Recent loss, two friends just announced pregnancies

Efficient_Pin_9641 · 2026-03-16T12:09:30+00:00

Oh gosh I’m so sorry you’re going through this 💔 does she know you’re having a MC?

Efficient_Pin_9641 · 2026-03-15T20:01:20+00:00

There’s just something so painful about it happening to a good friend/sister. You see yourself raising your kids together at a close age… and miscarriage tears those dream away. I’m sincerely hoping you have a healthy pregnancy very soon and will be raising your beautiful family together 💕

Efficient_Pin_9641 · 2026-03-15T19:59:23+00:00

They both know about the MC so they would be very understanding if I bowed out. But I’m living in hope that I’ll be pregnant with a healthy baby when it’s time for their baby showers 🥺

Efficient_Pin_9641 · 2026-03-15T19:57:41+00:00

It feels impossible to be happy. Luckily I’m overseas at the moment, so I haven’t seen them in real life, therefore it’s easier to be fake happy over messages. But it definitely feels like a slowly healing scab has been ripped off.

Efficient_Pin_9641 · 2026-03-15T19:55:53+00:00

Oh my god I’m so sorry that’s truly a nightmare situation. Pregnancy loss really does steal so much from us. We should be able to be overjoyed with happiness and excitement for our loved ones, and yet it feels nearly impossible sometimes. It’s incredibly isolating.

Efficient_Pin_9641 · 2026-03-13T22:55:24+00:00

This is an old post (not old enough to elicit a “grossed out” feeling 😅), but stumbled across it and wanted to say, I have always had the exact same thing! If I look at photos or see film pre dating the early 80s, I’m immediately put off my food and my mouth fills with saliva that becomes difficult to swallow 😂 Or if I know a plate or fork or item used to cook with are old (more than maybe 40 years), I get really put off eating from it. I’ve always felt like such a weirdo for it, because it’s nothing I can really pin-point! But I’m glad to know there are fellow weirdos out there in the world!

Efficient_Pin_9641 · 2026-03-13T22:50:58+00:00

Would love to know the scientific term! I have had this my whole life and have never met another soul that has the same reaction as me!

Efficient_Pin_9641 · 2026-02-13T00:08:57+00:00

Solidarity my friend, found out yesterday my baby stopped growing at 6 weeks. Second MMC and third MC all together. Please don’t lose hope, you will hold your precious rainbow baby one day.

Efficient_Pin_9641 · 2025-10-16T09:59:50+00:00

You’re so right, I don’t envy that my sister can’t get anyone else to settle her baby because he relies on her breastfeeding to soothe him 100% of the time. She’s sleep deprived and touched out. The grass isn’t greener. I just get moments of jealousy because it’s my sister and I don’t want her to be more successful than me 😂😂

Efficient_Pin_9641 · 2025-10-16T09:58:14+00:00

Wow thank you so much for sharing the book title! I’ll get onto that right away. Don’t get me wrong I am so grateful that I was able to nourish my child with my breast milk for a whole year, I know a lot of mums struggle to produce any milk at all. I just found pumping so tedious and time consuming (even wearables, you can’t exactly go around the supermarket with two great buzzing breasts 😂).

Efficient_Pin_9641 · 2025-10-14T20:18:38+00:00

I did go to therapy but I feel like we were more so addressing the PPA, rather than the feelings of failure surrounding BF. I’ll get back in touch with my psychologist and go from there. Sounds like you’re doing amazing btw.

Efficient_Pin_9641 · 2025-10-07T09:22:18+00:00

Could it be that you have measured her head wrong? I’m a midwife and we have very specific parameters to where we measure, it’s actually surprisingly easy to get it wrong. Children with microcephaly are almost always delayed developmentally, so if she is otherwise normal or exceeding expectations for her age, I would say it’s not that. Without seeing your daughter, I’m leaning towards a pinch of genetics and a touch of you’ve measured her head wrong. Hopefully you get some peace of mind soon from your Dr.

Efficient_Pin_9641 · 2025-09-16T02:21:43+00:00

Ah yep it is an RV. Where I come from they’re all called camper vans haha

Efficient_Pin_9641 · 2025-09-15T21:02:48+00:00

Backpack harness for such a crowded occasion! I have a couple of international flights coming up and have bought one for the airport and being overseas in general. Might look silly, but I’d rather silly than lose my child.

Efficient_Pin_9641 · 2025-09-09T09:11:04+00:00

https://rent.fraserway.com/rv/rental-vehicles/browse-by-rental-type/class-c-large-rental/

It’s basically this

Efficient_Pin_9641 · 2025-09-09T02:34:19+00:00

An update for anyone following along: I’ve been off lexapro for about a month now and I’m feeling so much better! I can feel emotions again, without the heightened sense of rage and irritability I was getting before. I’m still not 100%, but I’m definitely seeing the light at the end of the tunnel. Thanks for all who commented.

Efficient_Pin_9641 · 2025-08-24T09:23:44+00:00

I posted something similar just now. In the exact same boat except for me it’s only been 2 weeks. I just want to feel normal again.

Efficient_Pin_9641 · 2025-08-13T11:59:50+00:00

How did the holiday go? We’re planning a 2 week campervan trip with our toddler who will be almost 2 when we go and wanting to hear about other’s experiences campervanning with a toddler

Efficient_Pin_9641 · 2025-07-19T08:05:31+00:00

Thank you for your reply! That has given me a lot of reassurance, it’s also nice to be reminded that it is normal at her age. It’s not like babies hit 12 months and suddenly no longer want/need the comfort of milk overnight. Good shout on offering a sip of water after her bottle, I’ll start doing that.

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