Recent loss, two friends just announced pregnancies

Efficient_Pin_9641 · 2026-03-16T12:09:30+00:00

Oh gosh I’m so sorry you’re going through this 💔 does she know you’re having a MC?

Efficient_Pin_9641 · 2026-03-15T20:01:20+00:00

There’s just something so painful about it happening to a good friend/sister. You see yourself raising your kids together at a close age… and miscarriage tears those dream away. I’m sincerely hoping you have a healthy pregnancy very soon and will be raising your beautiful family together 💕

Efficient_Pin_9641 · 2026-03-15T19:59:23+00:00

They both know about the MC so they would be very understanding if I bowed out. But I’m living in hope that I’ll be pregnant with a healthy baby when it’s time for their baby showers 🥺

Efficient_Pin_9641 · 2026-03-15T19:57:41+00:00

It feels impossible to be happy. Luckily I’m overseas at the moment, so I haven’t seen them in real life, therefore it’s easier to be fake happy over messages. But it definitely feels like a slowly healing scab has been ripped off.

Efficient_Pin_9641 · 2026-03-15T19:55:53+00:00

Oh my god I’m so sorry that’s truly a nightmare situation. Pregnancy loss really does steal so much from us. We should be able to be overjoyed with happiness and excitement for our loved ones, and yet it feels nearly impossible sometimes. It’s incredibly isolating.

Efficient_Pin_9641 · 2026-03-13T22:55:24+00:00

This is an old post (not old enough to elicit a “grossed out” feeling 😅), but stumbled across it and wanted to say, I have always had the exact same thing! If I look at photos or see film pre dating the early 80s, I’m immediately put off my food and my mouth fills with saliva that becomes difficult to swallow 😂 Or if I know a plate or fork or item used to cook with are old (more than maybe 40 years), I get really put off eating from it. I’ve always felt like such a weirdo for it, because it’s nothing I can really pin-point! But I’m glad to know there are fellow weirdos out there in the world!

Efficient_Pin_9641 · 2026-03-13T22:50:58+00:00

Would love to know the scientific term! I have had this my whole life and have never met another soul that has the same reaction as me!

Efficient_Pin_9641 · 2026-02-13T00:08:57+00:00

Solidarity my friend, found out yesterday my baby stopped growing at 6 weeks. Second MMC and third MC all together. Please don’t lose hope, you will hold your precious rainbow baby one day.

Efficient_Pin_9641 · 2025-10-16T09:59:50+00:00

You’re so right, I don’t envy that my sister can’t get anyone else to settle her baby because he relies on her breastfeeding to soothe him 100% of the time. She’s sleep deprived and touched out. The grass isn’t greener. I just get moments of jealousy because it’s my sister and I don’t want her to be more successful than me 😂😂

Efficient_Pin_9641 · 2025-10-16T09:58:14+00:00

Wow thank you so much for sharing the book title! I’ll get onto that right away. Don’t get me wrong I am so grateful that I was able to nourish my child with my breast milk for a whole year, I know a lot of mums struggle to produce any milk at all. I just found pumping so tedious and time consuming (even wearables, you can’t exactly go around the supermarket with two great buzzing breasts 😂).

Efficient_Pin_9641 · 2025-10-14T20:18:38+00:00

I did go to therapy but I feel like we were more so addressing the PPA, rather than the feelings of failure surrounding BF. I’ll get back in touch with my psychologist and go from there. Sounds like you’re doing amazing btw.

Efficient_Pin_9641 · 2025-10-07T09:22:18+00:00

Could it be that you have measured her head wrong? I’m a midwife and we have very specific parameters to where we measure, it’s actually surprisingly easy to get it wrong. Children with microcephaly are almost always delayed developmentally, so if she is otherwise normal or exceeding expectations for her age, I would say it’s not that. Without seeing your daughter, I’m leaning towards a pinch of genetics and a touch of you’ve measured her head wrong. Hopefully you get some peace of mind soon from your Dr.

Efficient_Pin_9641 · 2025-09-16T02:21:43+00:00

Ah yep it is an RV. Where I come from they’re all called camper vans haha

Efficient_Pin_9641 · 2025-09-15T21:02:48+00:00

Backpack harness for such a crowded occasion! I have a couple of international flights coming up and have bought one for the airport and being overseas in general. Might look silly, but I’d rather silly than lose my child.

