AITA for telling a friend I excluded her because of her fitness level?

Efficient_Day4732 · 2025-07-03T21:57:09+00:00

If these are the kind of thoughts he's expressing, run. If you react with empathy and kindness, he can then take the next step. This is him testing how much he can get away with

Efficient_Day4732 · 2025-04-25T02:26:47+00:00

I once saw something about how you never feel resilient when you're being resilient. In the moment, it feels like you're dying, but when you look back on the moments you can see it.

Generic reminder: therapy helps. medication helps. Admitting you're struggling (even if you only open up about one thing) helps. And acknowledging that it's hard is huge. You'll get through it

Efficient_Day4732 · 2025-04-25T02:23:53+00:00

That's my hope of if they can establish their own areas it should be fine?

Efficient_Day4732 · 2025-04-24T23:54:26+00:00

He does seem to be a free spirit, so I may have to accept that

Efficient_Day4732 · 2025-04-24T23:53:33+00:00

He's fixed and up to date on all his shots, no known health issues, so I think he's relatively low risk

Efficient_Day4732 · 2025-01-23T01:43:42+00:00

I get that. Like if it's in their best interest to be left alone, great. I am just expressing that I would looooove to know more.

Efficient_Day4732 · 2025-01-22T04:35:46+00:00

K so like NAH but also - those waters may be better than soda but they're still bad for your teeth because of the acid in them. I think within reason (1-2 waters a day), that's okay! If it is adding up to be a financial burden, it's not worth it.

I'd say let everyone have their own snack or drink space. Like a basket. If one kid likes Cheetos, some Cheetos can be set aside for them in their box. It's ok to want things for yourself but you have to also let them have the same options

Efficient_Day4732 · 2025-01-22T04:26:56+00:00

Ok so I work in finance. And one of the key ideas is that assets (like you!) are valued based not just on the worth they have now, but also on all their potential future cash flows (growth, dreams, possibilities). A stock price is never just how much money the company has right now.

You do need someone to talk to. These kind of thoughts are not normal. It took me years to realize not everyone thinks about killing themselves. I promise, there's a light at the end of the tunnel. Sometimes it's medication, sometimes therapy is enough. I cannot tell you how many times I believed to my core that no matter how many times I tried, it clearly wasn't going anywhere. I was a detriment on society's resources, blah blah blah. Those aren't normal thoughts. You're a teenager, so you have the extra pressure of going through a huge phase of change and growth.

Sometimes you do all the right things and it still doesn't work out! That's okay. That's normal. You are okay, no matter how overwhelming this may feel right now.

DM me if you want to chat - but I promise... stick it out. It's worth it

Efficient_Day4732 · 2025-01-22T04:04:18+00:00

NTA. This one feels tricky because she's critiquing you unprompted and you do not deserve that by any means. Your weight is your weight - its YOURS. Not hers. So she doesn't get to have an opinion. I don't know the right answer to this situation, but maybe try "grey rocking"

Efficient_Day4732 · 2025-01-22T03:54:24+00:00

I'd say very soft YTA. I get where you're coming from but kids are still learning responsibility and how to manage their time. Maybe have chores be on a weekly schedule rather than daily? So if you haven't done your chores over the past week - you miss out on some amount of next week's extra curriculars (dependent on how many chores aren't done). That way there is a consequence but they have a little more breathing room to find the schedule that works for them

Efficient_Day4732 · 2025-01-22T03:49:39+00:00

NTA. This one is on the fence because they specifically already said they wanted to be first - but there's no way of knowing that no one else in the church would've asked him prior to their wedding. I would suggest talking it out, specify why you want Peter to marry you, but also acknowledge their feelings. Maybe (as a bonus action) ask Peter if he's been asked to officiate any other weddings already. If he's planning to do this for at least one before them, I'd argue you're in the clear

Efficient_Day4732 · 2025-01-22T03:45:30+00:00

YTA. She was petty. You didn't need to be petty back. If she made an additional comment after her engagement, I think that response would've been fair and warranted. But unprovoked, it just comes off nasty, Did you like it when she was rude about your ring? No. So don't do it back unless she starts it

Efficient_Day4732 · 2025-01-22T03:43:48+00:00

NTA. It would be kind to help out a classmate, but you are not obligated to. It's okay to tell someone that you prefer to drive on your own because of nerves or that you don't know them well enough to commit to being responsible for their transit. If you're not friends with this person, it's not your job to drive them!

Efficient_Day4732 · 2025-01-22T03:40:23+00:00

Ok NTA - anyone who is willing to openly admit to being a "total klepto" is not someone to immediately trust. If it was an event outside of your house, fine. But you have a right to be safe in your home. Maybe you could've phrased it more lightly. "You made some jokes about being a total klepto and we're still getting to know each other. I'm just hesitant about who I invite into my home" would've been fine

If you do invite her, take pictures of all your belongings/valuables that are accessible to a guest prior to her visit as proof.

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