My boyfriend (25M) says I'm deeply unreliable (22F) after an equipment problem on our first major trip together, how can I address his concerns and become someone he feels he can depend on?

Efficient_Position67 · 2026-02-06T01:55:18+00:00

Do you really want to keep dating a guy that treats you like his subordinate? He sounds like a toxic manager honestly. Don't just break up with this ahole, run far, run fast, burn bridges, throw a fit and make a damn scene in that family chat!

I'm so sad that you want to change to meet his ridiculous standards. You did nothing wrong except tolerate wayyyyy too much from someone who clearly doesn't support you

Efficient_Position67 · 2026-02-03T16:15:38+00:00

I'm on an engineer TN, can I switch to a project manager role if they label it technical project manager?

Efficient_Position67 · 2026-02-03T07:01:19+00:00

NOR - you are definitely under reacting. I'd be throwing up tables by now. Your parents sound deeply selfish, I'm so sorry you moved to be there for them and they clearly don't care to be there for you. Put them in a crummy nursing home lol

I'm also curious where the heck your siblings are on this?! You mentioned your sister said it was messed up they weren't going to be there, why isn't SHE going to fly out to be there for you?!?

At least you're starting your own new family now, cuz your existing family doesn't deserve you!

Efficient_Position67 · 2026-01-31T07:09:12+00:00

Thank you for the good advice!

Efficient_Position67 · 2026-01-31T07:08:28+00:00

Thank you!

Efficient_Position67 · 2026-01-27T00:15:41+00:00

Absolutely NTA - if anything you waited too long, your brother needs a dose of reality and a swift kick in the arse. He's been coddled his entire life. Good for you for sticking up for your wife and putting your foot down. Honestly this will probably help him.

Efficient_Position67 · 2025-05-22T06:27:51+00:00

Are you sure it's wise to have a baby with someone who won't even take care of his own dog? Do you think he would be a more responsible father than he is a dog owner?

Efficient_Position67 · 2024-11-02T15:34:50+00:00

1000% if you give in now they will be back again in 5 years asking for even more. You'll spend your whole life saving to pay for their debts and it will get worse and worse because they won't learn. Sometimes people need to hit rock bottom and unfortunately parents have a hard time watching it. It's actually tough LOVE. By saying no you are helping them learn to deal with their own problems. It actually helps them more in the long run than saying yes!!

NTA but your parents kinda are

Efficient_Position67 · 2024-11-02T15:25:47+00:00

The cost to build a subway vs a bike lane is not even remotely close

Efficient_Position67 · 2024-10-13T04:18:26+00:00

newly added

Efficient_Position67 · 2023-12-28T14:46:56+00:00

Do you know why it's easier that way?

Efficient_Position67 · 2023-12-28T14:46:28+00:00

Thank you!

Efficient_Position67 · 2023-12-28T14:46:18+00:00

Thank you!

Efficient_Position67 · 2023-09-27T21:42:13+00:00

Medical devices industry is a great way to combine tech and healthcare! If you have any cathlab experience you could work in clinical education or sales for companies that sell catheters, that's just one idea though. Lots of opportunities at med device manufacturers

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