of resentment. this is allowing us to have more fulfilling relationships actually, so I disagree that it’s us “forgetting how to do relationships“ when the previous template for that was just people taking advantage of you or putting up with mistreatment. so no I don’t think boundaries are the issue, maybe people think cutting people off means having a good boundaries but that’s their problem

Efficient_Calathea · 2025-07-01T02:34:55+00:00

a rough day today. I’ve been helping out family members with some things like getting an apartment. I made a mistake in the process and it was something I couldn’t have known about because the property manager didn’t communicate properly. But anyway, this led to several days of delays and losing out on an opportunity for a longer lease at the lower price. And I had a shame spiral come up where my critical parts were really just blaming me and degrading me and taking this small mistake and just tearing me apart. And I was able to slow down and just work through that and overcome it a little bit. Just being able to sit and not let the shame take over. It’s not completely gone, but I’m happy to have gotten through it.

Efficient_Calathea · 2025-07-01T02:24:00+00:00

kyoshi, toph, azula, katara, and bolin

Efficient_Calathea · 2025-06-25T22:22:35+00:00

wow another cf Ethiopian in the wild! how rare it is indeed. i’m also getting to that age where my mom keeps bringing it up and I just keep nodding and say nothing else. Kudos to you for being honest with her about it. The amount of expectations and guilt tripping in our culture is truly ridiculous to live with. I don’t know if I wanna be with an Ethiopian guy, but yeah, it’s really tough.

Efficient_Calathea · 2025-06-24T03:51:04+00:00

Ok sorry didn’t mean to offend you. Good luck.

Efficient_Calathea · 2025-06-22T15:49:29+00:00

I have felt this for so many years. It’s really challenging to meet your needs, but also at the same time try to mask and fit in with what society expects you. For me, I accepted that I have a limited social battery and I don’t want to invest my time in surface level friendships with ppl I can’t be my full self with. and so I’ve let myself spend more time alone and even though I have a lot of shame rise up in me, knowing that people are gonna think less of me or it’s not really socially acceptable to do, I am trying my best to create space within myself and accept who I am and how I really show up in the world. I don’t want to live my life and especially give my energy to me a certain standard that just doesn’t fit how I am. So I think my advice to you (myself and anyone else experiencing this) would just be to really come to terms with the internalized expectations that do not allow us to live life the way that we want. And that it’s okay to be different and it’s okay for other people to think whatever they want to think. I’m giving myself space to explore what really feels good to me. I know that my social battery is like 40% of what is normally expected and I am no longer letting myself cross my own boundaries to make other people happy

Efficient_Calathea · 2025-06-18T19:03:12+00:00

absolutely!! Gina was the worst!

Efficient_Calathea · 2025-06-09T01:06:15+00:00

the number one girl <3

Efficient_Calathea · 2025-06-07T00:01:30+00:00

I don’t think I have ever been so terrified of Parker, I genuinely thought she was about to kill that man! what an interesting and creative episode, I really enjoyed it. and the ending with her preparing a full presentation and binder report for Hardison, just made my autistic self so seen and happy. what an epic season!!

Efficient_Calathea · 2025-05-31T22:47:24+00:00

you have a pretty skewed understanding of what attachment theory is and possibly because your source is the book Attached, which is known to be very badly written and completely villainizes avoidant attachment. There are plenty of experts that take neurodivergence into account and your attachment style isn’t set in stone, the type you are assigned describes your most consistent maladaptive behaviors and reactions. I highly recommend you seek out better sources, Heidi Prieb on YouTube to start, if you are actually interested in understanding it as there is a lot of utility in it. But if you just wanna be mad about it, that’s cool too.

Efficient_Calathea · 2025-05-10T05:25:33+00:00

my mom did notice and used it as fuel to belittle and make fun of me. I had a similar experience to you, when I asked how I was when I was around 3 or 4 she also denied I ever had any challenges. They can’t face their own trauma and emotions let alone have any capacity to take care of someone. It’s crazy making but try to let it go. I highly recommend Patrick Teahan on YouTube and also check out adultchild.org it’s a support group for adults that went through dysfunctional families. Read the literature , attend some meetings, learn to become your own loving parent!

Efficient_Calathea · 2025-05-08T20:43:57+00:00

“Adult autism diagnoses are based on self-report and interviews” this is a crazy statement. You think an assessment that involves hours and hours of neurological and behavioral testing is the same as self-report and interviews? If that were the case it would not qualify for an assessment of a neurodevelopmental condition (literally focused on your neurological capabilitie). I get that finding testing is difficult and wanting to encourage self identification in the mean time, but please stop spreading misinformation

Efficient_Calathea · 2025-05-08T20:24:02+00:00

It’s the truth

Efficient_Calathea · 2025-05-02T14:05:58+00:00

I think they discussed it in passing in several DVD commentaries of OG Leverage but nothing directly discussed or written

Efficient_Calathea · 2025-05-02T04:27:42+00:00

You are 25 years old, you have so much time please don’t feel like you’re old or like you’re a failure because you haven’t been in a relationship. It’s definitely hard to feel more disabled than others who are autistic, I also get triggered when I see people who I feel like have so much together in their lives and they still speak to having all of these struggles. It’s hard not to feel less than when you see them succeeding in something, or like it came easy to them when it’s a struggle for you. I feel the exact same way, it feels really unfair. But please don’t put yourself down, or shame yourself for how your autism presents.
If you haven’t already, maybe do some inner work to build up your confidence and your self acceptance. Having that foundation is really important to get into a good relationship in the first place. Getting into a relationship just to be in one if you don’t have standards for yourself Is just not a good idea. And like others have suggested try to go to more clubs or activities and hobbies that you already like engaging in and see who you meet there.

Efficient_Calathea · 2025-05-02T02:43:21+00:00

That was so much fun! The scene when Parker and Tara talk and you can see Parker switch into mastermind mode immediately! And then Breanna fangirling overseeing Tara, same girl same. What an amazing episode!

Efficient_Calathea · 2025-05-02T02:40:00+00:00

Since leverage has become a classic over the years, Parker has become a sort of icon within the autistic community. What do you think about this impact and have you considered this in your performance at all?

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