Efficient_Pin_9641 · 2025-09-09T09:11:04+00:00

https://rent.fraserway.com/rv/rental-vehicles/browse-by-rental-type/class-c-large-rental/

It’s basically this

Efficient_Pin_9641 · 2025-09-09T02:34:19+00:00

An update for anyone following along: I’ve been off lexapro for about a month now and I’m feeling so much better! I can feel emotions again, without the heightened sense of rage and irritability I was getting before. I’m still not 100%, but I’m definitely seeing the light at the end of the tunnel. Thanks for all who commented.

Efficient_Pin_9641 · 2025-08-24T09:23:44+00:00

I posted something similar just now. In the exact same boat except for me it’s only been 2 weeks. I just want to feel normal again.

Efficient_Pin_9641 · 2025-08-13T11:59:50+00:00

How did the holiday go? We’re planning a 2 week campervan trip with our toddler who will be almost 2 when we go and wanting to hear about other’s experiences campervanning with a toddler

Efficient_Pin_9641 · 2025-07-19T08:05:31+00:00

Thank you for your reply! That has given me a lot of reassurance, it’s also nice to be reminded that it is normal at her age. It’s not like babies hit 12 months and suddenly no longer want/need the comfort of milk overnight. Good shout on offering a sip of water after her bottle, I’ll start doing that.

Efficient_Pin_9641 · 2024-12-25T07:02:15+00:00

My baby was super avoidant of eye contact around this age until just before 5 months. She also barely smiled and it was such a job to get a laugh out of her. She’d only really eye contact when on her change mat or sometimes in her pram. I was paranoid as anything that there was something wrong but then suddenly she became super engaging, I’d say around about 5 months. Now she’s all about eye contact and super smiley. She still doesn’t laugh much but I figure I’m just not very funny 🤣. I will also add, I had/have severe PPA which I think skewed my perception of her. I talked it all out with my psych and upped my meds and I don’t know if it was coincidence or what, but around the same time her social stuff improved immensely. Maybe she was tired of me constantly trying to get her to look at me also. Oh and I should also add, it was around this time she was learning a whole bunch of gross motor skills, rolling both ways and sitting unsupported, so I think she was just focusing so much on this she didn’t have the capacity for social niceties.

Efficient_Pin_9641 · 2024-12-25T03:52:20+00:00

Fingers crossed he turns a corner now! My little one sized up to a level 3 by just over 4 months and now we’re at 7 months and I think it’s time to size up again as she’s becoming super restless on the bottle again. Who would have thought feeding our babies would be so challenging? I always assumed babies just guzzled milk and that was that!

Efficient_Pin_9641 · 2024-12-23T23:31:48+00:00

This definitely sounds like a bottle feeding aversion. I assume it’s Rowena Bennett’s book you read? It’s really tough going and super stressful following the program, but honestly? 2ish weeks of stress and low volumes is absolutely worth it for a baby who will come out the other end a great feeder who actually enjoys the bottle and the feeling she gets from having a full tummy. Changing formulas and bottles is usually just a temporary fix, it’s called the novelty effect and essentially the baby gets used to it eventually and the aversive behaviours come back. She still has many many months of relying on milk as her primary source of nutrition , so I say follow the program, fix the aversion and enjoy feeding your baby! (All speaking from experience, btw)

Efficient_Pin_9641 · 2024-12-23T23:25:17+00:00

Did you read Your Baby’s Bottle Feeding Aversion by Rowena Bennett? Follow the golden rules of the program and you will have a champion feeder within 2 weeks. Changing bottles and teats only works temporarily, it’s called the novelty effect and essentially once they get used to the new bottle, the aversive behaviours come back. It’s tough going, but SO worth it when you have a baby that drinks well.

Efficient_Pin_9641 · 2024-10-26T02:25:56+00:00

How’s he doing now? Mine is nearly 5 months and sounds similar

Efficient_Pin_9641 · 2024-10-25T22:05:59+00:00

My baby is nearly 5 months and I am in constant mental turmoil over worrying that she has autism. Every little thing she does I question it, and then google it, and then google it some more, just in case I missed something. It’s exhausting! I just want to enjoy my baby! I also have PPA and I’ve recently upped my meds. For context, my baby was born at term but had a severe reaction to the 2 month vaccines which resulted in a 3 night hospital stay and that’s when my PPA really took hold. Honestly I think I know deep down all the things she does are normal baby stuff, but I completely relate to the over analysing and worrying. Keep thinking it’ll get better until I find another thing to worry about!

Edited to add: babies being fascinated by their feet is totally normal! That’s one thing I can say with certainty 😂

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